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Alright, this is not my first child, but my first pregnancy went strangely, and I don't really remember much of anything about it. My first child was born at 23 weeks, and I was knocked out for an emergency cesarean, so I don't remember anything about it. This is my second pregnancy, *nearly 9 years later* and I've gone full term so far. *only a few more weeks to go* and I'm honestly terrified. I'm not sure what to expect or whatever... Everything is going well for my pregnancy, me and the baby are perfectly healthy as the doctors are always telling me. I don't know why though, but as the time gets closer and closer, I seem to feel more and more scared. Is this a normal response? Like I said, my first pregnancy was not a normal one.. This is my third as I lost the second one... Is being scared normal?
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I was very scared when I gave birth to my son, Ezra. It is completely normal. Your biggest fear is not being ready especially the closer you get to the due date. I felt like I hadn't accomplished anything and wasn't ready. Also it could be a response to you losing your second and having an abnormal first one. You are afraid that when you get to the finish something is going to go wrong and you went through all that just to lose everything. I assure you, if you have made it this far, you will make it all the way. but the fears are completely hormonal and normal.
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Given what you have gone through in your previous pregnancies. I believe it is the most normal thing for you to have valid concerns and to be scared or even fearful.
The most important question I have for you is this? Have you discussed these concerns and fears with your doctors? It is important that they be aware of your concerns as well as your past pregnancy history. If you have have fully informed your doctor of your past pregnancy problems and they are telling you that everything with this pregnancy is normal; then I would ask you to relax. The stress of your concerns is not good for you or your baby.
Years ago doctors felt that once a women had a cesarean section allow future deliveries would have to be done that way. Today doctors have found that for most women who have had cesarean section they can in future pregnancies have normal vaginal deliveries. So another question you should ask your doctor, to calm your fears is what type of delivery is he planning, cesarean or vaginal.
A vaginal delivery is much safer, for both you and the baby, if it is the right one for you. A Cesarean is a major operation though a routine one done daily in many hospitals across the country. Like any other there are risks.
My advice is to talk to your doctor and get all you questions answered and make sure he/she is aware of the problems with your past pregnancies. If your doctors are comfortable with everything being normal you should be as well and enjoying your pregnancy.
I loo forward to hearing from you when you are home enjoying your new baby.
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I think it's perfectly normal to be scared. For one, it's a new experience for you and not knowing is scary as is. You also have had a couple of difficult experiences adding to your nerves.
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However I must say that the best thing is to be calm and take it as it comes. I would suggest talking to your doctor. They will give you the most relevant information and the options you have when giving labor. You can then take steps to make labor much better. I think once you become more informed your fear will reduce significantly. It won't go away mind you and that's ok.
Best of luck with you and your future baby!!
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