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I'm 21 female and my boyfriend is 22. We've been together for 3 years this month. Almost our entire relationship has been long distance since I've been going away to college. First year 3 hours apart and the past two only 1 hour. Relationship is going good but this whole seeing each other once a week been together for three years I'm so ready for the next level where we can move in. He is finishin college this year which he's attending at our home town and still lives with his parents. His parents shelter him and are obsessed with him and wouldn't want him to move out period. I mention things to him all the time about moving in and he kinda pushes it aside or makes excuses. I still have 2 years left of school after this year and I can't imagine doing Long distance two more years. He is only 22 though and him moving here he knows no one so its a hard situation. There is jobs he could apply for but I know he won't bc his parents don't want him to move and he wouldn't know anyone here. I just don't know what to do because I'm sick of long distance, want more or need to know for sure more will be coming on the very near future. I just need advice on what I should do or anything! Thank you!
This is going to be as hard for me to write as it is for you to read Let me say this before I begin. I know exactly what your boyfriend is like for I was once just like him. If it wasn't for military service I might sill be like him. For my purpose I will call him Richard
I won't say Richard is a mamas boy for there is a big difference between being a mamas boy and being closely tied to mamas aprons strings.
Richard has been raised by his mother and mother has dotted over him his entire life. Now Richard may have excelled in school and school sports but the one thing he has never been able to do is cut the apron strings that bind him to his mother. This is not his fault for she has been binding him to her since birth and has almost total control over him when she wants to inflict that control.
Lets say you and Richard do move in together. Like it or not until you find away to to cut those apron strings there will always be three of you living together. Maybe not physically but in spirit so to speak. Cutting those stings will not be easy for she has many way,guilt being one of them binding him to her. Momma will try to run your life too telling you that Richard likes things done this way or Richards taste in foods has to be a certain way. Richard will always be at her beck and call as well.
If you two were to marry and have children it will get worse as she will try to tell you how to raise your children. As she sees it what do you know about raising children, nothing. She has raised children and therefore better able to do so then you.
No I was fortunate I married a very strong women. When I returned from military service my mother tried to reattach herself to me. When I met my wife to be she saw this and took steps to keep it from happening. I was so use to it I never saw it but my wife did and it was something she has fought against for most of our married life especially when our son was born.
This is what I see in what you have written about Richard. It is not his parents it is his mother mainly. So the question becomes this; are you strong enough to stand up to his mother? Is your love for Richard strong enough to work with him to show him that his mother is smothering him and binding him to her in ways that will forever hinder him in life. Not just in love but in every facet of life.
Think long and hard about these two questions. If you cannot answer yes to both questions then my advice is that you find a new boyfriend for a life with Richard will never be your own.
As I said in the beginning this was hard to write because I was Richard. Thankfully I found a strong women who loved me enough to fight for me and won. As I look back over the 42 years we have been married I hate to wonder what life would have been like if I married a weaker woman, one who would have given in to my mother.
at my daughters schools from 6th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have
it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable
and give boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause
distractions and goofing off among everybdy? Not to mention young boys will be around girls shirtless which I think is inappropriate for young girls to be around of.
My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is
this just seems wrong especially at school.You are at school to LEARN. Not to
goof off. Like it or not swimming is a class to workout and learn. Can't really
do that well with young boys and girls together. How can schools be so clueless?
can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who arent known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls? Seems kind of like a naive way of thinking to me
I too have answered this question from you in the past. My answer will not change.
It was perfectly normal 50 years ago when I was in school to have coed swim classes. The girls had separate changing rooms from the boys and there were both male and female instructors in and around the pool to make sure everyone and everything was done safely. Nothing had changed 30 years later when my son took swimming classes.
I have to ask you if you are so concerned about swimming classes at school do you not allow your daughter to go to public pools? Public pool are far less structured and safety is left up to a couple of college student acting as life guards. As for what she sees in the pool at school she see far more at a public pool. At school all the boys wear tank suits and the girls wear one piece suits. At public pools anything is allowed as long as it does not violate community standards for decency.
The teachers are far better at controlling the students from teasing or harassing one another then any life guard is at a public pool. Remember they are in school and subject to the discipline a teacher may hand out for teasing, harassing or goofing off. Your daughter is far safer from this type of problem in the school pool then in a public pool.
My advice is you are being overly concerned about something you need not even be concerned about. I would understand if your daughter were complaining but she is not. She needs to grow and learn how to handle different life situations. The concerns you have if they were valid gives her the opportunity to learn how to handle them under the supervision of a licensed teacher. What more can you ask.
As parents we cannot wrap are children in a bubble and expect then to grow into functioning adults. We have to let them grow and experience life as it is today. Our job is to be their and offer advice when needed and to correct then when they make a mistake.
From the way your complaining you are living in a time when children didn't wear swim suits at all in school pool. Of course the classes were not coed. Come in to the 21st century and help your daughter deal with life as it is today.
I have a boyfriend, but I want to hook up with a girl. Not a specific girl, just a girl. I want to experience what it's like hooking up with another girl because it looks fun! I think I've been watching too much lesbian porn. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love my boyfriend. We've been together for over 2 years and we have great sex. And me wanting to hook up with a girl has nothing to do with our relationship. I'm just curious. Is this wrong? What should I do? Oh, and my boyfriend has no clue. I'm pretty sure he'd go nuts. And sorry for the raunchiness.
You might be surprised as to how your boyfriend would handle this. As for curious being wrong. No it is not wrong; being curious is all part of our sexuality and learning about ourselves sexually and other ways.
Now hiding this from your boyfriend could be harmful to your relationship. It is most every man's dream to have a three way with two women. Have you considered this as a solution to satisfying your curiosity in a manner that does not harm your relationship with your boyfriend.
There are any number of women who are bi or bi curious who would have no problem sharing you with your boyfriend. Just make sure that your boyfriend understands that your satisfaction with the other girl comes first, then the two of you will see to his satisfaction.
One of the most popular porn scenes is two women getting it on. So if your boyfriend is okay with this I believe he would enjoy sitting back and watching the two of you getting it on and participating when asked or directed to by the two of you.
If you are okay with something like this then you are not cheating or doing something behind your boyfriends back. You get to satisfy a desire and in the end you in a manor of speaking getting your cake and get to eat it as well.
I honestly believe your boyfriend will not have a problem with this. He would have more of a problem if you wanted to experience sex with two men.
I babysit until midnight for this woman, so she can't drive me home. Her kids are in bed and they have school the next morning, so shed have to wake them up. So, she has one of her coworkers drive me home. He's really nice.. But, he's gay. I feel really uncomfortable about it. I sensed it the first time he drove me home, he said a house was pretty. And then I told him I liked country music and he said, So reba? I think she's country i know she has a tv show... And well I haven't ever heard a straight guy say anything like that! So I decided to facebook him and well it turns out he is in fact gay and in a relationship for 20 years with a man.... What should I do? I just feel so weird about this! The bible says homosexuality is a sin and I'm associating with someone who is choosing to live in sin with a man!
You have a right to your beliefs especially your religious beliefs and I will defend to the death that right. Where you are wrong is trying to impose your religious beliefs or personal beliefs on others.
The man had about as much choice about being gay as you did in being straight. It is how you are born. It is something that was encoded in him long before he was borne. It was not a choice, it is not a sickness nor is he mentally ill.
Now if this person was female and a lesbian who was trying to seduce you, I am assuming you are a women, then you would have something to feel uncomfortable about. But this person is not trying to seduce you and in fact may be going out of his way to give you a ride home.
As for a guy saying something is pretty does not mean he is gay for there are things that cannot be described in any other manor. As for the Reba comment I'm hard pressed to see how you see him being gay from that comment. Reba is country and at one time I believe she did have a TV show. I'm straight, married with one child.
I would suggest you be more accepting of other people and their life styles; whether they be gay or goth or anything else. Its their life; in one instance of my example one is a chosen style in the other it was how they are born. In both cases this is what makes life so interesting.
I have known many gays and I am friends with several. They are wonderful people and for the most part just looking at then you can't tell. One guy I'm friendly with who is gay is a firefighter with me. If he was the firefighter who would be saving your life would you rather die than accept his help.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We are very open and trusting in one another. He has a child with a previous partner but I don't mind and we all get along with each other. A few months ago I came out that I was bisexual and he immediately entertained the idea of a threesome. We talked it over and agreed that it might not be the best idea. He told me he doesn't mind me fooling around with women when we go out to parties but I don't due to the fact it just isn't right. For a while we spoke of inviting others into the bedroom but never have. Well, a few nights ago we were at a party and this girl was hanging all over me and started touching me. He said it was okay so I just laid back and let it happen. I didn't kiss her and I felt a bit odd about it because we hadn't really discussed it with one another. Well, the next day we were talking about it and came to a conclusion. (Our guidelines and rules) We decided that we were both fine with fooling around with people but only if we were both present at the time and comfortable with the person, there would be no kissing or sex (strictly foreplay) if one of us felt left out or anything negative we would stop and that we don't do this with people we are friends with. We are both very open minded people and don't get jealous. I do have a slight fear that it might go sour and it might potentially damage our relationship. I am curious if anyone could give me insight or valuable advice I could apply to the situation, we have thoroughly talked it through and are confident our rules are going to work.
This is something that under the right circumstances has been known to work for some couples and has even enhanced their own sex lives. For something like this to work properly you have to have a firm foundation in your relationship with your partner. I do not see this foundation between you at this time.
You two may be living together or may be into a long term relationship. what is missing from this relationship, at least from what you have written, is the bonding that is needed to make the foundation. That bonding is a commitment to each other such as marriage.
Know I could be absolutely wrong in what I am saying as I do not know either of you and just what your commitment is to each other. The odds though are against a successful outcome here. One of you is going to get jealous or one of you is going to go beyond the rules that you have made for yourselves. It will happen in the heat of the moment. This is where the problem will come in and with out that foundation that binds it will be easier to split than to try and stay together and work through the problem.
Threesomes can be fun, even threesomes that allow for total fulfilment when it happens under the right circumstances. Maybe fulfilling a fantasy for a spouse. Swinging can be enjoyable for couples under the right circumstances and these circumstances begin with a secure marriage one where your love for each other is unquestioned and the swinging is just sex. Something like empty calories.
I suggest that besides just having rules you take a hard look at your relationship to make sure it is secure enough to withstand what ever may happen in a threesome. As even with rules once the ball gets rolling it is hard to stop.
How can I pretend to be a virgin around my mom and dad?
I am afraid that they will find out
I'm not sure I totally understand your question. No one can tell if you are a virgin or not just by looking at you. Even your doctor can't tell as a missing Hyman is not the only way to tell if you are a virgin. A girls Hyman can be broken in many different ways not just from sexual intercourse. Among the different ways are bike riding, gymnastics and the use of tampons to name the most popular ways to break ones Hymen.
If you are over 14 years of age you parents cannot by Federal Law force you to under go an examination to see if you Hyman is still in tact or if the doctor can find evidence of sexual intercourse.
Once you reach age 14 a federal law gives you total medical confidentiality when it comes to your reproductive system. You cannot be forced by your parents to under go any examination or procedure that you do not want to have.
You also can see your gynecologist without parental permission anytime you feel the need to do so. The doctor cannot release any information about any visit regarding your reproductive health to anyone, including your parents, without your written permission. No one can be in the exam room with you without your consent. Meaning even your mother will have to wait in the waiting room if she is with you.
Congress wrote this law in to the legislation known as HIPPA. They did so to allow young people the medical confidentiality they need to visit a doctor to get proper medical attention for their reproductive system. This law allows them to be open and honest with the doctor so the doctor can properly treat them. This law also allows young people over the age of 14 to ask for proper birth control. The doctor in consultation with you will prescribe the best type of medication for you. Parental permission is not required.
Your parents health insurance will continue to cover you for these visits even if your parents for bid you to see a doctor. By law they can't as the allows you to see the doctor without their knowledge or permission.
While honesty is the best policy only you know what your parents reaction will be to the knowledge that you are sexually active. They cannot tell just by looking at you that I am certain of.So you must decide when and if to tell them.
Since you are sexually active you should if you are ,and hopefully you are, over 14 years of age schedule an appointment with a gyn for a check-up. At that time you should discuss contraception with the doctor. Even if the doctor gives you birth control pill never allow a boy to have intercourse with you unless he is wearing a condom. Not only is the condom a second line of protection against pregnancy it also provides some protection against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
I have a pain in my neck/throat on the right side. It's just under the jaw and I can only feel it when I move my neck down and to the right.
Also, my throat is slightly sore, but hardly...
Has anyone every had these symptoms and been diagnosed or maybe knows what it is?
I was just at the doctor last week for something else so I'm hesitant to go back.
Thank you.
We are not doctors and we cannot make a diagnoses.
What I will tell you is you need to go back to your doctor immediately as the symptoms you are giving could be any thing from a simple viral infection to that of Meningitis. Only a doctor can make a proper diagnoses.
If you are coming down with meningitis early diagnoses means a better chance of a positive outcome. I'm not trying to scare you. There are a whole host of problems that could be causing your problem. If it is meningitis this is a life threatening illness that needs immediate treatment. Unfortunately it is also a disease that has to manifest itself before it can be diagnosed and treated.
If you cannot see your doctor today go to any of the walk-in clinics or a hospital emergency room for diagnoses and treatment of your problem it is that serious.
I do what my mom ask me to do but when I ask if I can go to my boyfirend house on Saturday she say no and I dont know how to make her say yes by one day plz help
It would help to know your age in answering this question.
In general young girls, girls under the age of 16 should not be left alone with a boy unsupervised. From the start of puberty boys are hard wired to get one thing from girls and will tell them anything they want to hear to get it. Young boys also confuse lust with love.
Girls on the other hand do know the difference between lust and love. Though they are willing to do things they know they shouldn't do just to keep their boyfriend. This is what has mom worried. As you get older you will learn that a boy needs to respect you and love you not just lust for you.
An alternative to you going to his house is asking mom if he can come to yours while she is home to chaperone. If mom says yes and he agrees then this is a major step in the right direction for your relationship with him as he may be one of the few you boys that does now the difference between lust and love.
Well, I look at girls boobs and their bums and like I am really worrid!! I don't want to be lesbian. AM I?? Please please help me out ??
Relax you are quite normal. Most all teenagers, boys and girls check out what someone else of their sex has. Part of it is comparison and part of it is learning about who you are sexually.
Now as for being lesbian. You do not one day just decided you are gay. Being gay is how you are born. It is encoded in your DNA. Being Gay is not a disease or is it a choice. Being bi may be a choice but being gay is not.
Checking another girl out or even having sexual feelings for a girl during early puberty does not mean your gay. I know many women who while in college engaged in lesbian sex almost exclusively. Why? Well for one thing it was safer; you can't get pregnant from lesbian sex and it does relieve sexual tension. For a second reason it was more available.
Once college was over these girls went right back to being straight and would not consider being bi or participating in a bi relationship.
What I am saying is in short you can enjoy looking at other women and not be gay. You might experiment in gay sex, many teenagers do both boys and girl. It is part of learning about sex and about sexuality in general. It does not mean you are gay.
I would say since being gay is not a choice but how you are born. At your age you would know by now and since you are asking this question I would go one step further and say you are not gay, that you are perfectly normal.
I've been sick a lot lately and I've had pressure to do all this work at home!I have to study for tests toto practice and keep up with homework on top of that My mom keeps telling me to clean my room!I need ways to clean my room fast study quickly and still know it and keep up with homework!!!
What you have is a time management problem, something not so unusual for any teenager let alone one who has had medical problems that may be causing you problems with keeping up with your class work.
The first thing I would suggest is meeting with your teachers and finding out just when they expect the missed worked to be made up. For example teacher 1 says they want the work done by next Tuesday. That's fine you can schedule that if say today is Monday. You meet with teacher 2 and he/she also wants the work by Tuesday. You say that date is taken that you can have the work for for them on Monday or Wednesday. You do this with each of you teachers scheduling one subject for each day of the week following the day you meet with them.
When you meet with your teachers have a calendar with you and you mark on that calendar what project or subject is due to be completed on which day during the following week.
Lets also say that your math teacher wants your missed math work brought up to date by Thursday. Looking at your calendar you see you promised your science teacher you would have your class work brought up to date by Monday and you would have your science project ready on time for Thursday. Looking at your calendar of work to be done and the volume of math work to be caught up on you might even need the following weekend to complete all the math work as well as stay current in all your other class assignments you have.
By showing your time management calendar to your math teacher and your other teachers as well; they will see a time management plan. When anyone sees a plan to accomplish a goal they are going to be more willing to go along with the plan rather than if you just come up to them and say that what they are asking is not possible.
Lets take this a step further and say your math teacher says, I don't care you complete the work by Thursday or you fail this marking period. Your choices are to fail the marking period or stay up late and not get your proper res which would cause you to get sick again. You now can go to you principal and show him or her that you have a reasonable plan to accomplish completing the missed worked, doing your homework and getting the rest you need to stay healthy. Your principal can them override the math teacher and accept having the work turned in the following Monday.
Now what you have to do is with this calendar go home and schedule your time for each day. Schedule time to do your home work plus time to complete some of the work that is required to be turned in next week. You schedule more time for the work due first and less for that which is due last but some work on each subject each night. You also schedule time to clean your room and some down time for yourself.
When you get caught up readjust your calendar for the normal school day. For instance so many hours for every day home work plus some time towards projects due at a future date. Maybe less time now and more and more time as the date for the project grows near. You include in you management calendar time for chores around the house as well as dating time and other things you want to do.
If you master time management now you will be tat much further ahead of your friends when you get to college and better prepared for college when you get there. Those who succeed in managing their time properly generally far exceed their peers in life.
I am a male and i am experiencing stomach pains all day what could this mean? i am 16 years old
We Are not doctors and even if we were we could not make a diagnoses over the web. You need to be examined by a doctor.
At 16 years of age you are old enough to make an appointment to see a doctor without a parents knowledge and consent. In your case I would not hide what is bothering you from your parents as there are too many things that could be bothering you.
Since this may have been going on for more than a day or so, and hopefully you are not constipated, you need to see a doctor right away. If your doctor cannot see you right away then I suggest mom or dad accompany you to one of the walk in clinics that are available in your area. They have doctors who can examine you and make a diagnoses or refer you to an ER if they feel it is required.
I have this strange pain in my right arm, it goes all the way down to my hand. It won't stop aching. I've tried with pain killers and massage but they wouldn't do much good. What can it be? What can I do? Please don't write 'you should go to the doctor because I just can't afford it right now. Thanks!
I am a first responder with a local first department. You do need to see a doctor. The pain you feel is a warning sign. Pain from a possible heart attack does not always come in the left arm especially if you are a diabetic. Diabetics feel pain differently then everyone else. Even if you are not diabetic the pain you are feeling is definitely a warning sign that something serious is wrong.
The fact that you cannot afford to see a doctor is not material here. You have a life and death problem. While a private physician might turn you away a hospital emergency MUST treat you, this is the law. You can take yourself to the hospital or call 911 for help. My preference is if you are still experiencing these symptoms is you call 922. A paramedic ambulance ill be dispatched to you.
Paramedics are well trained in cardiac problems and capable of starting treatment in the field. This is called pre-hospital care. If what your experiencing is pre-heart attack symptoms or mild heart attack symptom's the paramedic can start the same type of care you would receive initially in the ER. This advanced care saves lives so call 911 now and let them take you to the hospital. Do not worry about the cost. You will be treated and there are programs such as medicaid the hospital can bill for payment.
Your life is more important then payment for service.
My boyfriend of about eight months and I have been having sex somewhat regularily. There's a bit of an issue (always has been) throughout all my sexual experiences, it hurts to have sex. I feel like every time we have intercourse, I'm a virgin again! ( and sometimes still bleed!!) he stretches me out with his fingers first but that never seems to help. Any advice as to how I can go about just being able to have sex without pain? When he is penetrating, it sometimes feels good and other times its like he rips my vaginal walls open. I really just want to be able to have pleasure sex, and every time we have it, it takes at least a day or two to recover. Please give me any advice you can!
I agree that you need to see a doctor. After 8 months of sexual activity you should not be experiencing painful intercourse or bleeding.
Schedule an appointment with a Board Certified Gynecologist. As the other adviser said it is possible your Hyman is still intact or partially intact, or there are other causes for some of your problems. The problem that I find most worrisome is the bleeding. That should not be happening after all this time.
Just in case you under 18 and still living at home and worried mom will find out you are sexually active. There is a Federal Law known as HIPPA. Within this law is a section covering the reproductive systems of anyone 14 years of age an older. Under this law anyone 14 years and older may seek a doctors help for anything related to their reproductive system without parental knowledge or permission and with full medical confidentiality.
What this means is you can schedule an appointment with a doctor without a parents permission. See and be treated by that doctor including asking for birth control and not need parental permission. Your parents cannot be told what you are being treated for or anyone else without a written release from you to the doctor to do so. If a parent is with you when you visit the doctor they may not be in the exam room while you are being examined.
This law was written so young people would seek a doctors help for problems with their reproductive system. So that they could speak openly and frankly with their doctor and receive proper medical treatment. If you are covered by your parents insurance you would still be covered for these visits whether your parents approve or not.
So please see a doctor as there is definitely something not right that I believe a doctor needs to take care of.
please help.i have lost my lovely son last year who was 5 years old.i love my baby so much.i miss him a lot. it happened due to my carelesness.now my husband always raise the matter and blame me. it is really hurting.i wish i can go to the place my darling baby is.i have another child who is 10.i really don't know what to do.
I'm sorry for your loss. Whatever happened to your son to cause this loss must have been ruled an accident. Accidents do happen and while we can blame ourselves for them. In this case if you were legally at fault you would be paying the legal penalty for a crime associated with your child's death. Since you are not paying this type of penalty this is just a horrible, horrible accident.
This does not make you a bad mother as accidents do happen. We are all human and humans make mistakes and when we do accidents are the unfortunate result. I understand that your husband is blaming you and he really should not be but he is hurting too. He wants someone to blame and he is blaming you. This is wrong he should be more supportive.
You both have your other child to raise and care for. I suggest you seek family counseling for you and your husband as well your other child. Since you and your husband are not handling this well I am sure your other child is just as conflicted by this as the both of you are.
You don't have to go to your baby boy for him to be with you or you with him. He is always with you. He is, as you know, being properly cared for and will be there waiting when it is your time to be with him.
With a therapists help the three of you can learn to properly deal with this tragedy and move on as a family and still honor your son.
well my life is not going my way write now am a huge disappointment to evryone and just have a feeling to end it all and be in a place where i feel much appreciated well am a looser on earth maybe with God the creator i can live a good life....
Frankly who cares what other people think about you. The only person you have to be better than is you. My motto has always been I have to be a better person tomorrow than I am today.
I never cared what others thought of me. Some People will put you down out of jealousy. They are jealous that you are better looking then they are, make more money than they do, are able to do certain things better than they do or maybe you take more time to do things then they do. Who cares, it is none of their business what or how you do things as long as you try to things better tomorrow then today, then you are trying to grow and improve yourself. This is what counts.
What I would like you to do is call this number:1-800-273-TALK (8255). This number is the hotline for the National Suicide Prevention Center. No matter what problems you are dealing with, they want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.
Suicide is not the answer to your problem it is a solution that leaves many problems and a lot of hurt behind. Please call the hot line for help. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain by doing so.
My dad was driving me home from school and I was talking about driving the nice car to prom, with my date (who is deaf, I'm hearing ) and my dad said he would never let him drive me, just because he is deaf, because he dosent believe it would be safe... Yet his dad (my date's) is the drivers Ed teacher. Should I be offended? And should I tell my date this?
I agree with Razhie. A deaf person or hearing impaired person is more likely to pay more attention to their driving then a hearing person. they do so to compensate for there loss of hearing plus they are less distract by such things as the radio or talking on a cell phone.
I'm sure the state you live in took this into account before issuing him a drivers license and he was tested for his ability to compensate for his hearing deficiency.
I believe your father made a judgement based on a predetermined prejudice he may have about about people with disabilities. Your dad needs to be educated about people with disabilities and how they cope with them in today's world.
Unfortunately you may not be the person to educate you dad on this subject. You unfortunately also have to tell your date as this will figure into his plans for the evening. The fortunate side of this is the fact that his dad is a drivers education instructor. Now if somehow you can get your dad and his dad together. Then his dad once he explains who he is and what he does to your dad. He might be able to convince your dad that his son is just as safe for you to be outwith in a car than with anyone else and maybe safer.
If your father accepts his fathers credentials as someone who is credentialed to teach the hearing impaired to drive safely he may just changed his mind. This is an option you have to try though I would suggest you and your date make alternate plans just in-case your father is steadfast in his opinion.
Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms?
If you are over 14 years of age; under a Federal Law none as HIPPA you may purchase birth control. At14 years old or older a girl does not need parental permission to ask a doctor for birth control.
This law was enacted by congress to allow 14 year old and older medical confidentiality when it comes to the health of their reproductive system. They can make appoints to see and see their doctors for problems with their reproductive systems without parental permission or knowledge.
This is done with total confidentiality. Neither the doctor, pharmacist or anyone in their employ may release any information without the written permission of the person being treated. You have total medical confidentiality as congress wants people this age and older not to be afraid to see a doctor if they have a problem. Your parents cannot be in the exam room, by law, so that you can speak freely with the doctor knowing the doctor cannot tell your parents.
after taking ipill within72 hrs,is there a possibility of getting pregnant?
The short answer to your question is yes. The Ipill is meant to be taken as soon after intercourse as possible. That is generally meant to mean 24 hours. There are studies though that have shown the Ipill to be effective up to 7 days after intercourse.
So im 12 and going threw the changes and all ,I just want my own room and some place to cool off when I'm mad but I'm stuck sharing a room with my MOM and DADthere are 4 bedrooms and 7 people including my parents and I have 3 older brothers and 2 are very close in age.i asked my mum if they could share but she sayed no please help
I understand how you feel and as the other adviser said there is not much you can do about it. With 7 people and only four bedrooms. I see this being 2 your parents, 2 being your older brothers and 2 must be older sisters unless you have grandparents or other relatives living with you, plus you.
If you do have older sisters; have you asked your parents if you can share a room with the oldest sister closest to your age. Not the best solution but better than sharing with you parents as both you and your parents need their privacy.
Another suggestion would be, if your home has an unfinished basemen; youcould suggest a section be portioned off for your room. It is not all that expensive to do. Some 2x4's some plywood, a door and some carpeting for the floor. The real expense would be for an electrician to run a line into the room for some electric baseboard heat, lighting and an electric outlet.
If your dad and or brothers are at all handy with tools the job costs for materiel's shouldn't be more than $200 including a throw rug for the floor and the baseboard heater. The electricians cost is hard to estimate as it is based on costs where you live. Where I live, labor costs are extremely high. The work itself would take a half day or less to do. Here that cost would be $250 plus about $50 for materiel.
You might suggest this to mom and dad. Emphasis you know they need there privacy too. If you have heard them being intimate try and say so without actually telling them you have overheard them. That would be embarrassing.
i work at walmart store number 2405 .my son comes to pick me up so i dont walk home alone.He came on 2/5 2013 to walk me home and was yelled at by assistant manager brian.He was in a relationship with one of the employees there.They are no longer together and she has sent me death messages stating she hopes my son dies.we he came tonite brian yelled at him and told him to leave he was causing trouble.he said it happened yesterday also and he was not even around.He than told me if my son continued to come and cause trouble i would be fired.I would like something to be done.he had no reason to yell at me so everyone would hear him.i am no longer happy working at walmart.i have proof that the threats were against my son and i want to go to the police.my name is melissa cudjoe and my number is 716 392 9857
First: Never ever put your full name and personal contact information in these types of websites. While the advisers here are all trustworthy you never know who else could gather this information.
Second: By all means if you have a documented threat against your son then that is a Police matter. Call 911 and have a report made. A threat of bodily harm or death is considered and assault if the person making the threats is found to be capable of carrying out that threat.
An assault of this nature can be considered a felony and punishable with jail time. This of course would first be considered by the investigating officer as to how to charge her. Then by the prosecutor's office.
Third: As for the assistant manger, file and EEOC complaint for a hostile work environment, with the Human Resources Manger. If the assistant manger and the human resource manager are one in the same person you have two choices. You can call or write the Home office Human Resources department or go to your local state office of the EEEOC to file your complaint.
If you do write the home office send your letter registered so you have a receipt that they received it. When the return receipt arrives back to you if you have not heard back from them you should call them.