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My dad was driving me home from school and I was talking about driving the nice car to prom, with my date (who is deaf, I'm hearing ) and my dad said he would never let him drive me, just because he is deaf, because he dosent believe it would be safe... Yet his dad (my date's) is the drivers Ed teacher. Should I be offended? And should I tell my date this? (link)
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Your dad is just being a dad and is being very cautious and over protective. If it means having your father talk with his father, so be it. I wouldn't lie to your date I'd be honest and tell him what's going on so that you both can do something about it whether its going on practice drives, having your parents talk, etc. I'm sure your date will not be offended he is probably used to this sort of stuff because it is a part of who he is. Try discussing these things with your dad, and let him know how you are feeling.
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please help.i have lost my lovely son last year who was 5 years old.i love my baby so much.i miss him a lot. it happened due to my carelesness.now my husband always raise the matter and blame me. it is really hurting.i wish i can go to the place my darling baby is.i have another child who is 10.i really don't know what to do. (link)
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Although I don't know what caused the death of your baby boy, I do know that you shouldn't put the blame on yourself unless you are a murderer. (which i know you aren't because you would be arrested and not on here). YOU CANNOT blame yourself. Accidents happen. No matter what we cannot prevent the future. Things happen for reasons and God wanted your baby boy at that time.
I understand you miss your baby boy a lot, which is expected. But please do not commit suicide for this reason. Your son will always be with you. Think about how much your 10 year old needs you right now. Your husband is just as devastated as you are, so he is probably taking his anger and emotions out on you. Don't take it to heart BUT don't listen to him when he blames you. Just walk away. Or next time he blames you, go see family and friends who can help you get your mind off of it. Your husband is just as hurt as you are and instead of being mad at God he is trying to find another person to blame so he has decided to point his finger at you. I'm sure he doesn't mean it. People handle these sort of things different than others. It is not easy losing a loved one.
Maybe try comforting your husband more and show him your love. Show him you are just as devastated as he is, therefore he will stop blaming you. Let go and Let God. There is nothing either of you two can do now. As sad as this sounds, what happened has happened and you cannot go back. There is nothing you can do. So no matter how many times you and your husband fight or blame each other, nothing will bring back your boy. The only thing you both can do is enjoy your life. Every second of it. And live life to its fullest. Let your husband know how much you love him as well as your other child. Take this experience and let it strengthen you all as a family. Forgive your husband.
You are not a bad mom at all.
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To begin with, I love my boyfriend...we always have a great time together and he is my best friend. He's the only guy I've ever done stuff more then kissing with and I've lost my virginity to him (and he lost his to me). This morning I woke up really happy because we had a date last night and it was really fun. But then I checked my facebook, and everyone else updated their status about them hanging out with friends and my best friend sent me a text and said she missed hanging out with me...I'm so confused, because I LOVE hanging out with my boyfriend, I'd rather hang out with him then anyone else, but at the same time I miss hanging out with my friends. I feel like my friends are just like "oh, she's always with her boyfriend now, she probably won't want to hang out with us anyway" and they never invite me to stuff like they used to :( I guess I have been more distant since I've been with this guy, and I miss my friends but I'd still choose to hang out with my boyfriend over hanging out with them...I don't know why but I've been craving the 'single life' lately, even though I'd never break up with my boyfriend, at least not right now. And I don't believe in 'taking a break'...if I ever broke up with him (or him with me), I couldn't ever allow us to get back together because if we can't work out the first time, then we probably can't work out the second time. So what do I do? I feel like I'm torn between my friends and my boyfriend, but I'm not...I'd rather hang out with my boyfriend. Maybe I just like the idea of being more social rather then actually doing it? A lot of times when I used to hang out with a friend, I'd get really bored and just want them to leave so I could be alone...I just don't know what's up with me! I'm so confused :( please help, any advice is appreciated!
Also, if it helps, I'm 17 and he's 18...we've been together for a little bit over a year. (link)
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Hey girl, I'm in high school too, and I have a boyfriend. Yes, it's hard. Especially when you and your boyfriend are so intimate. Friends may be friends and friendly but honestly, they get VERY boring. It used to be so predictable whenever we'd hang out. Same old stuff, sit on a laptop maybe facebook or upload stupid pics you took to try and look cool. Maybe prank call, eat, watch a movie gossip? Now tell me how that's going to help you later in life. How is any of that significant? I'm not saying to stop hanging out with your friends, but all of the predictable high school hang-outs aren't going to do much later in your life. If they're your true friends they should truly understand how much you love your boyfriend. On the other hand, hanging out with your boyfriend has so much value, especially when you've been dating this guy for a little over a year. That says something, hunny. What you do with him when you hang out now may matter three, four, five years..? If you catch my drift ;) If you don't, i'm hinting towards marriage. Now I'm not saying that you will, but it's something that girls around your age start thinking about after they've been dating a guy for that long. I know that I've always wondered that about my boyfriend I actually wouldn't mind it :) Off topic, lol sorry. But the point here is, If your happiest hanging out with him. Hang out with him. If you think hanging out wit your friends is boring but you still miss them and you still wish that you were included in the group a lil more, than text them more frequently, maybe skype, talk more in school, after school go grab snacks, etc (that helps me). I have this thing where I hang out with my boyfriend on Friday nights and then hangout with my friends on Saturday nights. Then I go to mass with my boyfriend on Sunday's and then grab something to eat afterwards or just hang out. If he can't do Friday's then switch it up and hang out with him on Saturday's and hang out with your friends Friday's. I really hope that I helped, because honestly what your asking is what I'm goign through & my advice is how I exactly dealt with this. Everything's much better!
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Thank you for taking the time to look over this, I was wondering I'm not a person who is a member of the church but I do believe there is something waitin for us on the other side, but I want to know, awhile back I attempted killing myself , because I did this did it send me to hell once I die? (link)
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I, myself, am a Roman Catholic. So yes, I am Christian. This is the way I see it. It's only a sin if you know it's wrong and if you do it even though you know it's wrong. Technically, that was a great sin. Especially for wanting to put an end on life- the gift that God took out of his time to create. It took him centuries. He finally had this beautiful creation and he decided which one of his angels he felt should recieve this gift of life. With his hands, God, your father made you into a child of God and laid you in your mother's room. God loves you. He would absolutely dislike the fact that you would like to take your life away. That's like you spending years to make a gift for someone you love, a family member, or a friend and once they get it, they like it. But as they had the present, they went through rough bumps and so one day they decided that they didn't like the present anymore. So they decided that they wanted to destroy it and have it be gone forever? How would you feel if they completely destroyed a present you spent years mkaing for them all because they were upset with a few things and just wanted to give up? you only live life once... And especially if one kills themself unfortunately they will not have the eternal life they desired. So there is really no point. So yes, that is an incredible sin. BUT, you didn't kill yourself.. So you didn't commit any major sin? But you did make a bad one by attempting. If you are utterly sorry then god will forgive you. But you have to be sorry with your whole heart and soul. Sorry means that you will never do it again. Be sorry and you are fine... Live this wonderful gift the way god would want you to. After all, he is our father
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Im 17 f. ok, so sometimes when i masterbate like i only do clit but sometimes when i do it it hurts and actually starts bleeding, like a little cut. This happens if im shaved or not shaved. this has only happend a couple of times. So im just wondering, does anyone else have this problem? Why is it doing that? how can i prevent it? Is it cause i do it in one place for a long time or what. And its not like i do it all the time so it woudldnt be from constant rubbing. And advie would help, i just want to know if this is normal or how and why it does that. thank you very much! (link)
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Honestly, i know it feels good trust me. but you should try to stay away form it because it's obviously hurting you. maybe it's because your dry? but maybe it could be a sign that you just need to stop...
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i want to find out a job for the future but i have so much interest to pick from.i just cant think of what my future job will be.how can i pick the best one. (link)
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Just stop what you are doing and listen hun. Breathe in and then out. Then picture school. Do you like it? If so, what do you like about it? What's your favorite subject? If you do like school and have a favorite subject, look further into careers that use the subject you love most. If you do like school, but you don't have a favorite class, you probably just love being with your friends and seeing them everyday, the socially things ;p Anyways, if that's how you are like then you might want to look into something having to do with being social. like an interior designer, a wedding planner, a publicist ( you get to meet mannnnny celebrities). If you are confused with those questions i just asked you, then repeat the top. Just stop what you are doing and listen. Breathe in and then out. Is it money that is causing you this stress? Are you concerned with being rich and having enough money to buy the things you want in life? Then listen to this. Money doesn't make everyone happy.. Doing something you love everyday is much more pleasing. Besides, if you truly love what you are doing and you are trying your best with it, odds are, you will become more successful than a local doctor or lawyer! Think outside of the box. Not EVERY job is related to school. How about acting? Make up? Singing? Fashion? Artist? Chef? Producer? Director? Editing? Graphic Design? Photography? All of those careers, yes do need some skill. BUT if it's what you truly love and you wouldn't mind doing it everyday, you will make it big. And once you make it big with those jobs.... Trust me, you make it BIG. So never give up your dreams and follow your heart. Choose whatever you will love waking up to every morning, please your heart. Overall, please God. Thank you hope i helped hun (:
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Hey 14 f
well I like wearing make up..i don't wear it that much though because I hardly have time in the morning to put it on..but never mind that.. I want it to look pretty and presentible. I don't want people staring and thinking i look bad.. ;/ haha. I love using the dark eye look..love using eyeliner..the black and green..it doesn't matter.Can someone tell my how i can get it on my water line without my eye watering..i want it to look decent. Not a racoon haha Tell me tips on what to do with my make up..i have almost every kind in my make up back so suggest anything
How i look like would help so..
-golden blonde hair? hhA :3
-blue eyes
-light skin
- a heart shaped face? haha >.<
no videos please XD thanks for all the opinions!
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okay, i used to be put in your situation. what you first need to know, is that everyone looks their prettiest without makeup and guys don't like fake girls. but make sure you don't over exaggerate your eye makeup like you said about racoon eyes. especially if you have blue eyes, thats a big no no. but because you have blue eyes, you might want to go with a color that makes your eyes pop, like a brown, copper, gold, and sometimes navy blue eyeliner. i suggest you use a browinsh copper eyeliner, blue & white shadows and black mascara. my friend has blue eyes and when she does that, she looks fabulous and her eyes look incredible. if your having a rough time with your water line, just practice. practice makes perfect. for your bottom lid, it comes easiest if you just practice. but on your top lid, don't do your water line because you could break your lashes. i do my upper liner on my upper lid, not the water line. when your bored one day and you aren't doing anything, repeatedly go over your eyes for practice. if you really need to learn how to do something, just look up makeup tutorials on youtube.com its amazing. there are about billions of videos and thats how i learned. also, make time in the morning. go to bed early and take your shower at night ! i hope this helps (;
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this is kinda confusing, but help out as much as you can. My exboyfriend whom i dated for a year and a half suddenly says he misses me after a year or so apart. the problem is...i have a new boyfriend, who i really do like and have been dating for 5 months. my ex boyfriend and me ended really badly and he broke up with me because he was confused and then after we were broken up for like 3 months i ended up sleeping at his house because i thought he wanted to make it work but then he turned out to not want that at all and i was completly crushed. he was the only guy i had ever been with. thats the point where i decided to just forget him and thats when i met my new boyfriend. who has been great but had quite a drug problem. he really has changed because there are certain side effects that come out in the bedroom if hes been doing bad...but anyways, he just has the problem of not always being there for me..but what i need help with is what i should do...i really miss my ex as a friend but find him not so physically attractive anymore..and i like my boyfriend a lot but hate that i feel confusion about the ex..i dont think its fair to him at all. i know my advice is gonna be to be single. but i dont know. im happy right now other than the confusion. any kind of advice or deep thoughts would help me a lot in this situation...please just tell me where i should stand. (link)
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girl... im in the SAME situation EXCEPT, i'm the ex who wants to get back with my bf who has been currently datign a girl fro 5 months.. /: from this point of view, you are sooooo lucky that he wants you back.. at one point when i was dating this other guy named noah, my ex wanted me back and i ignored him and after noah and i broke up, i reallllllly missed my ex.... take your ex back before you make the biggest mistake ever.. besides who wants a druggy? and who wants someone who won't be there for you..? there also must be reason why you and your ex lasted so long.... there must've been something there if you catch my drift. goodluck!
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