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I'm on birth control pills but still want to use a condom
I'm 19/f
I'm on birth control for almost a year now but everytime me and my boyfriend have sex I'm still afraid that I'll get pregnant. I've been thinking about asking him to still use a condom so I can relax more about this stuff. I also dont really like the feeling when he cums inside me because it often burns. The problem is that I know he prefers having sex without a condom cause it gives him more pleasure.
So what should I say to him and how do I explain this to him? I'm really scared that I wont be able to pleasure him anymore..
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Just tell him.
If sex is uncomfortable and stressful for you, he's going to get less and less of it.
He might be miffed about using condoms. You might want to explore other ways you can pleasure each other besides penetrative sex.
But in the end, the choice for him is between bullying his girlfriend into having sex without condoms and watching her grow more and more stressed and unhappy about sex OR putting on a condom and having fun - He'll probably make the sensible and respectful choice.
Standing up for your own needs can be tough, but it's still what you need to do here.
KarenR is also right that you should see a doctor: Burning after unprotected sex is not uncommon, and it might just be something you body does... But there are also medical issues that could be at play and addressed. So talk to a doctor.
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I can't feel anything with a condom, and if I had a gf tell me that.. she won't be my gf. YMMV.
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If his wearing a condom helps you to feel safer,
then he needs to respect you enough to wear one.
Being on the pill IS the most reliable form of birth control. The chances of you getting pregnant are slim. HOWEVER, if you are more comfortable with him wearing one, THAT is what
he should do.
I must also correct the myth that
you will become immune to birth control pills
over time. You won't. Taking them for a long
period of time may make it take a while to get pregnant when you want to. But taken "as directed"
consistently, they will work fine. Thats not to say that some won't be in that 1% who will get pregnant while taking them correctly. I just don't want you or others reading this to think
they aren't safe taking them.
If you are having burning without one, you do need to get that checked out. That shouldn't be happening at all. So please see a doctor about
the cause of that. Then, discuss your fears with
your doctor too. He/she will be more than happy to talk with you about it. After all that you
should be able to talk to your boyfriend about
it better.
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To put this simple. Tell him its your body and you choose how to use it. Birth control is no where near a for sure thing. Girls get preg on BC every day. Your body naturally works up an immunity to it over time. Don't take the chance. It is an 18 year or more price to pay.
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