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My dad, was he rude?
My dad was driving me home from school and I was talking about driving the nice car to prom, with my date (who is deaf, I'm hearing ) and my dad said he would never let him drive me, just because he is deaf, because he dosent believe it would be safe... Yet his dad (my date's) is the drivers Ed teacher. Should I be offended? And should I tell my date this?
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Your dad is just being a dad and is being very cautious and over protective. If it means having your father talk with his father, so be it. I wouldn't lie to your date I'd be honest and tell him what's going on so that you both can do something about it whether its going on practice drives, having your parents talk, etc. I'm sure your date will not be offended he is probably used to this sort of stuff because it is a part of who he is. Try discussing these things with your dad, and let him know how you are feeling.
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I don't completely agree with the others on this one.
I have nothing against deaf people as I myself am hard if hearing.
Not that the deaf aren't capable if driving but in your dads aspect I think he was talking in terms of safety.
The deaf need to be extra careful when driving as they cannot hear an ambulance, cop or fire truck coming.
I am not saying your father wasn't rude, I do think he could of worded it in a better way but I believe his points were valid. Your father doesn't nessacerally have a problem with your boyfriend per say, he wants you safe.
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I agree with Razhie. A deaf person or hearing impaired person is more likely to pay more attention to their driving then a hearing person. they do so to compensate for there loss of hearing plus they are less distract by such things as the radio or talking on a cell phone.
I'm sure the state you live in took this into account before issuing him a drivers license and he was tested for his ability to compensate for his hearing deficiency.
I believe your father made a judgement based on a predetermined prejudice he may have about about people with disabilities. Your dad needs to be educated about people with disabilities and how they cope with them in today's world.
Unfortunately you may not be the person to educate you dad on this subject. You unfortunately also have to tell your date as this will figure into his plans for the evening. The fortunate side of this is the fact that his dad is a drivers education instructor. Now if somehow you can get your dad and his dad together. Then his dad once he explains who he is and what he does to your dad. He might be able to convince your dad that his son is just as safe for you to be outwith in a car than with anyone else and maybe safer.
If your father accepts his fathers credentials as someone who is credentialed to teach the hearing impaired to drive safely he may just changed his mind. This is an option you have to try though I would suggest you and your date make alternate plans just in-case your father is steadfast in his opinion.
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Yep, that was rude. Understandable perhaps, but rude and not okay.
Deaf people can legally drive. In fact, most studies have shown deaf individuals are actually less likely to be car accidents than those who can hear.
So your father needs a talking to. As long as your boyfriend has a valid licence, there is no rational reason for to restrict you from being in a car with him. Anything else is discrimination, and it should be called as much.
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