hey i am going out with this girl and like its great and all...but theres this other girl...and she's really been on my mind....like at night instead of thinking of my girlfriend i think of this girl...she's amazing and i know because i've been talking to her and i've really gotten to know her...so what the hell do i do?
well its not really fair to your girlfriend for you to do that. so if your seriously thinking about getting with this other girl, break it up with your girlfriend now, she doesnt deserve to not know the truth
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hey, ok so ive always had a best friend & always turned to her for help & everything but then when other people are withh us it feels like im the "odd one outt" or the "3rd wheel" anyway i try to have a good time but sometimes its hardd when you feel left out -thanks for the help!
ana:
well i mean if you can trust her and you know she will always be there for you, dont let yourself become the third wheel you know. i know its alot easier said then done, but right now thats just about all you can do is try to have fun, pput yourself out there and try talking to the other people yall are hanging out with :]
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ok so i like this guy but he thinks i am going to give him oral sex and i keep telling him no because well i just dont like him like that and he keeps touching me i've told my sister and she yelled at him...my brother told me to slap him but he keeps calling me and he keeps well asking me will you will you what should i do???
ana: DONT GIVE IN. if you want to, (which it doesnt sound like you do) then do it. but if you dont, then DONT because you will regret. :]
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im 15 and a girl.
i have this friend and she is really a cool person. but she cusses non stop and then when church time comes around she acts all good like she has never done anything bad. what do i do? do i confront her?
ana:
okay well im not really into the church scene, but honestly okay..i cuss SOMETIMES. but i wouldnt do t at church. she is doing what any other normal teenage girl would do. i mean...there isnt much you can really do.
good luck:]
mikela.
why do you care,,,
i mean just cause you cuss doesnt make you a bad person or a bad christian. its just words. i mean like of course you wouldnt cuss in the house of god. jeez get over it. worry about your self and not your friends vocabulary
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first off. i am 13 about to turn 14. and I AM A GIRL!
okay so theres this older guy. hes really shy and sweet and nice and, by the way, gorgeous. we havent really got to talking or anything but i just cant stop looking at him when i am around him. the only thing that seperates me doing anything farther than flirting is his age. hes 17!!! what do i do? i know i want to become his good friend but because of our age difference and his shyness will he be too scared if i make a move? and if i do make a move what should i do?
ana:
ahhh okay. looks can be decieveing. i know 3 years apart doesnt seem like THAT big of a difference. but these days...its a HUGE difference. he is not only older then you, but he is also alot more experienced, and matured. i know it seems like he is like the most gorgeous thing in the worldd and he is all you can think about, but in the long run letting him go (for now atleast) because of yalls age difference is the best thing you could do. i know..not the ideal answer or atleast not what you wanted to hear. but i think you will realize it was the right thing to do:]
good luckk.
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(13/f)
Ok..well, i recently started going to church with my aunt and uncle(they live in a town next to mine) and the main reason i keep going to their church is because i think all of the kids at the youthgroup are really cool, most of them are older then me(its a really,really small church) and i recently found out that the reason that all the other kids are so close..and such good friends..is because theyve been through soo much together..one kids mom died of cancer a few years ago..one guys dad and stepmom like killed his brother in a fire..and he started running away, and now is in custody of his stepdad(hes so much better now,u would never guess he went thru all of that)...(the pastors wife told me all this stuff, so they dont know that i know about it)
-- basically i really want to be good friends with all of them..and show them im here for them if they ever do have problems..but they are so close..they probly dont want anyone trying to get into there tight-nit group of friends..so should i keep trying? and hope they want to be close friends with me too, or just back off..cuz its not like they ignore me, i mean ive hung out with them and stuff..but i kind of feel like an outsider still.........help?
mikela.
aw. well. if you pick one. and make best friends with him the rest might see your not so bad and will let you in. i mean dont push it. just hang out with the one you like the most. but believe it or not being friends with just that one person could be good. i mean like not all of them will excatally be thrilled to add another aditiion. but you also need to make sure to prove to them your trust worthy and deserve to be in there little click. :]
PS. ana is at camp.
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I'm going to New York today and we're driving there. It's about a 2-2 1/2 hour drive. So I was wondering what me and my friend could do to keep busy during the ride. Thanks
mikela.
haha ive been grounded from everything for the past week. so im like queen of entertaining myself. here are some..suggestions.
- music.
- book
- games.
[such as, the liscens plate game. or punch buggie]
- talk to your friend.
- bring a coloring book!!
- take pictures.
- play cards
- sleep
- pig out.
theres only so much you can do in a car
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why do we cry over a guy?
when i listen to a slow jam its always remind me of the guy i likev and makes me cry so much..... why?
mikela.
aw. well. the answer is not simple at all. in the slightest bit. you cant help it. its a girl thing. were oh so very emotional. and if this whole crying thing came up recently it could be because your about to start your..period. other than that. you cry because you love. or miss the boy. :] oh or want.
PS. anas at camp
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hey guyss.
well this is the first time i have askedd for anything here so yaa. well i know im prob going to end up telling yall laterr. i just wanna knoww wat ull say when you dont knwo its me. OK WELL uaslly i am ALLWAYS AGNSTED DATING GUYS YOUNGER THAN ME and i mean allways like im a friggin i donno but i mean allways and this...guy and me started talking lately and he was sooo sweet and nice and cutee and we seemed to kinda click rite awayy everything seems great rite? but...ya get thiss hes a 7 months younger than me and a whole grade lower!!!! wtf is that? gawd and now i dont knoww what to do..like should i go agnsted everyting i stood for and be a hypricate.? and honstly i cant really picture my selff like with him CAUSE HES YOUNGER THAN ME! ughh and like does he like me just cause he thinks hes cool cause im in a grade higherr? and GET THISS im still not COMPLETELY over this guy in a grade ABOVE me that i usted to be intrested in. ughh thiss is friggin crazyy!
HELP
oh and btw thats a cute pic of yall!!
ana&&mikela:
well. if you like the dude go for it. now a days people make huge deals about the age shit. but you have to let it go, shut out stupid peoples opinions and go with your heart. it might be tough at first, but if you reeeally like him i think its worth it. when your ready talk to us about it. we will totally support your decision =]
good luck=]
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So my best friend for like ever told me that all he wanted to do was to get in my pants. Now I'm scared that I might give into him and that would ruin our friendship.
ana&&mikela:
first of all, if thats all he is in this relationship for, or any relationship at all for that matter, you need to dump his ass. you need to get straight to the point sit him down and tell him how much you liked having him as your bestfriend and that yalls relationship means alot to you, but let him know if its all about the sexual shit...its not gonna work. dont be afraid to tell him what you think. if he is really your bestfriend he will back off && respect your wishes. i know you dont want to loose a bestfriend, but he shouldnt have to get in your pants in order for you to keep him.
good luck=]
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i have been thinking a lot about this, and i think i might do it. im not intereted in guys, if you know what i mean. i like girls(o and im a girl) im afraid that my friends will reject me and leave me. but i feel as if i really need to come out though. please help
ana&&mikela:
first off, i give you big props for trying to come out, it takes alot of courage and self confidence to do that. i wont lie, its a tough thing to do. you will always have people judging you, thats just the way our society is these days. but you cant let that bring you down. if they are truly your friends they wont judge you and they will support you and be by your side the whole way through this. you've got this girl, dont let anyone bring you down your better then the people that want to judge you.
i hope everything works out! IM us if you need anymore help. good luck=]
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well..my wifeey....i don't like it when she talks to other girls...i just wanted to let her know that i missed her and ill see her lator..
p.s. umm if you don't know who this is....well this is your wifey!! ☺
mikela.
nat. i love you too.
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So the other day the guy I liked admited he had sexual feelings for me. So he came over and we got it on in the pool. The thing is, he has no intentions of asking me out and has his eye on another girl. Worse thing is, I got mono from him. I don't know what I should do. Should I still have feelings for him or not?
mikela.
well. if you gave up your virginity to him. you will have feelings for him. but you should deffinitally stay away from him. i mean dont be the girl he just gets ass from. i mean your better than that. and theyre will be other guys. BETTER guys for you. ones that dont want sex. you know. its to late to change the past but you can change your future. drop that horn balls ass and move on. :] GOOD LUCKK
ana: okay. the guy the is looking at you as a piece of meat. he just wants his sexual pleasure then goes on to the next girl that will have sex with him. especially since he didnt even bother to tell you that he had mono. that shows that he has absolutely no respect for you or your body. dump his ass, and find a man thats worth your time. because you deserve better than a sleezy dog. good luck=]
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you know what i hate? preps! they think they are all-that and they arent. They bug me so much. Why would you come and just push someone out of the way, just because they arent you. Lately preps have been controlling my school, and im sick of it. Why cant we all just be equal? its stupid what the "lesser" kids have to go through, from the stupid preps.do you really think preps are better than the rest of us? please help.thanks
mikela and ana think.
well.
no one is better than anyone and we both know that. you cant change what the "preps" think. but you can change how you think about yourself. as long as you know that at the end of the day your all equal. then youll be fine. but yeha. no one is better than anyone. it doesnt matter what clothes you have or how much sutff you buy.
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so my kids are annoying
i have 13 1/2 (im pregnant again) so cheaper by the doezen aint got nothing on me. im 45 and still poppin out kids.
and there anoyying little brats they act like they cant make food there always askin me to feed them and sing them to bed are they kidding me holy shit thats what a radio is for. and i understand i have todrive around some of the kids but hello if your 7 years oldder and up take a dog for protection and walk for goodness sake they act like im supose to catter to them.
no no no sir its the other way around.there supose to kiss my mother fuckin feet why do you think ihave so many kids! you think i want to have the CHUCHIE OF LIFE? what do i do? i need better kids.
mikela thinks.
listen. when you have kids thats something you got to keep in mind. they aint no angels sweetheart. and after you had your first kid and you figured out it was tuff why would you have another? diciplin them. so yeah. time out. spankings. you think of something.
ana:wow. well part of being a mother is taking care of your kids. you cant expect them to do everything on their own. all i can say is step up a little more as a mom. you cant get rid of them, just build a better bond with them. im sure everyone will be happier:-)
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ok so this is going to be pretty long. by the way ima girl. well me and this guy used to "talk" like we likedd eachother but then he went out with this other girl and i was really mad but didnt show it and i kinda went on with my life the rest of the year.. well kinda see i never got over him and even when i would tell my friends and convince my self i liked someone else he was always in the back of my mind. and a few weeks ago he came over and we kindda messed around... it might not be a big deal to a lot of people but it is to me. well yeah we messed around me thinking if we did he would like me more which he doesnt he juss flirts with al thsese other girls and he only talks to me when he wants to come over and thats only whenn im home lone well yeah hes not a virgin and i am so its no big to him but i want to be in a love relationship before i do anything to crazy but now i think im more of a goal to him and he told some of his friends that we did stuff so know there callin me up the wall playing with my heart... uhhh i needa lot of help. and i juss want someone that will care for me and not think of me as a freakin peace of meat yuh know.
mikela thinks:
well. i went through something like that awhile ago. and i know you like him. but you are better than that and you knwo it. now i know it might be tough because you really like him but you have to remember HES NOT GOOD for you. he isnt interested in you. hes interested in your "va jay jay" as ana likes to call it. i mean i know he was your first person to mess around with but it doesnt change the fact hes no good. you DESERVE soo much better. like seriousely go look in the mirror RIGHT NOW. and repeat after me. [your name here] i love myself. i love my body. i respect myself i respect my body. no man can change that or lower my standers. wait untill you find someone who loves you doesnt care if you make out or talk. doesnt care if you have sex or watch tv lol you feel me.
:]] good luck
ana: wow. girl you speak tha truth. no girl should EVER be looked at as a piece of meat. okay this is guy is SOOOO not worth your time. i know its easier said then done, but you need to drop this hoe and find someone who repects you and doesnt use you for his sexual pleasure. once you find a great guy, your gonna realize how inconsiderate this last one was. stand up for youself, dump the whore and find someone that deserves you.
good luck, if you need anything else IM me=]
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while school was still going on rumors were spread around the school about a lot of people and i was one of them. i tried to ignore them, but they just go bigger. when i tried putting a stop to them, it seemed like no one listened. now its summer and im still thinking that people see me as that different girl. and i am afraid to go back to school for the next year and have people call me things again. im really worring, please help.
ana:hhmm. well hopefully during summer everyhthing will blow over. but if when school starts the rumors are still going around, the best thing you can do is ignore the people starting them. usually people who start rumors or make fun of people are full of themselves and they have nothing better to do with there time then to make fun of other people because it makes them feel better about themselves. so dont stress to much about it they are lowlifes and as long as you have your friends by your side, everything should be fine.
IM me if you need anything else=]
mikela:
well stupid people always make up stupid stuff. you cant really do anything about it. i mean you can ignore it. you have to stay positive and not worry about it. i mena your real friends know the truth and thats all that matters. :]] stay postive. and remember like christina aguilera says in one of her songs. i woke up this morning with a smile on my face and nothings gunna bring me down today
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ok. so me and this guy were talking. and he said he liked me, and i believed him! but now he is going out with some stupid girl, that i know he doesnt even like! it makes me soo mad! i just want to slap him! sorry. any help?
ana:honey. its simple, he is obviously a PLAYER. you can do wayyy better dont even talk to him anymore he isnt worth your time and thinking about it will make you even more mad. surround yourself with friends, and guys that treat you right. and drop this fools ass.
hope i helped=]
mikela:
well. you should deff talk to him. ask him whats up. i mean there is nothing you can to except maybe move on. forget about him if you can, and just start talking to other guys.
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well me and this guy have been talking for a while. and i really like him alot, and he likes me alot too. but i never get to see him, and recently hes been acting alot different. so do i stick with him and try to work it out, or move on?
ana:well if you both really like eachother that much, i would ask him if he still feels the same way about you just to make sure the two of you are on the same page . if yall still like eachother alot, talk to him about working out ways to see eachother more often. if he still likes you but isnt gonna try to get you...move on, im sure there are other great guys comin your way!
good luck=]
well. if you really like this guy then work it out. i mean talk to him tell him how you feel. but be nice about it. i mean im sure if this dude likes you he will change REAL fast. and everything happens for a reason. so if it doesnt work out thenn ya know oh well more guys will come.
keep it pimpin :]
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My stupid boyfriend keeps telling me he loves me. But he looks at girls too much. My friends tell me he has been cheating on me, but he has never confessed. I keep asking him, but he just ignores it. I think he really is cheating on me! WHAT DO I DO!?!!??!
ana&&mikela:
try asking him and talking to him about one more time. if he is still ignoring you, dump the whore. he isnt worth your time and obviously isnt trying that hard to contribute to your relationship. you need to find someone that respects you and and listens.
good luck=]
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