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boyfriend made my best friend cry.
so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer..
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Tell your boyfriend that "you have to lay off my friends because you both play an important role in my life and when one of you isn't happy I'm not happy" and then say "you do want me to be happy right?" (in a cute innocent voice ) those exact words should get through him and if he doesn't respect that his ass can hit your boot right before it hits the curb
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There could of been a reason that he said something to her. Maybe, you never know. I wouldn't break up with him over it, just yet. I would talk to him about it. Find out why he said it, and you should try to get him to say sorry to her. If you feel as thou. breaking up would be the right thing to do, then that is up to you. "Hoes before Bros". It mostly depends on where your thoughts are on it.
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if shes a good enough friend, think about this... "when worst comes to worst, my girls always come first"
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What he did was mean but you don't have to break up with him. Is there a reason he said that to her? Think about it. Would he just say something mean to her for NO reason? Maybe.. but you should just talk to him and find out what happened. If he keeps disrespecting your friends then you can break up with him. If you break up with him now, it's not wrong but just make sure you know why he did what he did.
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No,sounds to me like he is a real jerk. Your friends will last a lot longer than relationships and if he doesnt respect your friends than he doesnt respect you
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its not wrong for you to break up with him for it. but I would suggest you talking to your boyfriend while your friend is there so she knows you defintely said something to him. make sure you tell him if he says anything else its over.
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You could give him a second chance and have a talk with him about respect. Let him know that it is unacceptable for him to speak to any of your friends the way he did and that you won't hang out w/anyone that is disrespectful to you or your friends. Keep in mind that how he treats your friends is how he is treating you. Our friends are a reflection of who we are because these are people who we choose to hang out with. Ask yourself, could he be trying to get back at you for something that has happened between the two of you? Could he be taking this imagined offence out on your friend? You two have only been dating for a couple of months now so he's on his best behavior with you right now. He may have chosen your friend as an outlet for his aggravation towards you for something that may be minor to you, but not him. If you should decide to continue to see him you should be on alert. He's on his best behavior w/you right now so what you need to do is start noticing how he treats his friends and family. If he's rude and crude to them eventually he'll be that way with you too. If you are not all that impressed w/how he treats people who are close to him chances are he'll be the same way with you at some point, he won't be able to help himself. No one w/a good heart and good intentions would purposefully hurt someone else or if it was unintentional, not apologize afterwards. There is something wrong with that. Good luck in all of this, I know it is a difficult decision to make.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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i would suggest talking to him first, be like thats my friends & i care about them.. & if your going to talk to them like that then i dont know if we can see each other, but first here what he has to say, if hes an ass about it totally dump him; theres other BETTER guys out there; trust me
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Well if you really like the guy don`t dump him because of that just talk to him about it and tell him you have a problem with him talking about your friends in a bad way.
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i feel you But i dont think that you have to break up with him just let him know that he bet not do it again because you or your friend isnt havin that shit
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Breaking up may be jumping too fast;
Talk with him, ask him to apologize to your friend and make him promise not to do it again.
If he doesn`t, or refuses too; then it might be time to break up with him. Guys make mistakes, if you really like him, just talk to him. =)
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not at all. remember your friends will always be there but guys can come and go. If yo feel it's best to break up with him then do it. however, if you think he might change then try just talking to him about it and see if anything changes.
Good luck.
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mikela thinks:
NO ITS NOT. your like a number 7 at Mcdonalds. your friends are the fries n coke. they come along with the package. he wants you hes gotta learn to deal with your friends. you should deffinitally tell him that its NOT ACCEPTABLE how he talked to your friend like that, like i said earlier your friends come with the package. if he doesnt like them he doesnt get the BIG MAC ;].
but that is a small bump to over come, you deff need to talk it out with him.
anaA thinks: well i wouldnt go and breakup with him IMMEDIATLY but, i would talk to him about it. tell him that what he said not only hurt your friend, but you as well. tell him you want him to treat your friends with the same respect that he gives you, if he doesnt agree..dump the guy. but hopefully you guys can talk it over and you can let him know that how he treats your friends is really important to you, and try to get him to clear the air with your friend and apologize.
good luck & i hope everything works outt.=]
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notat all chicks before dicks. If he has a problem with your friend then its a problem with you. If you want to break up with him for doing something like that go ahead theres nothing unreasonable about that at all.
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i would break up with him. after all, talking crap to my friends is pretty much the same as talking crap to me. however, that's just my opinion. did he really mean harm to her? or did he not mean to hurt her like that? i would talk to him about it. if he sincerely regrets it, then i would try to move past it and try to make things allright with the best friend. however, if he doesn't seem phased that you're upset, then i would break up with him. if he goes around talking crap to your friends on purpose, he's not worth your time... plain and simple truth.
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Just try talking to him. Tell him she's really important to you and ask him why he said whatever he said .. and tell him she's one of your best friends. Tell him you dont want to have to choose between them, and you love them both a lot, but you need him to at least be civil to her. If he won't agree or continues to be a jerk; Then it would be perfectly cool to dump him. He needs to respect his girlfriend, and as part of respecting you, he needs to respect your friends.<p>Muchlove and Goodluck. <br>Casey. <3
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no it's not wrong. boyfriends come and go but your friends are always going to be there when you really need them. so maybe just talk to him about it and see what he says. ask him why he did it and if he is a total jerk about it then dump him.
*~zainab~*
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only dump him if something like that happens again
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first you should talk to your boyfriend....he might have a reason for saying that. also, it might have been a one time thing and hed never do it again. but you should also think about who is more important to you. you should do whatever you think is best after that.
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First of all find out what was said and why. Maybe someone took something wrong. If they both work in the same place maybe it was something work related. Get the facts from both sides before you make a decision you may regret.
Then if after you have heard from all involved you decide he was wrong, then by all means show him the door. :)
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