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About a year ago, a guy and myself (a girl) were partners in a class for an entire year and we got along really well. He is a really good friend of one of my best friends and is genuinely a nice sweet guy. He is or was dating a girl who absolutely hates me. This hatred started last year and still lasts now. We are still partners in the same class and today when I walked over to the computer to help him, he blushed and was more awkward then usual and his friends started messing with him. I also make sure he does good in the class because I understand it well. In addition to this, two of my friends and one of his friends think that I like him and he feels the same. Today, he said that he does not have a girl friend and today the girl was really upset. Also, one of our mutual friends said that he liked me last year and I said that he didn't and she insisted he did, but then she started changing the subject. Any opinions on what I should do next? Does he like me or am I just overthinking?

First, does it really matter to you what his friends or your friends think. At some point in our lives, we all have to learn to live our lives for ourselves, not based on what the general populace says or believes we should be, who we should be, etc. Some learn it younger but most by age 29, 30 make their final decisions on defining who and what they are and make their life choices accordingly.

What you believe about him as just a friend or possibly more is your choice. But then it is also his. The two of you have to feel the same about staying friends or if there is curiosity on both your parts to explore if there might be more. So all the he said, she said aside, do you want to remain just friends, or do you feel attracted to him as a boyfriend and curious to find if he feels the same? If he's shy or fearing rejection, he may never ask and you'll never find out. Since you wrote me, I believe it's important enough to you to know. So ask him. Unless it's obvious he's dating someone, you'll never know unless you ask.
So try: Hey Jake, I've been enjoying your friendship and working as partners in class. Recently, I've been wondering if there could be something more, but I need to know if you are dating anyone. If he says no. Then 'How do you feel about dating each other. Do you feel any kind of attraction that way. If you don't that's okay, I just thought to ask.
Watch how you word it so you leave him an out if he isn't interested so he doesn't feel cornered, embarrassed or afraid of offending you. You want the truth, right? Even if its something you didn't want to hear. Good luck.

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The question entered my mind when an ignorant individual said on Yahoo that they thought that a woman could get pregnant from a swimming pool if semen was in the water. I specifically was of the thought that the a woman could use the cheapest and most prevalent form of birth control if after unprotected intercourse she sat herself down in a bathtub and directed the spray up into her vagina. The spray that I'm talking 'bout is that of a water nozzle that would spray water at fairly high pressure. If water does in fact kill semen then there would be no need for all these shenanigans re: abortion. Of course there would still be the problem of STDs.

I know I've read a caution somewhere on spraying anything in the vagina after having sex with a man's cum inside. Spraying water, instead of washing every single last live sperm out of the vagina, may actually direct the sperm by force of the spray directly into the vagina.

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21/f, 27/m

We've been dating for about 6 months but we don't see each other as often. I only see him once a week, there are four weeks within a month, so that means I've seen him at least 24 times (which is not a lot in my opinion).

I asked him last night if he feels like we've been improving and he told me that he's worried about my emotional well-being. I didn't understand at first but eventually he just told me that he's worried about my emotional well-being, that was the main thing he was worried about being with me.

I have depression and anxiety disorder. I didn't want to take medication for it, I tried going all natural (working out, doing things I feel like I can enjoy) to release the chemicals in my brain. I'm usually not feeling down, but I won't say there aren't times where I fall back a few steps or I feel really depressed--but I try my best to feel better afterward.

The second thing he said was that he doesn't like the awkwardness. He doesn't like how awkward and uncomfortable I am around big crowds--to the point where he doesn't bring me around his friends. He told me that wasn't news for him since I told him months ago, I'm very conservative and introverted. I can't meet a lot of people at the same time, I'd rather meet a few friends at a time instead of all at once because it's overwhelming. He told me that he just won't bring me around his friends. I don't think that's a very good solution to this.

He said he's sure there are more things that bothered him, but he doesn't have a list. I told him that I wish he told me sooner instead of dragging it out. I told him that I think we should really talk about these things because if we can't find a solution or communicate about these things, there's no point in continuing on seeing each other. He didn't respond to me when I said that.

For a while, I felt like he was saying that he just doesn't like me. I'm naturally awkward and I have depression and anxiety. It made me wonder why is he with me then, why does he continue to see me? I don't know what to do about the friend thing or the "awkwardness," I don't know what to say or how to even start the conversation to get things resolved.

I would have to agree that once a week is not enough for a couple to learn more about each other and to gain trust and get better at communicating.

If a guy wasn't looking for a girlfriend relationship, but just a female social friend, a person to do things together with, then once a week works for that.
Good for you for being upfront and honest in the beginning or close to it. Perhaps he had no idea if he could truly handle it so at least he was willing to give it a try. Since he likes socializing and hanging out as a group and wanting to bring a female friend to such events, obviously, you are not going to work for him. Since he says there are more things but won't mention it, perhaps he is trying in a round about way to break it off with you without having to be the one to say I want to break up.

In your words you said IF, which a person can assume means you want to continue to try for a solution, as in If we can't find a solution, no point seeing each other. Perhaps he doesnt want to try to come up with a solution, which means he liked you well enough but isn't in love with you. Someone head over heels for you is going to want to do everything and keep trying cus they can't stand being apart from you while at the same time they don't like dealing with the issues.

I think he hoped to hear you say, "Okay, well, looks like we are too different so lets agree to break it off right now. Guys can be really chicken at being honest with females and to some extent I understand, if they don't know the female well enough to know how she will react to him breaking it off, they wont go there. they hear too many or have experienced too many females who act possessive, mean spirited, bitchy, psycho from emotions all over the place due to her cycles or PMS, or cry and sob and beg him to take her back. That's stuff many guys cant handle and are afraid of.
So I don't think you'll ever hear it from him. You'll have to tell him that you are breaking it off with him.

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Gender:f age:15

I really like this boy. We used to talk like ALOT. But he's made other girl friends and talks to me less. We have been friends for a year. I want to ask him out but I dont know how. He's asked for my number, and he likes to make dirty jokes with me too. But I'm the only one he makes dirty jokes. I really don't know what he wants either. Once my friend was like" aw you guys dating? . You cute" he got really red and it was awkward cause I really like him. He got jealous when I was talking to this boy (the boy was my cousin and he didn't know) I caught him staring at me he really red and had snapped a pencil. But why would he distance himself if he likes me you know? But anyways, I just want to know how to ask him out,if I should, and for. What reason would he distance himself? Tysm.

Do you just happen to know each other as classmates or are you actually friends as you say for a year. After a year, if he had interest in you that went beyond friendship, you'd think he'd ask. You say he has made other girlfriends...again, I cant assume it's dating girlfriends, maybe you just mean female freinds. Cus if he's been able to ask other girls easily to date, either it means he doesnt see you as more than a friend or it's easy to ask others to date or hang out because he doesn't feel that draw or attraction to them as strongly as with you. With them, it doesnt matter if they say no, with you he may not ask, and keep silent and get jealous for no reason cus he wants to be your boyfriend but is turned into a pile of mush when near you and unable to say anything.
You can't know what his position is until you ask him. So you can simply take your next conversation and turn it to the subject of friendship using something he recently said. If he talks about a movie he watched, for example, "You know Doug, you are interested in similar movies to the ones i like, that's one of the things I like about you as a friend. or he tells you he hung out with his buddies playing basketball on the weekend. "It's good you find time to hang with your buds. You are a very friendly social sort of person I see that in you and thats one of the reason's I enjoy your friendship. Next you say, talking about friendship, I cant be sure, so I thought I'd ask. I thought I saw certain actions from you that gives me the idea you might like me as more than a friend, as a girlfriend instead. If that's true, I can't think of anyone better to have as a boyfriend than someone I'm already friends with. So, you are interested in me that way?

Good Luck!

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I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them.

Okay, lets see if I am getting this right,
you've known him all your life and thats only 16 years. So I must assume for this to be significant that when you were a toddler of 2, you and he were good friends with him at age 10. Hmmm, siblings maybe but really knowing the person? I am not convinced it is significant yet.
Okay, when you were entering Kindergarten, he was going through puberty. Tell me what young boy going through puberty has any interest in spending a significant amount of time with a Kindergartner.
And so on and so on until you are now 16.

I am not trying to say that having 8 years age difference is a bad thing once both are adults.
What I am saying, is that "knowing" of this person, possibly cus he was a child of friends of your parents does not qualify as you really knowing who this guy is as a man. What can a child have picked up about a guy. And I still see it odd that he wants to be with you once you turn 18. At least he is abiding by the law and waiting but if I were you, I would take this the same way as you would just meeting a strange man unknown to you before. Having seen a person as you grew up doesnt qualify for knowing his character as a man now. I would suggest you take things very slowly.
At 24, if he feels overwhelms with a girlfriend who has two kids that are not biologically his at all, he gave it a good try but he may not be father material, at least at this point in his life and he may have problems making long term commitments to women, and who knows what else. So take things slow. He may never seek you out. But if he does, take care, for there is a chance he may only want you for sex.

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Age:13 gender:14 I really like this guy and he seems like he likes me , he asked for my number, we gone to places, and even my friends joke around about how we are a couple. but I don't know how to approach him. PLEASE HELP

How to approach him about what? Guys don't hang out with girls they have no interest in. They don't ask for numbers of girls they are not interested in. Would you go ask phone numbers of the guys you have no interest in and be willing to hang out with him? No. Well, guys aren't that much different.
So what ever it is you want to approach him about, just ask.
When you say, 'I don't know what this is', I have to guess at what you're trying to say. Are you having certain feelings when you spend time with him? It's natural to start feeling things especially as you go through puberty. Some will call it puppy love. It's like practice for the real thing one day, when you find the person you want to spend long term or life long with. Just enjoy it. It doesn't have to have a name or label to it. giving this feeling and friendship a name isn't going to make it any more real. Just relax and enjoy

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First of all before I start, I want to go ahead and give some background information . My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months and we never fought, and my boyfriend's aunt Hates my boyfriend's side of the family. Okay .

My boyfriend and I love well loved I guess each other very much and have been dating for four months and on our four month anniversary, he texted me saying his aunt said to him that I was saying crap about my boyfriend's family like I hated them all. And my boyfriend dumped me. I got really upset and emotional he thought I did all of that, then I called up his mom and said that to clear the air, I didn't say anything bad, and she believed me. And he got really mad I went to his aunt's son party, now him and I started to talk again and he said he knows those lies aren't true and he doesn't want to date me again and he wants to be single for a while and be friends with me. I still really love him and as I heard from his mom he really cares about me. He was the one who fell for me first and I want him back again, What can I do to get my boyfriend back over all this family drama that has occured?

Sounds like he realized he made assumptions based on what someone else said about someone he cared about and in finally discovering the truth that you are innocent, realizes how immature he still really is and perhaps feels guilty but also not ready to have a boyfriend /girlfriend relationship because of all that. He's still willing to be friends and give himself time to grow up to the point he feels he's ready to be a good boyfriend, in the meanwhile, til he's comfortable with himself, he may be only willing to be just friends.
If this is his stance, and you want things the way they were before, the only thing that can change that is having a good talk with him, seeing if that's how he is thinking, trying to avoid hurting you again. If you're willing to forgive and feel unable to be Just friends after dating, then let him know you're okay with if there are problems again in the future, but you don't want potential problems that may never occur to keep you guys from dating. See if that makes a difference. Good luck.

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So i like rhis girl for like 2 months and i wanted to tell her thet but meanwile she is in a relationship whit my best friend. :(

Then you can't pursue her until she is single again. It doesn't matter if its a friend of yours or a guy you don't know, if she has commited to a dating relationship with someone else, then letting her know doesnt count if its whiles she's with someone else. Think it out. Lets say you did tell her tomorrow. Are you hoping that somehow she has wanted you for a boyfriend for a long time and has been waiting to ask you and got tired waiting and so took your best friend up on it. So, two different situations could exist here now. Either she has no feelings for him. Dumps him and starts dating you and your best friend becomes angry with you and you lose him cus he sees you as someone who stole his girl somehow. OR, she developed feelings for him as well and now likes both of you and feels torn between both of you, not wanting to hurt either. Do you wan to put her in that situation, really?
Want to learn a secret how to get a girl and keep her? Being young, you'll mess up from time to time but now in teens and 20 s is the time to learn.
Be the one who understands her totally, who get's who she is, who knows how to support and encourage her for who she is, who knows more about her than anyone else, all her hopes, dreams, fears, what makes her sad, happy, upset. Treat her like that, and if the chemistry is there between you, then eventually deeper feelings will develop and she won't want to be with anyone else. Cant say you'll get a chance with this girl but perhaps in the future with another.

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My best guy friend and I are super close, and recently his best friend and myself have been talking a lot and becoming closer. He has "dated" two of my other kind of close friends many years ago. He has also been flirting with me, and my best friend has been hinting things about his friend and myself. I'm just very confused. Help! I am a girl.

Has he flirted with you from the start of your friendship? Cus if its a new thing, he probably moved from just feeling like a friend to developing a deeper interest in you.
Yes, flirting can be a playful thing and not mean anything serious, but if that were the case, he would be the kind to flirt with everyone he meets on a consistent basis. Does he? If not, the flirting means something. The way to find out is to ask him. "So Jake, we've been friends a long time and it hasnt been until since lately you've begun to flirt with me. Does that mean your feelings for me have changed from friend to something more? What are you hoping for? Do you want to date me?
Then if he says no, and you dont have those feelings for him, alls finde, just continue your friendship. If he says yes he has feelings, then if you do too, go for it and try it out, otherwise you'll never know and spend a life time wondering 'What if...'
If he likes you and you don't like him back the same way, tell him so. Don't base your relationships on what others think or what they say. Relationships are a complicated enough thing without throwing in well meaning but misinterpretations from others. Find out what you need from the source, from this male best friend.

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Hi,
My name is Jacob. I recently ran into some difficult times. I left my wife (who was unfaithful) and we are now divorced. I lost a lot of my stuff, but I am now getting back on my feet. I am 30 yr old and live with my parents. But I have a great job! Just bought a 2012 hybrid. But I do not have a girlfriend. I really would like one, but I do not go out. I don't have time. I don't do the online dating thing either. How can I meet a girl. There are a few ladies I wouldn't mind asking out for coffee or dinner, but they work at the gas station or the barber shop. Would that be weird?
Help.
Thanks

Jacob

I am one more female who says it would not be weird to ask someone out that you see often, who is in a service trade and see's you often as a customer. My current husband just months before meeting me asked the lady at the drivers licensing place because his daughter picked up on the signals that the woman was interested in her dad. He asked her out and she accepted and then due to conflicts in schedules, each took turns having to cancel and reschedule and before he could meet her, he met me on a dating site.
My husband truly didn't have time to do the usual dating thing, meet in the evenings for a singles social event to get to know other singles, he worked 10-12 hour days, so thats why he resorted to the internet. I don't know how much time you really have to invest but if you found someone tomorrow, how much time would you actually have to spend together with her? Is it only the hours of 8pm and later, just Saturday and Sunday only?
A new relationship needs time spent together, volumes of it for trust to build in the relationship which from your situation, you are going to need. So you are going to have to be realistic here. If the little time you have available to spend together with a female is time you are not willing to invest in getting yourself out there to meet one, then it will never happen for you. So ask the girls you've mentioned, and if it doesn't work out, My advise is to go to meet ups.com on line and look for your city and then what meetups are available on a weekly basis in your area. Some groups meet at coffee shops, or a library room, and range in interests widely. Pick something you have an interest in and attend a group where everyone attending has the same interest. But hoping to run into the right person that way by bumping into them in public was too tedious and with no results at all, like hunting for a needle in a haystick. So i cut that down by using a dating site. If you ever decide you are gonna break down and try that, let me know as I have lots of helpful hints for you, how to go about it from the years I was on there myself.

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I know He's in Wicca and Druidism, but what other religions?

The belief systems you mention are called Earth based beliefs/religions. I don't believe there is anything else that fits that description other than any who consider themselves neopagan, Goddess worshipping groups, or of Celtic mythology origin.

There are many many hits on the web you'll get if you do searches for" Horned God, Cernunnos, Pan, The Green Man, Herne, the Sun God, who are the same entity. He is the Male representation of the duo God beliefs of the male and female representation, The triple Goddess, Maiden Mother, Crone and the male aspect seen in the Stag, or in the Sun for a couple common such things.

since earth based religion is way older than any of the other religions of today's time, you will not find him in there very easily by the names you now know. In fact, it may be just one aspect or one form of the Male aspect you'd find some resemblance to in other religions. A good place to look perhaps might be the many Gods of the Hindu beliefs, especially the triumvirate gods of Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva. But you'd have to look hard for some similar personality traits or what they stand for and represent, and even then, it will be only your interpretation and idea. When it cones to the religions, many scholars will continue to debate back and forth their interpretations of the different religions. Here's a couple of sites to check out and theres much more. If you have access to a computer, get going cus there is so much to look for on there and to learn.

http://paganwiccan.about.com/od/godsandgoddesses/p/Cernunnos.htm

http://magickalwicca.wordpress.com/gods/horned-god-of-wicca/

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I really like this guy, but he is always talking to his friends and I have only had a conversation with him a couple times! I am also really shy and don't like going up to his group because I feel intimidated by it. What should I do? By the way I am a female and 13 and liked him for a year.

Next time you catch him alone, have your number already scribbled on a piece of paper to give him. Tell him that you've enjoyed talking to him the few times you did and would like to do so more but that you don't like to do so with all his friends around. If he tries to talk you into joining the group, then honesty is going to be the best thing here, let him know you're the shy type and don't handle groups of people as well as one on one so you're wondering if you can trade cell numbers and talk at other times when he's alone.

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I am 15 years old and I might be bi. I never had sexual intercourse with a girl so i cant label myself as 'bisexual' yet. I dont know if its a ''phase'' but i do know that I am equally attracted to guys and girls. So, i have gone out with boys in the past but i have never kissed a girl. I think about it sometimes, and i really wanna kiss one but i dont know how to find one. I have no experience in kissing girls, or finding a lesbian or a bisexual girl etc. Another problem is im not the kind of girl that will go to partiess every weekend. I love staying at home but i will go out if i feel like it..
How will i find a girl who likes girls? How will i know if she is actually bisexual or lesbian? What should i do??

Lack of having a partner, doesn't mean you no longer are a ......., (whatever sexual type you identify with. Even if you have never had the opportunity. Being that you are 15, I wouldn't focus too much right now on finding any females who might work out for you, wait until you turn 18 and are of the age of sexual consent and considered an adult. Then, one way to find one is going to social places set up where bi's and gays and find each other, usually the big cities have this in the form of bars, or maybe even a swing club...bi women are known to go to such places. Another way is using the web. Search for meet up sites strictly for bi or gay women. If you can't find any with gals in your area, broaden your search to using regular dating sites because you have the option in creating the site to list whether you are straight, gay, bi and only people looking for bi's will have access to your profile, not the males if you specify so. fOR now, try a search for online support groups for bi sexual teens. I know they have them for transgender and gay teens too so why not for you. You are more likely to get your questions answered there.

Be honest about this side of you with any guy who seems serious about you such as exclusively wanting to date you, let him know upfront. Young guys age 18 and through 20's maybe later, may not know how to react to this. Better knowing upfront than being surprised and dumping you later. In reality, most older mature men are very supportive of their bi-sexual wives. I've known quite a few bi sexual married women whose husbands had no issues with it, with them having female partners.
I would advise starting your search with bi females, not lesbians as the lesbians tend to be monogamous and may view you having a relationship with a boyfriend or husband in the future as being polyamorous or as cheating and that could create trouble. Just be upfront with people and if they can't handle it at first knowledge, give them a chance to get used to the idea, and if they can't handle it, move on. You will never be happy if you are bi and trying to please both a male and female who have opposing idea's of who they want you to be for them. Be yourself and keep looking until you find those who accept you just as you as and truly have no issues with it. Good luck!

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So I've been talking to this guy for over a month now and he's sending me mixed signals. He keeps asking me to send him "pics" and I tell him that I don't send them to anyone else I'm in a relationship with them. But we flirt and everything. I just can't figure out if we have a thing going or if he's just a normal guy being a friend.

What is it you are looking for in a guy? When you have a list and have memorized it, you will know whether this guy is going to be someone to spend time getting to know or not.
You can always ask him what his interest and intentions are but that's not totally helpful unless you know what it is you want.

If a guy asks for pictures without asking to date you, it's more likely he wants a collection of photo's of females he finds sexually attractive to jerk off to. I've actually had grown men ask me for pics and admit that's why they wanted them, figuring maybe being honest was more likely to get them photos.
It isn't odd to have two people flirt who aren't serious about dating each other and being a couple. I've encountered flirting from those interested in dating, and then there is light-hearted, innocent flirting that even married folks will do in the company of their close friends simply because flirting is fun to do, makes you feel good as well as the other person too and I cant tell you if his is flirting just for the fun of flirting's sake or if he is interested. So you will have to ask him. If he says he wants to date you, finds you interesting, likes you, loves you....in all of those ask why, and ask for examples. If you still get mixed signals, it could be he has no particular type of girl he likes in mind and will just pay attention to whoever will pay attention back or perhaps he has no clue at all what he is looking for and just practicing how to flirt using you to practice on.

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Hi, so I'm a freshman at a new school. Last week I caught a junior (who is very attractive) looking at me, like a lot. Wherever I'd go, his eyes would follow, for example, we have a class together and I went to get something and he was looking back at me and continued looking at me until I sat down. He would also do nice gestures such as let me go first such as in the lunch line, he was on the other side of the table thingy to get food so I just went on the side I was closer to, and I soon realized that he was waiting for me to pass. He also did that in drama, we were going down these stairs and he was in front of me and he let me pass. (That was last week and he actually did the exact same thing yesterday). The next day, we talked while getting food. This week, he'd look at me frequently again. I was in the line to get food and he was in the line to pay and he looked as if he was searching for someone and he was looking directly at me and I'm not sure if he was searching for someone else or if it was actually me (which I highly doubt). I high fived him later on in the day (such an accomplishment, I know). On Monday (I think) I was in the line to get food (not for lunch) and he was passing by and we made eye contact as he passed. More things happened but I'm not sure if I'll have enough space to write it all in. Yesterday, during the class we have together, I was sitting in the front and him in the back and I looked back to see who was talking and he was looking at me. Today (yes, everything happens in the lunch line. It's like my sacred place), I was in the line to pay and he was coming to get food and he looked directly at me. After leaving the line, I went back to get another plate and he was exactly where I was standing in the line and when he saw me coming he watched me get a plate and leave. Does he like me??!?! I am so confused!! I have this huge crush on him and I'm not sure if I'm just hallucinating or some shit or he looks at me because I'm always staring at him. Aghh somebody, please tell me! I usually can identify when an older guy does like me but of course I'm not always 100% sure.

I'll have to admit that the first thought that crosses the minds of those long out of HS is the high sexual desires of young men, having that and wanting to take care of those desires by going after the females most likely to be inexperienced enough to be tricked into a position of letting him get what he wants. AT HS age, this is actually a very great possibility, true, but you can not live your life in fear that every guy is going to be a jerk. Better to learn to see and recognize the warning signs early in how a guy behaves, even before getting to the point of being asked out sometimes, and you can avoid the whole heartbreak and being used.
Now, on the other hand, there's always the exception to the rule. There's a big difference supposedly in maturity between freshman and junior /senior, so they say but I remember seeing the mature for the age and the immature in all grades through high school. You may be mature for you age in your behavior. He may have been brought up by the parents to act like a gentlemen. Not all guys would wait to let the female go first. Staring at someone lots does mean there is some interest. But remember, this is based much on looks and what surface level things you can pick up that you might be attracted to in a person, how they carry themselves, how outgoing they are, their laugh and their humor and smile, how they interact with other friends. That is not enough to know whether you will really like the person enough to want to date long term, long enough to discover if you like what you find and stick together or break things off. Right now he is only curious if there is any interest to know you for your personality not just because of a sexual draw or desire.
Girls want to be loved for who they are and sex isn't going to get them that cus guys are able to separate sex for love and sex just for sex sake. High school boys are known for the latter but I have heard from girls who have found a gem of a guy who even the parents approve of at all ages in high school 14-18.
Don't let the crush you have blind you to what any guys says or does. Words are cheap but his actions speak stronger. There is no reason why, since you see him often why you can't take the time to talk to him in school to get to know him better. You could then say, hey, it's fun talking with you, want to continue our conversation? Come sit with me for lunch. Don't get hooked on any flattery type things he says but take time to find out what his interests are. If he does say he likes you. You should be asking "So what exactly is it about me that you like?" If he can't honestly answer with some things about who you are as a person rather than the color of your hair or eyes or how cute you are, you don't want to waste time.
Guys take a long time to figure it out and sadly many never learn. I opened a dating profile and thats how I found my 2nd husband. But before meeting him, the majority of men writing to me had a first line that had something to do with my looks. Either, I think you are hot, or sexy, or want to go to bed with me? Its a given that if a guy approaches you...if he ever does(not shy) that he likes your looks. It also is a given that if his first comment is about how hot cute or sexy you look, that the only thing important to him is getting sex from you, not discovering more about your personality, hopes and dreams, etc.
Keep these things in mind and I'm sure you'll do fine. There's always going to be a few real honest to God good guys out there. They'll be thinking about sex too but have the personal strength to honor your wishes to not have sex, not pressure you or play mind games like if you love me you will let me...If he loves you, he will wait until you feel ready or if your desire is to remain virgin til marriage, he will honor that too if he really loves you. Never try to prove your love.
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He's 27/m

We've been together for only 6 months.

A couple of months ago, we went to the bookstore and he told me that he has always wanted to read The Enders Game, since he has heard good things about the series. So, I bought him that book--he read it, and liked it. He then said that he wanted to read the second book afterward.

I went to the bookstore yesterday, and decided to buy him the rest of the series for his birthday. I also got him another book (as a joke) and then I also got him a sweater. My sister thinks it's enough but I wasn't sure if my gift would be good enough. She thought two books and the sweater is enough and that four was a bit excessive. I wanted to get him something else, but since I've only been with him for six months, I decided to wait until later to get him something nicer.

Is my birthday gift enough? Should I get him something else?

It would seem that your love language is 'giving of gifts'. Any gift you give is going to be an expression of your feelings for him. But there are 5 love languages in total and what one likes to give, the other may not have as the one they like to give. Just saying that ahead in case he doesnt give you gifts in return for special occasions. You can do a web search for "the 5 love languages and read up on that because I know gift givers are the most easily hurt or to believe their partner doesnt return their lover when they are showing it all the time in one of the other 4 ways.

As to how much you got for him, since its a book series, the remainder of the series isn't bad getting for someone even if its more than one book. Adding a sweater was nice. No more gifts are needed. Too many and you might overwhelm him and scare him especially if giving gifts is not his love language. Keep the gifts simple and thoughtful, something you know he likes but not go beyond what you gave or he may not feel he can keep up with you on giving the same in return.

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Going for -I mean he likes her and she supposeably likes him and they never tried to date he dated others she got mad, she fucked his bestfriends he got mad and told me he was done like her

then I see no reason why you can't approach him and let him know you have feelings for him. I'd advise not using words like "I love you" cus that can scare a person away if spoken too early for them to be ready to hear it.However, if he has a tendency for dating many at the same time, you can probably expect the same from him, even if he hangs with you or takes you on dates.
The two intending to hang or date need to be on a same page. Some date one person at a time waiting to discover the one that tugs at their heart strings with the kind of chemistry and depth of feelings needed for a boyfr/girlfr. relationship or something more long term like marriage. It isn't a bad thing to date several people at once, as long as the purpose is to narrow it down to one person you want to get to know better. I've done that as a female too. Difference is, if thats what a person is doing, it's important to let any potential 'date' be advised what you are doing so if they disagree, they can choose to not even go so far as to date to give the person a chance to discover if they want to choose you as the one to pursue only and commit to. So you could ask him if he's non monogamous or if his intention is to date several at once as a preliminary, trying to find the one he wants to date only. Good luck.

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Alright so I've liked on of my friends for about a month and he's been going for his bestfriend in the group and she's a really easy girl.. Like fuck anyone kind of easy. And me and my friend stopped being friends because me and her stopped getting along because I didn't like how she treated everyone and he brought her everywhere with her even to my moms birthday... What I'm asking is.. How do I get him to like me again instead of her

So far it sounds like this is a guy who makes friends with females more readily than males? If this is so, he will be treating all females consistently the same, like one of the guys except he is attracted more to some of the personality expressions of a female.

When you say 'going for' are you meaning he has asked her to date him? Go out with him? Be his girlfriend, or his friend with benefits?

If that's what you are saying and want him to like you again, that would mean that you and he dated before and had crossed that line from being just friends to being boyfriend/girlfriend with or without sex.
So the question to ask yourself, was I ever his girlfriend really, did he ever ask or did I just assume so? If he never did ask, am I feeling neglected as a friend because he spends more time with his girlfriend now?

The neglected or overlooked thing happens all the time in relationships of 'friends or best friends' where the two are the opposite sex, and one happens to have strong feelings for the other that go beyond friends. Sometimes both have those feelings but are too afraid to find out, so one moves one and dates others, unknowingly hurting the other.
If he has not asked her to be his girlfriend,
( you can out by asking him directly and just say you were wondering since he brought her to mom's birthday party.) so if he hasn't asked yet, you could then tell him that as of lately you've been developing pretty strong feelings for him. You don't want to do this if they're an official couple right now and must wait to see if they break up in the future. The best thing to do is be honest with your friends and share your heart with them. yOU do with girlfriends, right? Why not guys too.
And you don't have to do anything special or different to get him as a boyfriend, just be yourself. If being yourself isn't exactly what he is looking for, then you are better off not getting into that kind of relationship with him. And don't force it by pretending to be more like the other girl because he would be liking you for those aspects you put up a pretense about, not the real you. There is someone for everyone. Its just that in our teens and 20's we don't have a clue yet what it is we like. Well, a few do, but the majority are going through the dating process of having one partner after another, learning along the way until they finally have figured out exactly the type of person they are looking for, this should resemble the kind of person you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. At 18 or there about, I am betting he isn't too sure yet of what he is looking for. Many men don't figure that out for sure until they hit 30 or 35. And they've either remained single until then or if married get divorced and remarried to the right person for them when they figure it out. Hope this gives you something that helps you understand the process better.

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Ok so I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm really giddy and excited because I just started dating this (named Kyle) who I've liked for a while. I texted him asking him out and he replied with "sure". Here's where my worries start: He can't say no to anyone. He dated a girl that he didn't like for three weeks (because she asked him out) until she got bored and dumped him. He's just a really really nice person with a fear of hurting anyone. So what if he doesn't like me and just said yes to spare my feelings? We joke around and talk a lot but he's like that to a lot of girls. Not flirty, just friendly to all. So is there anyway to know for sure if he likes me???? I'm not very pretty either, a little overweight and stuff. Thanks in advance!!!!

So since Kyle said yes, find times to get together and not talk about surface level stuff like the grades you got in classes and what your parents do for a living, but talk and ask questions and find out more about each other to see if you have things in common. It doesn't matter for what reason he said yes. All that matters is the outcome. So after some weeks of hanging out together, you might ask him if he feels that he'd like to keep hanging out or whether he feels you both don't have enough in common to be close friends and date. You have to be okay with what ever he says. If he says yes too easy, perhaps now he will be truthful and if you give him a way back out, he's leave if he's not happy and said yes for the wrong reason. If he stays, he probably has a level of interest in you.

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For us to lose virginity through fingering does our finger has to go really deep
is it possible that you bleed while rubbing your pussy? And if you do bleed while rubbing what does that mean?please tell I'm really worried

Just to give you a visual to go along with what you've already been told, imagine pulling a stocking tightly over one end of an empty toilet paper roll. the roll represents your vagina. Snip a hole the size of a dime in the middle of the stocking portion covering the tube end. The hole is where your period fluids come out by each month. The rest of the stocking around it represents your hymen. There can be variations where a strip of hymen is attached only in the middle creating two smaller holes side by side but it's rare. Use of a tampon or fingers will stretch that hymen out until it no longer shows as a covering to the entrance of the vagina. Many females find their hymen stretches just fine without tearing. The story that all women will bleed from there while using tampons, dildos, finger, or even a penis entering, is just a bunch of baloney. But in so many countries yet, men believe this so strongly to be true that a women who does not bleed is assumed to not be a virgin even if she is.
If you bleed from a scratch, it should be nothing more than a couple of drops. Make sure you use lots of lube, even for rubbing or using fingers, toys or penis. Even men can find the skin on their penis tear if there isn't enough lube with sex. They may not bleed but it feels sore like a paper cut cus its a fine rip or tear.
You most likely are seeing the little blood right before a period. You probably just timed it with your period.
As for any damage caused to your insides, cervix and all, you probably have no worries. After all in my regular checkups as has been drilled into me, the Drs say to come in to see them if you experience any pains that don't go away or extra heavy bleeding that won't stop. Those are the symptoms of something serious possibly being wrong. Otherwise, its probably your timing, the masturbating happening near your period cus we tend to be more horny then.

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