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friends sick
i've had a friend for about five years. we've been pretty close. he has MD (muscular dystrophy) and with that disease you get worse as time goes on. it's hereditary and the people in his family that did have it, died at a very young age. he told me that he'd be lucky if he passed age 35. this upsets me. i know he had this disease all along, but realizing that he's already 19 years old and well, 35 doesn't seem that far away for him. i know you can't predict when you'll die or anything but i'm not sure what to do. he tells me i'm his closest friend and i appreciate that, but i feel selfish because i feel that it's a lot on me. that seems stupid, but it's like he wants to spend his time with me. i don't even know what to say to that. my question is how would i even begin talking to him about it? i care about him, but i feel that he should spend time with his family and not focus on me as much. you only live once. i want to spend time with him while he's here and okay, but i don't want all of his time dedicated to me. it shouldn't be and i'd feel bad if it was. how can i talk to him about it? the topic isn't the best to bring up. sorry this is a long question.
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Friends should be able to talk about anything. If you have questions about his MD I am sure he wouldn't be offended.
He needs to act like a normal 19 year old and that's what he is doing. He will spend time with his family too. He has to act normal while he can because the Day will probably come when he will not be able to get around as well as he does now. If he doesn't hang out with you and act like every other 19 year old...well he would one day regret it.
The very best thing you can do for him is to stop worrying about it. He will do what he has to do. If it scares you then tell him and talk. Don't push him away because he is sick and you can't deal with it. I'm sure he would much rather talk about it than have you want him to back off. :)
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