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What happened??
I'm hoping an outside perspective will help me figure this out. Sorry that this will be long.
So I met a guy at work and he asked me out. I'm 22, he's 19. He's shy, has never had a girlfriend, so I thought I could trust him.
Our first date was amazing and it got really intense really fast...we ended up seeing each other every day (even on days when he was busy, he'd still come by to kiss me goodnight). I slept with him, which worried me but it didn't seem to ruin things. He treated me like a princess and we were both so happy.
Then after almost two weeks he all of the sudden got weird on me...stopping wanting to see me every day...in four days I only saw him once and it was so different, he was way less affectionate and just seemed zoned out. Finally he dumped me, saying that I "wasn't his type". I kept asking him to explain more and he would just say "I can't" and avoid eye contact.
The next day we talked and all he would say was that I "wasn't right for him".
I was really confused and hurt, I texted him asking if he could be a little more specific. He never replied. When I saw him at work he was way more friendly and flirty with more than usual...he tried to get them to move him to the register next to me and followed me around a lot.
I'm just confused...did I do something wrong? Did he just totally use me? I can't get an answer from him. I'd love to just forget him and move on, but I have to see him every day at work and it makes me really unhappy. What do I do?
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He acted like a typical 19 year old male acts which at 23 you may have forgotten. He used you and loosed you. He said all the things a typical 19 year old knows what to say to get what he wants and you allowed him to get it. Once he got what he wanted it was time to move on.
As he matures, if he ever matures, he may become a player never really entering a real relationship. I believe when you first wrote us I suggested dating someone closer to your age and maturity for just this reason.
This certainly is not your fault, he played you and you fell for it. If he was 25 and a player it probably would have happened to you as well. Learn from this. Learn to identify the players out their as unfortunately their are many.
One way to identify a player is to watch out for the lines the give out. The I Love you line after one or two dates is usually a dead giveaway this guy is a player that wants to get you in bed. Then after he tires of you he will be gone.
Fortunately their are more nice guys out their then players. Just learn how to separate the bad from the good. You did nothing wrong here. You just got played, not your fault.
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Never had a girlfriend also means never broken up with someone, so clearly he was pretty bad at it. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt in that he told you the truth about never dating anyone / being a virgin in which case he just doesn't know how to properly do the whole "it's not you, it's me" thing.
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He used you, he's an asshole
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1. Never mess with a coworker... Once you split.... You can't really split... Feel me...
2. Yeah... From a guys perspective... Sounds like he was/is using you. A lot of guys use the "shy" thing because girls feel safe around a shy guy. Makes it easy for them to take advantage.
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