Young, Wild ,& Free. I live my life in a crazy way. I've learned a million lessons the hard way. That I think is the best way. I was told to find this site because I always have friends asking me for advice. Apparently I give good advice. I do not have Masters in psychology. I was legally certified as a genious with an IQ of 186 when I was 14 years old. In other words I didn't have a lot of friends. lol I have acquired a great knowledge and I am here to pass it along to others. I am not a know it all and I do not have all the answers. I am just a person filled with random facts, points of interest, and tons of great advice! Feel free to add me on facebook. I am more than happy to talk outside of this site 1 on 1 and will happily help you through what ever I can over long time periods. I'm not just here to give advice. I'm here to help make lives better by influencing good life decisions and problem solving skills.
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ok, this guy always comes to the cafe when im ther, he does stuff for me, he even lent me his jacket when i had mine on my arm!!! i wonder if he likes me. he always touches me on the shoulders,and neck. What should i do?
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Yeah. He likes you. If you like him. Talk to him. Flirt a lil. If you don't... Put a stop to it quickly before he gets mixed signals. That can be potentially dangerous.
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I am 24 years old and I think i might be pregnant here is my problem my mom says that I have the mind of a 13 year old legally she has court ordered custody of me and has papers saying that I cannot take care of myself and i afraid that if i am pregnant she will be able to force me to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption because we don't have the money to take care of a baby right now my mom is sick and had to retire earlier from her job because she was sick and could no longer work the boss drove her home that day and said come back when your better but she never did get better. we don't have any room for a baby we live in a 2 bedroom house 1 bathroom and we already have 3 kids living with us that my mom has custody of. I am also afraid that my boyfriend will go to jail for statutory rape laws because of how young i am in my mind please help me i am scared. (link)
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Well I'm not an expert nor a lawyer but I am like 80% sure she cannot make you do either of those things. You should contact an attorneys office and ask to be sure.
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Wednesday was slap ass Wednesday declared the freshmen. I missed doing this in middle school (4 long years ago) so i joined in. Today me, Goldy(pokemon guy, Twinky), Shell(naive little sister), K(oh God she's a ear virgin), Ani(anime girl) and Tori(book smart and violent) were talking about that. They were laying on the floor dog piled on Ani. We talked about how much Tori missed since she's not in drama club. I slapped her ass because she wasn't there. She then tried to kill me and she chased me around the school. Five times i almost had a heart attack.
After calming down i showed Tori that i can lap dance and pole dance. Her reaction_ Oh shit. It gets interesting here. There was a guy watching. His name is Ryan. He seemed to like what he saw. He seductively glared and growled. I got freaked out, ran and Shell chased me. I was scared another man was gonna try to get lucky. (Bad memory). I calmed down then went back. Ryan said that he didn't know he was such a turn off. Ani said that i liked black guys (he's white). Shell made me introduce myself but i was exaggeratedly afraid.
He wasnt taylor lautner hot, usher sexy or logan lerman cute but he was adorable in a skater boy kind of way. Now i cant get him out of my head. I feel weird. Help. (link)
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This should be an episode of 2 broke girls...
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What good does it do? Im sad all the timr hate self (link)
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Chances are someone somewhere loves to see your face.
I think you're pretty damn awesome myself. Its not easy to admit these things or ask for help. So kudos to you awesome person!
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I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 21 years old. We have been in a relationship for 6 months, but were acquaintances for almost 3 years before dating.
In the past week, he has suffered some pretty devastating events. On Sunday, his aunt suddenly passed away and today he lost his job. After his aunt's death, he was visibly struggling. He lost interest in sex and we practically had no alone time because when we would finally get home after being out wherever we were (usually his uncle's house) he would just want to go to right to sleep. I started to feel kind of neglected.
Then today, he lost his job. Right now he has to live paycheck to paycheck, which means he won't be able to pay any of his bills like the car loan, insurance, cell phone, etc. He briefly told me what happened and he was going to his uncle's to have a few beers. So I tried to show my support by telling him that he still had me and I would stand by him. He responded by asking me to leave him alone for now. So reluctantly, I am obliging.
My problem is that I am over sensitive and over emotional. I was diagnosed with a mood disorder when I was 16 years old, so it's more difficult for me to cope with difficult occurrences in my life. I get very depressed. Because of my boyfriend's attitude change this week (which I know is probably understandable) I have felt a bit neglected. I tried to express that to him last night before the whole job fiasco happened, and he responded by saying how could I expect to have his undivided attention when he's got so much on his mind (his aunt's death). I tried to understand that by apologizing and asking for a clean slate when we woke up and he agreed.
I know that I am probably coming across as selfish, but for my own sanity I just need some advice on how to cope with him shutting down like this. He's not only my boyfriend but he's my best friend and I wish I could help him through this, but I know the men and women respond differently to stress. Men generally don't want to talk about it the way women do, so I know it's not wise to try and pressure him. But until he's ready to talk to me, or until he feels better and acts more like himself, how do I cope with feeling shut out?
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Every person deals with things differently. I for instance head on right into them and get it solved as quickly as possible or just blow it off. If I was in his position I would have blocked it and kept moving on. That's how I work. My ex on the other hand. She would just shut down. No matter what it was she would walk away and shut me out wether it was me or something else. When ever she would do this I being the dive in head first type would try to head on into it and fix it which would just make her pissed at me and we would fight. I learned that I just needed to give her the space she wants and let her deal with it her way no matter how badly I wanted to be the shoulder she cried on or the knight in shining armor to save the day. I could not do that. I would just let him deal with it and keep offering to be there. Make an effort but don't be forceful. Let him know you care and you hurt when he does. If he pushes you away. Just back off and give him his space.
Good luck
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But he apologized for even bringing it up in the first place and now he feels bad andI told him that his dick is mine and only mine and he is fine with it but I just need the image out of my head. The one of him putting his shit in my best friend.... its weird ans he keeps telling me tht he loves me and only wants me and he told me tht he could see us together. (link)
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Trust me hun I've been there before. He doesn't love you the way he should. He may care. I don't doubt that, but if he loved you he wouldn't have brought it up. No respectable male would do that to the person they love. I wouldn't category someone held a gun to my head and told me if I didn't screw another female in front of my girl they were going to blow my head off. I wouldn't do it because I know that regardless of the outcome... If I do that... She will never look at me the same again and I would have to see the pain in her eyes every time I looked at her. He is not worth your time. You can find better and you do deserve better.
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I have a huge crush on my attractive female teachers who is like 28 I believe. I am flat out obsessed with this girl I;d say, -I always walk by her room or try to go wherever she is and at the end of the day just to see her leave,.i 'm willing to buy any school related paper and yearbook just to see if any pictures of her are in it, I went searching for her Facebook account, and I found it and I find myself staring at a lot of pictures of her. I get mad just whenever I see another boy go up and talk to my teacher, but the worst thing of all is that she is married and I can't stand that she is. I have feelings of hate towards her husband just because she is married to him and want him to die and I sometimes like to rip papers up or something pretending it is him. Do you think this is a problem I should tell someone about? (link)
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In addition to all of these perfectly correct answers. It is also illegal. She would be incarcerated (put in jail) for having any relations with a student. She isn't even supposed to have you on Facebook. Would you like her to be locked kosher you never see her again.... Probably not. You should talk to your school counselor about this as soon as possible! It is unhealthy for you.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and im thinking its time to have sex. Im kind of nervous and want to know what to be aware of. Some of my friends said I might bleed or something? I might cry or scream? what should I know before I actually do have sex and lose it.. I need advice asap please? Personal experience..anything .. (link)
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6 Months is no where near long enough to give up something you have kept for 16years. And yes. You will bleed because it tears your skin the first time and it (from what I've heard from girls) hurts like hell the first time.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month we are both in high school. My boyfriend asked me one day last week if I would want to do a three sum with him and my best friend at first I thought he was kidding but then today he asked again and before he did tell me he was seriouse but I said idk. But today I was talking to him and my friend on Skype. He asked again and so then I asked my friend if she would want to she was down w it but then I started to tear up bc my bf used to have a crush on my friend and he had one on her for 4yrs. And so I kept crying cuz I can't picture him putting his penis in her knowing the fact tht he liked her but he loves me and always says it but it feels weird. How do I get the image of them out of my head? I can't take it an my bf is trying to help me and he apologized for bringing it up but I keep picturing him putting his thing in her. Yes ik he will do it back to me but still I can't get it out of my mind.... HELP!! (link)
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If he asked you that he doesn't lives you. Flat out. You need to get rid of that loser before you get any more attached and you get hurt.
I would never ask a girl I was with for that. In fact my ex asked me if her me and her female friend could have a 3some for my birthday. I told her no. I love her and I am only hers. That is how a boyfriend should be.
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Do you guys believe in those pictures or comments that say something like "Repost in 4 minutes or else"? I'm scared of those things... (link)
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Do you really think there is a doctor standing in front of his laptop crying saying 476 more likes and I can save this lil girls life...
No.
It is all just a hoax for more ratings and popularity.
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how do you know if a guy just wants to hang out with you & is just being nice to you to just get in your pants? (link)
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2 Questions that will make your answer very obvious...
1. Is he a male...
2. Are you a female...
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Hi everyone (:
I'm 5'4" and I weigh 112 lbs. Is that too much and how much weight should I lose if it is?
I dont have time to go to a doctor right now and I dont trust the whole BMI thing.. what do you guys think? I'm 19 years old btw.
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5'4 @ 112.... 19 Years old... Shiiittt... Call me a chubby chaser if that's overweight... I'd be all over that.
You are no where near fat. You are underweight. Either way... I think you are at a perfect size. All of my past girlfriends were the same size you are and they are models and dancers in Las Vegas. Gorgeous girls just like you.
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I'm 19/f
I'm on birth control for almost a year now but everytime me and my boyfriend have sex I'm still afraid that I'll get pregnant. I've been thinking about asking him to still use a condom so I can relax more about this stuff. I also dont really like the feeling when he cums inside me because it often burns. The problem is that I know he prefers having sex without a condom cause it gives him more pleasure.
So what should I say to him and how do I explain this to him? I'm really scared that I wont be able to pleasure him anymore.. (link)
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To put this simple. Tell him its your body and you choose how to use it. Birth control is no where near a for sure thing. Girls get preg on BC every day. Your body naturally works up an immunity to it over time. Don't take the chance. It is an 18 year or more price to pay.
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My fucking god, she is so amazing and beautiful. i have fallen for her big time. We are pretty close and she trusts me a hell of a lot..
I would say i could be Bi.. But no one knows, atall. I do want to tell people but i just think it will pass. So, she thinks i am straight and when i compliment her its just me being nice... but i mean it with every fucking ounce of my body. I tell her she is beautiful when she feels worthless.
I think about her all the time.. i couldnt possibly tell her so how do i control this, what do i do - its out of control (link)
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What goes unsaid also goes unheard. If you don't say anything she will never know. As far as being gay/bi, that's not like a cold. It's not going to just pass. Being attracted to women for you is the same as me liking brunettes. Its natural. You can't change it and hiding of will just eat at you. Speak up. Let her know.
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I hate you Americans.I am a Pakistani 12 years old girl.Why...Why are you killing Muslims.You all will go to Hell.Why are you killing innocent people.My question is that why are you killing innocent children.Someday,I will kill you all.If not me,than god will sent you to hell. (link)
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Your hate is sadly misplaced. Americans do not make decisions of war. Our government does. We do not have a choice in the matter once we join the military. We are forced to do as we are told at that point. Trust me. Most of is Americans hate our government just as much as you do. I am one of them. I personally don't see why we are even in Pakistan anymore. I relive the American government is corrupt and overpowered to say the least. I love all people from all countries and all races. I'm an American and I don't agree with my countries government. Sadly there is nothing I can do about it. We can't even afford to feed our country yet we are paying for a war. Its disgusting. I'm sorry you have. to see the things that happen in war. There is no reason a child should ever be a part of that. You have expressed your opinion on an American forum and have gotten the attention of many people. Perhaps you should keep doing this and maybe, just maybe it will get to someone who can make a difference and tell free us all from this tragic war.
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I hope you can help me with this.
I have been friends with my BFF for probably 16 years. She is my nephews mother. She used to be with my brother. He started abusing her and using drugs. It took her a long time to leave him. Even after they broke up I stuck with her she was the one that was wronged. She lived with me for a while until moving in with her mother. 4 years ago she met someone they got married. I was the moh in her wedding. We were the best of friends. We did everything together. I accepted her new husband. After a while there were things he would say or do that would piss me off but I kept my mouth shut. He's a very controlling person. There were several times he'd say rude things about our other friends and even their children. Again I kept my mouth shut. We decided almost a year ago to go to Florida together with our kids. As soon as we got there he started being an ass. Just being mean to us and it having to be his way. So while we were down there it was also my birthday. The day before we were at the resort clubhouse. The kids were swimming and my husband and gets were at the bar. I had bought tubes for the kids. I had my son she had hers and his nephew. So ok no biggie I don't mind paying the $7 each we are on vacation.
So we then all come together and eat. In the mean time my husband paid their $80 bar tab. So when we eat I get an order of fries my husband and son get wings. Total it was like $18. So when the bill comes we throw in $20. The next day is my birthday. Kerri and I decide we will go to magic kindom. Leave at 5 come home get dressed go out to eat for my birthday then go back to magic kingdom for fireworks. Well her husband yells why the F did we even come back. I say because that was our plan. So we are at a sushi place. The sushi I want comes as an appetizer. My husband the same and my son a meal. The rest of them all got meals as well. So the bill comes It was like $150. I put our $60 in and bobby her husband starts yelling and cursing this is bullshit you did this shit yesterday not paying. I was like add it up!! He still is cursing. I'm like ok what about the bar tab you left Jeff with or the tubes I bought for everyone. So at this point I'm crying. Kerri takes me to the bathroom. She's apologizing. Saying she doesn't know why he acts that way. We go on our way. The rest of the vacation was akward. One night I heard him yelling at her. So the day we are leaving we are stopping at the outlets. I've already been through a bottle of pepto my stomach was so upset by all of this. So I say you guys go to the outlets I'm going to Walgreens. So he was driving. He pulls up in front and we get out of the car kerri is standing in the van. I say bobby I'm taking the car to get pepto. He's just sitting there yelling get out get out. She says to him she's going to Walgreens. He is still cursing and takes off with the doors open and her standing. So I call my friend lorrie crying telling her what happened. I'm sitting on a bench. He walks by with her and my son and nephew. When he walks by he spit at me and it landed by my foot. I stand up walk away crying more,still on the phone, tell lorrie what happened and then my son runs up to me and says mommy bobby just spit on you. So I decide to get our luggage and take a cab to the airport. After that I have not spoken to him. I've seen him at different social settings but that's it. My friendship with kerri changed. We have hung out maybe 4 times since then and just text. We've always gone to Atlantic city once a year and go to concerts together but since then we haven't. So they announce Justin timberlake is going on tour. We have seen him 7 times its always been our thing to do. So the day before tickets go on sale she stops by and says bobby wants to go. I'm like ok have fun you can't expect me to be around him. And she's like I know what am I supposed to do? I say I don't know I'm not telling you to do anything but I'm hurt that the thing we've always done together we can't do anymore. How are we supposed to still go on with this already broken friendship. He has never apologized to me and my family. If he did we wouldn't be having this discussion now. She said he said he was going to but she told him not to. I find that hard to believe. So she left. He then texts me Kerri's upset I apologize. I say thank you hover it is hard for me to accept when it's so long overdue. You ruined my families vacation. So I then text her and say ok I'm willing to move forward and forget. If you want me to be around him I need to know what to do. If he makes ride comments about our friends or is just a dick. Do I keep it in and eventually blow up or do I say something right then and take the chance of you being mad at me. So a day goes by and I get a response from her saying I dk what to do. I told you I don't want to lose you. So here I've been crying all day night morning day and I get this text. I'm now upset that all of this time passes and I get a generic response. So here I am 3 1/2 days later. I've cried everyday now I'm feeling angry. I'm angry that she even asked me to go into that toxic situation with him. And I'm angry that he knew what him going was going to do to us and he doesn't care. She has no backbone and will never stand up to him. And I'm angry I've lost my friend. I don't know where to go from here? I am 33
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No matter what you do or say. It is still HER relationshit. No matter how bad. It is not your place to get in it. You can advise her but that is about it. I understand you wanting to help her better her life... but there is really nothing you can do other than try to talk sense into her to a point. Once she has had enough of what toy have to say, Stop saying it. Otherwise she is out of your life forever. I'd suggest apologizing asap.
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This girl and i have been off and on for about 2 years now. She was pregnate with a child, whom was not mine when i met her. We dated (baby died of heart failure) for about a year. She then cheated on me and dated Mr. Macho. After about half a year, she came back wanting me. I accepted, but she was just playing games with me, not really wanting to get back together. Several months pass again, and she now wants me more than ever. Asking for kisses, chance after chance after chance.. I dont know what to do. I do have feelings for you, but the trust.. just is NOT there. Please help me. (link)
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Relationships are built on trust and honesty bro... There is neither in this case. I advise you to run for the hills man.
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now me and my boyfriend for the first time had sex twice last week, the 25th and the 27th, he used a condom and im pretty sure it didnt break. i usually get my period at the end of the month or the beginning.of the month, its now the 5th, and im kinda late. idk if i should worry, or not. it was my first time so idk! please some advice xxxxx (link)
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Almost every time my wife and I hahe sex it changes her cycle. I wouldn't get too worried about it. As the other advisor stated. It's never a bad idea to be sure.
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I asked out this guy at school today and he said yes. The problem is, we don't have anywhere to go. We are both 16 and he can drive. Any ideas? (link)
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I am 26 years old and the best date scenario I have even been a part of even to this day is Mini golf. It is fun, interactive, and you can actually talk and get to know the person. Lazertag, a zoo, bowling, or an aquarium are also amazing date choices.
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I want to shave my legs but last time I asked my mom she said no (two years ago). I really want to hav shaved legs in the spring but I'm scared my mom will say no. Plzzz help!!!! (link)
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The other user answered this perfectly. I'd just like to warn you. Waxing is painful. In my experience excruciating.
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