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I need advice: I'm telling him to leave me alone is that the right thing to do?
Okay so I've been having this boyfriend for like about 2 1/2 years . I resently Acussed him of talking to his ex so we got into an argument . I always acusse him of stuff like this by the way and during the argument he said I was a bitch because I keep goin on and on about how he was lieing and whatever ..so after he did that a few hours later I texted him and ask how could he say that and he still wouldn't say sorry or anything he was still upset he wasn't still calling me a bitch I mean that is like the first time he's actually said that to me so later on tht night I've been ignoring him and now he's just saying sorry and I'm telling him to leave me alone is that the right thing to do . ????????????
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If you want to make this relationship work, you need to trust him. You both need to trust each other and communicate. If you always accuse him of things like this, he'd get mad, of course. I'm assuming you have good reasons why you're accusing him of talking to his ex. If so, then talk it out but if you can't trust him, then this relationship will not work.
He is in the wrong because he is calling you names, it's disrespectful and wrong.
You both should not be fighting though. You need to talk out your problems rather than argue about them. He snapped and said some things he shouldn't have, forgive him. After that, fix your problems. You either trust him or you don't.
As of right now, just give it some time to cool off and then talk, without fighting or arguing.
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Relationships are about give and take. By not trusting him, you're disrespecting him (assuming he's not doing anything wrong). By calling you names, he's disrespecting you.
In the past, I've had some awful fights with my husband. We've both done things to each other that we would never have thought would happen. The reason why we've managed to make it is because we recognized that as a sign that we needed to change how we were fighting and try to break the pattern. This is what I would suggest to you.
If you can't trust your boyfriend, you shouldn't be with him. Really, it isn't a crime to talk to an ex: I'm good friends with one of mine. You should be able to trust him to talk to anyone without a risk of infidelity. If he hasn't been unfaithful to you in the past and you're accusing him, that's on you. You're going to have to work on your own trust issues before you can expect this relationship to work out. You don't need to suppress these feelings of jealousy, but you definitely need to learn how to express them in a better way.
Meet up with your boyfriend. Talk to him about why what he did hurt you, and listen to him. Try to come to a mutual agreement on how to work towards more productive expression of your feelings. Instead of "You're still talking to her, and you're lying to me!" try something more along the lines of "I'm worried that you're still in contact with your ex, and that you'll leave me for her." That way you take ownership of your feelings and allow him to help you.
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I think it probably is. One of the things that make any relationship work is trust. It doesn't sound like you trust him very much. You may have very good reasons for feeling that way, but as long as you do the relationship will not work.
Its probably best for you to move on & find someone who you can trust & one that won't call you names when he gets mad.
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Sounds like there is no trust in a relationship. Zi don't care how pissed someone gets, Calling someone hurtful names is unacceptable. My two cents? Dump hom and move on. You both don't sound compatible anyway.
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