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cutting
hi im 15 and i started cutting a while ago and ive tried different things to stop.. i have stooped for a while now but im afraid ill start again... can you help me figure out a way to stop for good? thanks bunches =)
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it may be hard to tell people without them getting worried. so, put a rubberband around your wrist and everytime you feel the need to cut yourself, pull the rubberband back and snap it on your wrist. it's an easier way to relieve stress.
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Gather a support group.
Your friends, your family. Surround yourself with people that you trust and love. Tell them that you have stopped and are afraid of starting again and would want their help and support in stopping this habit.
Honestly, that is one of the best things to help you get through a difficult time like this.
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stargirl
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From there:
1. Tell someone you trust about your feelings. When you feel like cutting yourself confide in a teacher, school counselor, parent, friend, relative, etc... will do just fine. If they don't know about your current struggle tell them about it and tell them you need their help to keep yourself from cutting again.
2. Talk to this person whenever you have the urge to cut. Some persons experience that a school counselor is a good choice to help with your cutting.
3. Keep a hotline number with you at all times. When you feel the urge to cut, pick up the phone and call the hotline. Crisis hotline staff are trained to provide support and offer you alternatives to cutting yourself.
4. Remember that to a professional crisis clinician it is clear that it is not their job to "talk you out of" cutting yourself - you make your own choices, and you must take responsibility for either cutting or not cutting.
5. Remove cutting tools from your immediate area. If you have to take the time to look for something with which to cut yourself, you may find you have just given yourself enough time to deal with the impulse. Also keep sharp objects away from you.
6. Identify the 'trigger' that gives you the urge to cut. The moment you have the urge to cut, stop and think of what has just occurred. Remember it and try to avoid these situations!
7. Try to create another outlet. Walk away, eat ice cream, take a shower or bubble bath, go out for a jog, go for a swim, call a friend for coffee at the local coffeehouse but do not cut.
8. Understand that as soon as you feel the urge to cut yourself, take a deep breath, fold your arms, close your eyes and relax. Tell yourself that you are not going to cut. If possible, lie down somewhere. Stay like this until the urge goes, then quickly phone a helpline or use another means of getting help.
9. Find other ways to vent. Cutting is a way to release some type of pain or frustration. Try painting, writing about your feelings, singing, dancing, playing an instrument, or playing a sport.
10. "Hurt" yourself with no scars.Wear a rubber band on your wrist at all times and when you feel the urge to cut, snap yourself.
11. Screaming at the top of your lungs helps. Try virtually anything you can (as long as it's legal and healthy) to stop the urge to cut.
12. Release the pain without cutting by using your voice. Talk to someone--a doctor, teacher, friends, your parents if you can. You will be surprised how relieved you will feel after you talk about it.
13. Speak out loud about what is causing you so much pain. Talk about it - even to yourself, in the privacy of your bedroom: even yelling to yourself to release the tension inside of you - but do not cut or hurt yourself at all.
14. Help yourself by imagining how you are able to be like a best friend. As if a friend was just about to cut herself, what would you say to stop your good friend?
15. Recognize that cutting is just the symptom of a root problem. Now you are ready to seek and get help.
I wish you the very best of luck =].
--Jack
(16/m)
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