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I serioulsy can't take this anymore. I understand this isn't a medical forum but I've been chronically constipated for a year and a half. I look pregnant right now. I stopped eating wheat, dairy.. and currently nuts to see if I have an allergy. Ive tried exlax, colace, miralax, probiotics. I've tried drinking tons of water and going for more walks. I've tried eating more greens.. things with more fiber. I've tried doing kegels. I had an xray done and it shows all my stool backed up but no blokage. All the doctors I get arent being invasive enough. but they say theres no blockage. I cant keep paying money for these specialists who barely do anything to figure out whats wrong. My stool is hard. I get diarrhea pains that make me fall to the floor but nothing will come out whenI try. I feel deformed. My stomach is not flat like it used to be. I have little energy, always irrtated. I even tried drinking that stuff you drink before a colonoscopy because some dumb doctor though it wolud help. It didnt. I was in the bathroom for 5 hours trying to finish that and nothing came out of it. I need help. Has anyone experienced this and gotten help? What kind of xrays should i get done? Ive seen so many doctors, tried so many things. I can't do this anymore. I seriously can't. I can't take this discomfort, pain, and worrying what is okay for me to eat and whats not. I'm at the point where I want to sop eating altogether. I even had an anal manometry test. It showed that some muscles were weak but kegels arent helping. please give me advice. please direct me to an amazing health forum that can fix me. I'm alwyas in pain. and its not chrons or celiac, they tested. What the hell is causing this constipation????
Unfortunately I know exactly how you feel as I had a similar situation with a back injury. After visiting a number of local doctors who handed out pills and said it was just a muscle problem my son, a paramedic, said why not try the patient referral Lin at one of the three hospitals in the area that are part of a teaching school.
We did, by luck of the draw the patient referral person set me up with an appointment with one of the top neurosurgeons in the country. He also was the head of the neurosurgery recovery unit for the hospitals trauma center. I sent him all the medical imaging and information from the doctors I had seen. It took him 5 minutes to diagnose me once we met. My problem was not muscular but skeletal and was not surgically correctable.
He set me up with the hospitals pain management center at their rehabilitation hospital which is also or I should say ranked in the top 5 in the county. It too is a teaching hospital.
If there is a teaching hospital or a medical school, which will have a teaching hospital associated with it, I suggest calling their patient referral line for help. They after speaking with you will set you with an appointment with the proper doctor to do an initial evaluation and if needed refer you to another doctor within the hospital.
What is nice I found about the teaching hospitals is the doctors have to stay ahead of their students for the students are always trying to please and show off to their supervising doctors. The interns, residents and fellows are not looking just for the pickle in the pickle barrel. They want to find the hearing in that pickle barrel. This is how they learn and please their supervising doctors and instructors.
My visits to the pain center always include a visit with their nurse practitioner, followed by either and exam by a resident and intern or one of the fellows and concludes with a consultation with my pain doctor. These visits are longer than your normal office visit. Yet when I come in with pain making it almost impossible to walk, I have yet to not to walk out on my own feeling better than when I arrived.
So try what the other adviser said and if their is a teaching hospital or even a level one trauma center near you. Try my suggestion as well.
ok so i have small boobs. I am 15 years old and will be 16 in may this year.I'm a softmore in high school and I am a B cup. it seems like all the other girls in my grade have big boobs that fill out their shirts but mine are just small i even wear push up bras but that barely helps.:( all guys ever talk about is boobs and I want bigger ones or atrleast decent sized ones to my body is proportional. I have a nice butt alot of guys say but i have never once ever heard a guy tell me i have nice boobs. Its frusterating, what can I do to help this situation?
Hi, at 15 your still going through puberty and your body and breast could change. Still the normal size for breasts are a B cup.
It is kind of funny but girls worry about the size of their breasts and boys about the size of their penis. The Breast and penis are part of us to supply certain functions. Breasts are to supply milk for your children when you have them. Be you a Double A cup to a double D cup they will still supply the same amount of milk.
Large or small a boys penis will still allow him to urinate and to impregnate a women. So size is not really a problem for the functionality.
As for sex appeal well everyone has their own thoughts about that. But one thought is always true. It is not you breasts that you future husband is going to marry, they are just part of the package. Sex is only a small part of a relationship. At some point you wake up one morning and need to talk to each other. If the only thing you have in common is sexual attraction then you have no relationship.
Your body is fine the way it is. Teenage males have no idea what they are talking about in the first place. When it comes time to find the right man to marry the size of your breasts is not what is going to be important it is the size of your heart and the love you have for each other.
Your beautiful just the way you are.
So Over the past 2 months or something Around there. I've noticed that my the back of my throat is always white. And from time to time it hurts. And then the other day I realized I have a small white cyst-like bump. Should I be worried about this?
We are not doctors and we should not be giving medical advice. Only your doctor can say for sure what is the cause of your problem.
What concerns me is not the whiteness at the back of your throat. It is the cyst-like bump that is truly abnormal and needs to be checked out by either your family doctor or an Eye, Ear, Nose and Throat Specialist
19/f
I'm a sophomore in college, living on my own. I have a really hard time making myself eat healthy. I've always been the kind of person who LOVES junk food. Sugar, fried stuff, you name it. I'm 5'3" and only 100lbs, so I'm very tiny and have never had a problem with my weight. I KNOW I can't possibly be healthy though. I work at a restaurant that sells stuff like cheeseburgers, fried chicken, french fries, etc. and I work about 60 hours a week, so most of my meals come from there. And since I work so much and go to school, I don't really feel like cooking healthy dinners when I have time to relax, so I end up getting fast food.
I eat pretty much every meal from a restaurant. It's expensive and I'm starting to notice how sickening it is. But I have no idea how I'm supposed to SUCCESSFULLY change my habits. I've tried to eat healthy before (and set realistic guidelines) and the moment I see junk food I can't stop myself. How do I develope eating habits that are inexpensive and how do I stick to it?
It is not as hard as you may think to eat healthy. You start by having a healthy breakfast, even if this means getting up 15 minutes earlier. There are plenty of healthy cereals that are not loaded with sugar that you can have with skim or soy milk for breakfast. You can also pack your own lunch
Lunch cab consist of fruits and vegetables that you can make into a nice salad with a piece of chicken you made at home oven roasted or a slice of roast beef or ham and maybe a hard boiled egg. You can find more lunch and dinner ideas that you can make at home that are quick and easy on the web. That can be made ahead on a day off.
Nothing says you have to eat the food where you work, especially if you have to pay for it. Many of the lunch ideas you need to look for are ones that do not need refrigeration. The dinners you make ahead should need only to be heated in the oven or microwave.
Eating healthy takes a little bit of time, some extra energy and some ingenuity. The benefit will be you will feel better and have more energy which will show results in your grades as well. It is not all that hard and it is way less expensive than eating all your meals where you work.
I have a 27 year old teacher that I have a crush on (I'm a girl) I'm a sophomore in high school and I really think my teacher flirts with me he touches me (but not in a sexual manner) and he winks at me when I am alone with him in a class room he always gets really close to me like he stands an inch away from me and he always smiles at me for no reason and he always stares at me for no reason and for a long time and if I'm in study hall with him he always sits next to me when there is 20 other empty seats. And he is always flirting with me but I can't say I don't like it because he is the hottest teacher in my school but I don't want either of us to get into any trouble. So does it seem like he like's me by what I just said?
I can't and won't say one way or the other as to whether he likes you or not. What I will say is he is being inappropriate in his manner and relationship with you..
As a sophomore the is at least a 12 to 14 year age difference between the two of you. Second he is your teacher and his actions are inappropriate for a teacher. Yes he can like you as a person but he should not be having the type of relationship you are describing to me.
I would suggest you talk to your parents about this. If they are as uncomfortable as I am about his relationship with you. Then they will take the appropriate action. For now though you should try to not be alone with him and to keep your distance from him.
I'm hoping an outside perspective will help me figure this out. Sorry that this will be long.
So I met a guy at work and he asked me out. I'm 22, he's 19. He's shy, has never had a girlfriend, so I thought I could trust him.
Our first date was amazing and it got really intense really fast...we ended up seeing each other every day (even on days when he was busy, he'd still come by to kiss me goodnight). I slept with him, which worried me but it didn't seem to ruin things. He treated me like a princess and we were both so happy.
Then after almost two weeks he all of the sudden got weird on me...stopping wanting to see me every day...in four days I only saw him once and it was so different, he was way less affectionate and just seemed zoned out. Finally he dumped me, saying that I "wasn't his type". I kept asking him to explain more and he would just say "I can't" and avoid eye contact.
The next day we talked and all he would say was that I "wasn't right for him".
I was really confused and hurt, I texted him asking if he could be a little more specific. He never replied. When I saw him at work he was way more friendly and flirty with more than usual...he tried to get them to move him to the register next to me and followed me around a lot.
I'm just confused...did I do something wrong? Did he just totally use me? I can't get an answer from him. I'd love to just forget him and move on, but I have to see him every day at work and it makes me really unhappy. What do I do?
He acted like a typical 19 year old male acts which at 23 you may have forgotten. He used you and loosed you. He said all the things a typical 19 year old knows what to say to get what he wants and you allowed him to get it. Once he got what he wanted it was time to move on.
As he matures, if he ever matures, he may become a player never really entering a real relationship. I believe when you first wrote us I suggested dating someone closer to your age and maturity for just this reason.
This certainly is not your fault, he played you and you fell for it. If he was 25 and a player it probably would have happened to you as well. Learn from this. Learn to identify the players out their as unfortunately their are many.
One way to identify a player is to watch out for the lines the give out. The I Love you line after one or two dates is usually a dead giveaway this guy is a player that wants to get you in bed. Then after he tires of you he will be gone.
Fortunately their are more nice guys out their then players. Just learn how to separate the bad from the good. You did nothing wrong here. You just got played, not your fault.
i have a large labia and i'm very insecure about it, yes i have been fingered and had sex but no-one has said anything to me but i wanted to know can the boy feel it in case they are talking about me and i don't know about it. someone help me? also is it a turn off??
From my point of view you are a very lucky girl. When the time comes for you to have sexual intercourse or even oral sex the young man is going to enjoy your large labia as will you.
While I will not go into my sex life with my wife. I will tell you I can drive her up a wall during oral sex when giving attention to her large labia. During intercourse it is a totally different feeling for me then with girls I had sex with before I met my wife; who had smaller labia's.
Please note I said smaller not normal. Vagina's, like boys penises come in several varieties, sizes and shapes. You are blessed with one that is going to make your future husband very happy and I would expect you as well.
I visited a cancer patient and was wondering. I wasn't wearing a mask or anything.
While there is some science to the effect that there may be a viral cancer it is still unsubstantiated.
When visiting a cancer patient the only reason to wear a mask is for the patients benefit to guard him/her against any viral pr bacterial infection you may be carrying as their immune system is compromised.
Since the science about a viral cancer is unsubstantiated and after 30 years in the fire department and transporting many cancer patients to hospitals. I would say you have nothing to worry about.
Do consider wearing a mask when visiting a cancer patient if you have a cold or recovering from an illness.
I've gotten fingered about 4 or 5 times by my boyfriend. I'm 15 and a female..( I had a typo the last time I posted this. ) the first time it kind of hurt but I got over it plus it was through my leggings so the friction scratch me and stung when I peed. The second time it felt okay & stung A LOT when I peed. The third time it felt really good but hurt at the same time and the pain to pee was painful but bearable. The fourth time it felt good but when I saw his hand it was covered in blood I was really embarrassed. It stung a bit to pee but nothing to bad, I asked about 2 other questions wondering why it hurt and that it stinged to pee but now I'm back because I got fingered again today and there wasn't any blood noticable on his hand & it felt good I felt him deeper.. but I'm not sure if my hymen is broken? Maybe torn but idk. Well my underwear is covored in blood, why does it keep happening with all this blood? It stings a bit but not much its just uncomfortable. Please help.
Thank you for writing us back and correcting the typo; I was very concerned you were being molested.
As to your question: The only person that can truly answer this question is your GYN. Now that you are having your periods you should be having yearly GYN checkups along with your yearly school physical.
I know you don't want mom to find out what you have been doing and she doesn't have too. Since you turned 14 you have by a law; known as HIPPA medical confidentiality.
This is a Federal Law which stands for Health Information Personal Privacy Act. Within this law is action specifically added by congress so young people like yourself could seek medical attention for their reproductive system without parental permission or knowledge.
The law provides for you to make appointments to see a doctor without parental knowledge or permission for anything related to your reproductive system. If your parents were to become aware of your visit to a GYN or any other doctor for treatment for a reproductive system. They would not be given any information. The Law gives you total privacy; only you can release this information to anyone and it must be in writing to your doctor. For a doctor to release privileged information without your permission the doctor is subject to loss of license, a $5,000 fine and a 5 year jail term.
If mom was to accompany you to the doctor she cannot be in the exam room with you. The doctor will not allow this without your permission. This entire section of this law was written this way so that young people would seek medical help when needed for their reproductive system and have the privacy and confidentiality to speak openly with the doctor. You can even request birth control medication, you do not need parental permission only your doctors permission and the doctor can only refuse for medical reasons.
You parent cannot force you to under go any exam or medical procedure you do not wish to have with one exception, that being a life saving procedure.
This means if you were to become pregnant the doctor could not tell them you are pregnant and when they find out if they find out, they cannot force you or stop you from having an abortion. That is your choice.
Your present problem requires a doctors treatment as your boyfriend may have scratched you or partially separated your Hyman. In either instance a doctor needs to check you and fix the damage.
I've gotten fingered about 4 or 5 times by my boyfriend. I'm 5 and a female.. the first time it kind of hurt but I got over it plus it was through my leggings so the friction scratch me and stung when I peed. The second time it felt okay & stung A LOT when I peed. The third time it felt really good but hurt at the same time and the pain to pee was painful but bearable. The fourth time it felt good but when I saw his hand it was covered in blood I was really embarrassed. It stung a bit to pee but nothing to bad, I asked a question wondering why it hurt and that it stinged to pee but now I'm back because I got fingered again today and there wasn't any blood noticable on his hand & it felt good I felt him deeper.. but I'm not sure if my hymen is broken? Maybe torn but idk. Well my underwear is covored in blood, why does it keep happening with all this blood? It stings a bit but not much its just uncomfortable. Please help.
I find it hard to believe you are only 5. Your writing, grammar and punctuation is way above that of your average 5 year old. so if you are 5 someone else is writing this for you.
At 5 years of age you should not be allowing anyone to touch your private parts. Whoever is touching you on your private parts if he is older than you is breaking the law.
Go to your mom and tell her what is happening.
13/F
Everytime someone says something unusual, I always find something bad from if. Example: If someone says "Knife", I'll automatically think that person HAS one or will end up having one.
I get paranoid a lot and I can't get medication for it. What can I do? :(
As you can see by the information I have provided below there are different types of paranoid. There is Paranoid (PPd) and Paranoia. They each have different symptoms Ans treatments as well as medications that can be prescribed.
Your family(GP)doctor is not qualified to treat or in some cases even properly diagnose these disorders. It takes a specialist such as a Board Certified psychiatrist as both of these disorders are mental health diseases.
I'm not a doctor none of us are. what I will say is it is normal to be a little paranoid at times. If you are truly concerned after reading what little information I have lifted from 2 websites.
Then I suggest you go to your parents, show them the information I found for you and explain how this fits the way you feel about yourself. Then ask them to get you an appointment with a board certified psychiatrist.
It is important that the doctor be board certified in psychiatry as this means he/she has taken special courses and a fellowship in psychiatry. In some states if a doctor takes as part of their residency a psychiatric residency they can practice psychology but they are not as qualified as the board certified doctor.
Paranoia
Definition
Paranoia is an unfounded or exaggerated distrust of others, sometimes reaching delusional proportions. Paranoid individuals constantly suspect the motives of those around them, and believe that certain individuals, or people in general, are "out to get them." (http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/paranoia)
Paranoid Personality Disorder (From WebMD)
Paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is one of a group of conditions called "Cluster A" personality disorders which involve odd or eccentric ways of thinking. People with PPD also suffer from paranoia, an unrelenting mistrust and suspicion of others, even when there is no reason to be suspicious.
This disorder usually begins by early adulthood and appears to be more common in men than in women.
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What Are the Symptoms of Paranoid Personality Disorder?
People with PPD are always on guard, believing that others are constantly trying to demean, harm, or threaten them. These generally unfounded beliefs, as well as their habits of blame and distrust, might interfere with their ability to form close relationships. People with this disorder:
Doubt the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of others, believing others are using or deceiving them
Are reluctant to confide in others or reveal personal information due to a fear that the information will be used against them
Are unforgiving and hold grudges
Are hypersensitive and take criticism poorly
Read hidden meanings in the innocent remarks or casual looks of others
Perceive attacks on their character that are not apparent to others; they generally react with anger and are quick to retaliate
Have recurrent suspicions, without reason, that their spouses or lovers are being unfaithful
Are generally cold and distant in their relationships with others, and might become controlling and jealous
Cannot see their role in problems or conflicts and believe they are always right
Have difficulty relaxing
Are hostile, stubborn, and argumentative
Alright, this is not my first child, but my first pregnancy went strangely, and I don't really remember much of anything about it. My first child was born at 23 weeks, and I was knocked out for an emergency cesarean, so I don't remember anything about it. This is my second pregnancy, *nearly 9 years later* and I've gone full term so far. *only a few more weeks to go* and I'm honestly terrified. I'm not sure what to expect or whatever... Everything is going well for my pregnancy, me and the baby are perfectly healthy as the doctors are always telling me. I don't know why though, but as the time gets closer and closer, I seem to feel more and more scared. Is this a normal response? Like I said, my first pregnancy was not a normal one.. This is my third as I lost the second one... Is being scared normal?
Given what you have gone through in your previous pregnancies. I believe it is the most normal thing for you to have valid concerns and to be scared or even fearful.
The most important question I have for you is this? Have you discussed these concerns and fears with your doctors? It is important that they be aware of your concerns as well as your past pregnancy history. If you have have fully informed your doctor of your past pregnancy problems and they are telling you that everything with this pregnancy is normal; then I would ask you to relax. The stress of your concerns is not good for you or your baby.
Years ago doctors felt that once a women had a cesarean section allow future deliveries would have to be done that way. Today doctors have found that for most women who have had cesarean section they can in future pregnancies have normal vaginal deliveries. So another question you should ask your doctor, to calm your fears is what type of delivery is he planning, cesarean or vaginal.
A vaginal delivery is much safer, for both you and the baby, if it is the right one for you. A Cesarean is a major operation though a routine one done daily in many hospitals across the country. Like any other there are risks.
My advice is to talk to your doctor and get all you questions answered and make sure he/she is aware of the problems with your past pregnancies. If your doctors are comfortable with everything being normal you should be as well and enjoying your pregnancy.
I loo forward to hearing from you when you are home enjoying your new baby.
my name is Rachel and I was checking out this dating site and the guy gave me his number and i gave him mine I had no idea that he was only 17 and i am 23 is it illegal in the state of Georgia for a 23 year old woman to date a 17 year old kid because if it is i am not going to prison for a 17 year old kid.
While you do not have a problem in the state of Georgia you may have a problem with Federal Law & should you cross a border into another state. That states age of consent laws which is most likely now 18 as is most states.
While a 6 year difference in ages should not be a problem, my own in-laws, mom was 5 years older then dad. At your present age you can expect society to take a dim view.
I'm not even sure he is old enough to drive while you are not only old enough to drive you are also old enough to drink. This could put some limitations on where the two of you can go on dates. Last but not least his parents may take a dim view of you dating.
My suggestion is no mater how mature he may seem on line, he is not really mature enough for you to be dating. You should be looking for some one at least 21 years of age so you can both enjoy the same type of entertainment and dining.
I hope you can help me with this.
I have been friends with my BFF for probably 16 years. She is my nephews mother. She used to be with my brother. He started abusing her and using drugs. It took her a long time to leave him. Even after they broke up I stuck with her she was the one that was wronged. She lived with me for a while until moving in with her mother. 4 years ago she met someone they got married. I was the moh in her wedding. We were the best of friends. We did everything together. I accepted her new husband. After a while there were things he would say or do that would piss me off but I kept my mouth shut. He's a very controlling person. There were several times he'd say rude things about our other friends and even their children. Again I kept my mouth shut. We decided almost a year ago to go to Florida together with our kids. As soon as we got there he started being an ass. Just being mean to us and it having to be his way. So while we were down there it was also my birthday. The day before we were at the resort clubhouse. The kids were swimming and my husband and gets were at the bar. I had bought tubes for the kids. I had my son she had hers and his nephew. So ok no biggie I don't mind paying the $7 each we are on vacation.
So we then all come together and eat. In the mean time my husband paid their $80 bar tab. So when we eat I get an order of fries my husband and son get wings. Total it was like $18. So when the bill comes we throw in $20. The next day is my birthday. Kerri and I decide we will go to magic kindom. Leave at 5 come home get dressed go out to eat for my birthday then go back to magic kingdom for fireworks. Well her husband yells why the F did we even come back. I say because that was our plan. So we are at a sushi place. The sushi I want comes as an appetizer. My husband the same and my son a meal. The rest of them all got meals as well. So the bill comes It was like $150. I put our $60 in and bobby her husband starts yelling and cursing this is bullshit you did this shit yesterday not paying. I was like add it up!! He still is cursing. I'm like ok what about the bar tab you left Jeff with or the tubes I bought for everyone. So at this point I'm crying. Kerri takes me to the bathroom. She's apologizing. Saying she doesn't know why he acts that way. We go on our way. The rest of the vacation was akward. One night I heard him yelling at her. So the day we are leaving we are stopping at the outlets. I've already been through a bottle of pepto my stomach was so upset by all of this. So I say you guys go to the outlets I'm going to Walgreens. So he was driving. He pulls up in front and we get out of the car kerri is standing in the van. I say bobby I'm taking the car to get pepto. He's just sitting there yelling get out get out. She says to him she's going to Walgreens. He is still cursing and takes off with the doors open and her standing. So I call my friend lorrie crying telling her what happened. I'm sitting on a bench. He walks by with her and my son and nephew. When he walks by he spit at me and it landed by my foot. I stand up walk away crying more,still on the phone, tell lorrie what happened and then my son runs up to me and says mommy bobby just spit on you. So I decide to get our luggage and take a cab to the airport. After that I have not spoken to him. I've seen him at different social settings but that's it. My friendship with kerri changed. We have hung out maybe 4 times since then and just text. We've always gone to Atlantic city once a year and go to concerts together but since then we haven't. So they announce Justin timberlake is going on tour. We have seen him 7 times its always been our thing to do. So the day before tickets go on sale she stops by and says bobby wants to go. I'm like ok have fun you can't expect me to be around him. And she's like I know what am I supposed to do? I say I don't know I'm not telling you to do anything but I'm hurt that the thing we've always done together we can't do anymore. How are we supposed to still go on with this already broken friendship. He has never apologized to me and my family. If he did we wouldn't be having this discussion now. She said he said he was going to but she told him not to. I find that hard to believe. So she left. He then texts me Kerri's upset I apologize. I say thank you hover it is hard for me to accept when it's so long overdue. You ruined my families vacation. So I then text her and say ok I'm willing to move forward and forget. If you want me to be around him I need to know what to do. If he makes ride comments about our friends or is just a dick. Do I keep it in and eventually blow up or do I say something right then and take the chance of you being mad at me. So a day goes by and I get a response from her saying I dk what to do. I told you I don't want to lose you. So here I've been crying all day night morning day and I get this text. I'm now upset that all of this time passes and I get a generic response. So here I am 3 1/2 days later. I've cried everyday now I'm feeling angry. I'm angry that she even asked me to go into that toxic situation with him. And I'm angry that he knew what him going was going to do to us and he doesn't care. She has no backbone and will never stand up to him. And I'm angry I've lost my friend. I don't know where to go from here? I am 33
I wish I had the worlds greatest answer for you. If I did I would also know how to cure the common cold. But I can't and I don't.
The only suggestion I can make is to offer Kerri an alternate solution to the situation. That you want to maintain your friendship with her and as much as it hurts to say this you can not take being in a family or even just the four adults situation with her and her husband. I don't feel you have to go into the why of it, she already knows why.
What you offer instead is to maintain your friendship as a twosome. Just doing things as you did as when you were young. Leaving the husbands at home to care for the children. These things would include going to that concert, meeting for lunches, having a ladies night out and even a short vacation just the two of you in some exotic place where you both can relax and be the friends you have always been.
You are not the only person(s) with this situation. At local social events you try and keep your distance for her husband. But nothing says as a family the four of you and your children have to be joined at the hip.
There is nothing wrong with the two of you becoming a twosome again and enjoying each others company without husbands and children. There will be times though when you and she may want to take the children to the park, the pool or the beach without your husbands. Again there is nothing wrong with this.
The husbands can play golf or whatever else they might enjoy doing by themselves. I'm fairly certain your husband will understand. I'm not sure her husband will.
and the fact that I won't be able to attend her funeral tomorrow afternoon.
This was a girl-my age-who was in a car crash with her mom and two other boys, though they are fine and her mom is crying and blaming it on herself, the entire school is feeling it's effects. She died on Tuesday, Tuesday afternoon, I learned Wednesday. Everybody was crying and hugging each other, some even went home of sadness and paranoia, the shock really. Her locker is now covered with cards and heaven wishes, and my locker is next to hers. I cry when I go to my locker now, cry when I see my friends cry. I did avoid my locker today, and yesterday too. The whole week Wednesday forward has been unstable. I cry in my sleep now, and I had a nightmare last night. My parents have tried to cheer me up, but it's not working. I didn't even know the poor sweet girl, yet I feel a sort of connection with her, and she was only in one of my classes (homeroom) and my Gym class. She was an athlete, playing three sports in one year, another to grow on that. But she's gone now ... I wish I had gotten to know her better, have said "bye" to her before we left school Tuesday ... but it's too late.
Grief has many different stages. Right now you are suffering one of the 5 to 8 stages of grief a person goes through when someone they know, even casually dies.
I am a bit surprised that your school has not supplied grief counseling for those like you who need it. Since the school may not be providing grief counseling I suggest you ask mom and dad to ask your family doctor for a recommendation on a grief counselor.
A trip to the family doctor for you would also be in order as the doctor can supply medication to help you through this period.
How can I find out someones I'd number? There contact number is 0762836629 and there name is justin. He was sexually abusing me and is false accusing people. The one person he false accused asked me to get his I'd number so he can report it to the police
Thanks x
Not being from South Africa I am not familiar with their laws. I would say that knowing his contact number and first name is more than sufficient information for the police to find him and begin their investigation.
The best thing to do is for you and your friend is to go to the closest police station and ask to speak with a sex crimes detective. Give them the information you have and let them take it from there. If they need you to provide information such as his ID number they will ask for it.
It is far better to go to the source of the people who you need help from to get the proper information then to rely on unsubstantiated information from unknowing friends or acquaintances.
How do I Wank my boyfriend
You could go on the web and look for different ways to give a hand job. I think the best way is to ask him to show you how he likes to be wanked.
According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate so then odds are you boy friend wanks off at home. If you ask him to show you how he likes to be wanked it will be more satisfying for him.
When you are ready to let him finger you. You should do the same thing and show him how you like to be touched and where. Most boys learn about sex from watching porn movies. They are not aware that there are some women that are more clitoral in there needs than vaginal. This is something you would need to teach them/him if you are one of those women.
Short lesson on sex. For the best sex; open communication about each others needs leads to the best sex lives.
my problem is..i like a guy who have a same last name as mine... im 25 and hes 21..i dont know why this is happening to me...im confuse..i tried to avoid him but we alway see each other..i tried to move on but every time i see him i cant help it..i try to talk to him or make him notice me..is this normal to like a guy who is younger than you and had the same last name as yours?? dating or liking a guy who is younger than me is big no no no to me esp. with a guy who share a same last name as mine...
I don't see anything wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with the 4 year difference in your ages. My mother in-law was 5 years older than my father in-law and they had a wonderful marriage.
As for having the same last name. Here two as long as you two are not direct blood relatives I see nothing wrong here. With as many common names as Smith, Murphy, Cooper and others it is not all that unlikely you could meet and fall in love with someone with your same last name. It does save money on any monogrammed towels you might have. Also if it was your intention to take his last name upon marrying you already have it so you save the trouble of changing all of your identification and passport.
I say go for it and try to get to know this guy. Guys have all sorts of lines to pick up girls. A new approach might be is to say you know with us having the same last name we should get married and save all the trouble of having to change all my identification. If nothing else its an ice breaker and hopefully he will get a good laugh from it. It will also tell him a little about what a fun loving girl you might be and peak his interest in dating you.
If or when the age issue comes up. Age is just a number if you two are compatible in every other way it should not stand in the way of you two having a life long relationship.
Good luck and happy hunting.
My boyfriend and i have been together for a year &1 month i really he has anger management issues and he agrees but he doesnt like talking about it so he takes it out on me but at the same time i deserve happiness to i really want to keep him he IS the one i know it how can i be a dream girlfriend?
I wish I knew a better way of say this but I don't. YOU CAN'T BE A DREAM GIRLFRIEND TO SOMEONE WITH ANGER MANAGMENT ISSUES.
This letter to us alone says you are already succumbing to the idea that you are the problem. You are not the problem you are the person he vents his anger and frustration on. This is an unhealthy relationship for you; for as his anger issues grow you are the one who will suffer. Both physically and mentally.
I can tell you love him but to stay in this relationship is dangerous for you. In fact I fear for your physical safety. All he needs to do is come home drunk one night mad at the world and you will be his punching bag. This unfortunately is a documented psychologically for someone with strong anger management problems.
The best thing you can do for him, if he truly loves you as you do him, is to leave this relationship. You tell him you will come back only after he has sought and attended professional help for his anger issues. You can if you wish offer to attend the counseling sessions with him; but that is as far as you go until he learns to control his anger.
I have spent most of my life attached to a fire department rescue squad. We are the ones dispatched with the ambulance when people are hurt. I have seen far to many domestic violence calls were the wife is the victim and we end up transporting her to the hospital. Occasionally with life threatening injuries.
I don't know where you live though I can tell you none of us want to ever come to the aid of someone who has been beaten by their spouse or significant other because he has anger management issues. One would think with everything we see in our working career we would become accepting of these things. It never happens. The day that happens neither we or the police who respond are any good to you. We hurt just as badly as you do when we have to care for you as these type of things are avoidable with the right kind of help.
You are early enough in your relationship that you can still walk away. If he gets the proper help you can try again. If not there is someone else out their who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
I apologize for the length of my answer; as you can see this is an issue that really upsets me. I have seen far to many of them.
i am having trouble answering this question. what do i need to put down when asked what ( subject of special study/research work) on a job application
This question is seen in two different areas on job applictions. when seen at the top of the application you are generally applying for a professional position such a Lawyer, any type of Engineer or other proffessional carreer.
When found at the botom of the application they are looking at job or position related studies, trade schools or seminars you may have attended.
My son is a firefighter/paramedic who is quite sough after for under this heading he has a whole lists of credentials related to being a paramedic that the average paramedic does no have. the average paramedic is qualified in trauma and cardiac care. My sons also a qualified inter hospital transport paramedic. Same license but more skills requied. These are what he woud put in that area as well as diffeent classes he takes to keep his license.