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So im 12 and going threw the changes and all ,I just want my own room and some place to cool off when I'm mad but I'm stuck sharing a room with my MOM and DADthere are 4 bedrooms and 7 people including my parents and I have 3 older brothers and 2 are very close in age.i asked my mum if they could share but she sayed no please help
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At 12 no child should be sleeping in the same room as their parents. I know space is limited here but that's NOT right for your development and health. Besides your parents need privacy too.
Perhaps your folks have said NO to your plea for a room of your own because they know there will be all kinds of fights if they give you what you want.
I think what you need to do here is tell your parents "I don't want to sound selfish or deprive my brothers of something but I'm the only girl, I'm going through puberty and feel embarrassed and in need of privacy or a place I can retreat to." Ask again for them to reconsider.
One thing you could do is tell a teacher you trust about the situation or a relative that knows mom and dad of your sleeping arrangements and longing for privacy. Maybe if they bring it up that you really need it and apply pressure they'll do something.
One thing you could suggest is that the oldest boys share bunk beds in 1 room. The other sibling in another room, you in yours and mom& dad in the other spacing it out so two kids get a room each, they do and the others have bunk beds especially if already sharing. That way it's all distributed nicely and you aren't viewed as selfish which you aren't.
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I understand how you feel and as the other adviser said there is not much you can do about it. With 7 people and only four bedrooms. I see this being 2 your parents, 2 being your older brothers and 2 must be older sisters unless you have grandparents or other relatives living with you, plus you.
If you do have older sisters; have you asked your parents if you can share a room with the oldest sister closest to your age. Not the best solution but better than sharing with you parents as both you and your parents need their privacy.
Another suggestion would be, if your home has an unfinished basemen; youcould suggest a section be portioned off for your room. It is not all that expensive to do. Some 2x4's some plywood, a door and some carpeting for the floor. The real expense would be for an electrician to run a line into the room for some electric baseboard heat, lighting and an electric outlet.
If your dad and or brothers are at all handy with tools the job costs for materiel's shouldn't be more than $200 including a throw rug for the floor and the baseboard heater. The electricians cost is hard to estimate as it is based on costs where you live. Where I live, labor costs are extremely high. The work itself would take a half day or less to do. Here that cost would be $250 plus about $50 for materiel.
You might suggest this to mom and dad. Emphasis you know they need there privacy too. If you have heard them being intimate try and say so without actually telling them you have overheard them. That would be embarrassing.
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There's nothing you can do to change their mind. It's hard when there are older kids in the house because they have more privileges and they get their own room. It's tough being one of the young kids. You're probably just going to have to wait till they move out.
Until then, you should find another place to be alone when you get upset. Maybe outside somewhere.
Just be patient and try to be understanding about the situation.
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