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this is kinda confusing, but help out as much as you can. My exboyfriend whom i dated for a year and a half suddenly says he misses me after a year or so apart. the problem is...i have a new boyfriend, who i really do like and have been dating for 5 months. my ex boyfriend and me ended really badly and he broke up with me because he was confused and then after we were broken up for like 3 months i ended up sleeping at his house because i thought he wanted to make it work but then he turned out to not want that at all and i was completly crushed. he was the only guy i had ever been with. thats the point where i decided to just forget him and thats when i met my new boyfriend. who has been great but had quite a drug problem. he really has changed because there are certain side effects that come out in the bedroom if hes been doing bad...but anyways, he just has the problem of not always being there for me..but what i need help with is what i should do...i really miss my ex as a friend but find him not so physically attractive anymore..and i like my boyfriend a lot but hate that i feel confusion about the ex..i dont think its fair to him at all. i know my advice is gonna be to be single. but i dont know. im happy right now other than the confusion. any kind of advice or deep thoughts would help me a lot in this situation...please just tell me where i should stand.
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Dump him. Err...maybe the term is "don't go out with him again."
He probably has been cheating on you, then got dumped himself. Why else would he resume his communication with you, after shutting you out for a year? Besides, you already found a new boyfriend, one that you like very much. You can still be friends with him, it's your choice. But I advise you, people can get jealous, so unless you know this Ex really well, think about it.
And your new boyfriend, doesn't sound like a cool guy. He sounds like a guy who needs drugs to get on with his life. Unless those are prescribed drugs, and he isn't abusing them, then it's not a problem. But you say he's never there for you, and that's a sign of disrespect to yourself. You don't deserve another guy who leaves you.
In my opinion, overall, I would dump both, and stay single until I could find someone better. If you aren't the paranoid type, then go with the Ex. Your new boyfriend sounds like he might abuse you soon.
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girl... im in the SAME situation EXCEPT, i'm the ex who wants to get back with my bf who has been currently datign a girl fro 5 months.. /: from this point of view, you are sooooo lucky that he wants you back.. at one point when i was dating this other guy named noah, my ex wanted me back and i ignored him and after noah and i broke up, i reallllllly missed my ex.... take your ex back before you make the biggest mistake ever.. besides who wants a druggy? and who wants someone who won't be there for you..? there also must be reason why you and your ex lasted so long.... there must've been something there if you catch my drift. goodluck!
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Sounds like a classic to be honest with you.
You break up with your ex boyfriend, You go into another relationship and then later on down the line the ex boyfriend suddenly misses you?! You have been dating someone new for 5 months and it's been a year you two haven't been together. Time goes on and a year is a really long time. It sounds like he isn't doing very well and just wants to ruin your relationship you are in.
I have ALWAYS said this.. but if it doesn't work out the first time, doesn't work out the second time then what the hell makes him think it will work out again?
Stay in the relationship you are in now, Don't let him "suddenly" miss you and ruin what you already have. That is just his pick up line and your best bet is to ignore it
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if you look at it this way there wouldn't be confusion if your ex boyfriend hadn't of tried to get back in the picture. Your happy don't let your ex ruin that for you. keep things the way they are. I think you should tell your ex to get lost. he really hurt you and doesn't deserve that second chance you miss who he was when he was dating you and at the end of your relationship he changed for the worse. remember all the reasons you ended and why you stayed apart for so long. remember you moved on and i think you should keep it that way.
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