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Alright so I've liked on of my friends for about a month and he's been going for his bestfriend in the group and she's a really easy girl.. Like fuck anyone kind of easy. And me and my friend stopped being friends because me and her stopped getting along because I didn't like how she treated everyone and he brought her everywhere with her even to my moms birthday... What I'm asking is.. How do I get him to like me again instead of her
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So far it sounds like this is a guy who makes friends with females more readily than males? If this is so, he will be treating all females consistently the same, like one of the guys except he is attracted more to some of the personality expressions of a female.
When you say 'going for' are you meaning he has asked her to date him? Go out with him? Be his girlfriend, or his friend with benefits?
If that's what you are saying and want him to like you again, that would mean that you and he dated before and had crossed that line from being just friends to being boyfriend/girlfriend with or without sex.
So the question to ask yourself, was I ever his girlfriend really, did he ever ask or did I just assume so? If he never did ask, am I feeling neglected as a friend because he spends more time with his girlfriend now?
The neglected or overlooked thing happens all the time in relationships of 'friends or best friends' where the two are the opposite sex, and one happens to have strong feelings for the other that go beyond friends. Sometimes both have those feelings but are too afraid to find out, so one moves one and dates others, unknowingly hurting the other.
If he has not asked her to be his girlfriend,
( you can out by asking him directly and just say you were wondering since he brought her to mom's birthday party.) so if he hasn't asked yet, you could then tell him that as of lately you've been developing pretty strong feelings for him. You don't want to do this if they're an official couple right now and must wait to see if they break up in the future. The best thing to do is be honest with your friends and share your heart with them. yOU do with girlfriends, right? Why not guys too.
And you don't have to do anything special or different to get him as a boyfriend, just be yourself. If being yourself isn't exactly what he is looking for, then you are better off not getting into that kind of relationship with him. And don't force it by pretending to be more like the other girl because he would be liking you for those aspects you put up a pretense about, not the real you. There is someone for everyone. Its just that in our teens and 20's we don't have a clue yet what it is we like. Well, a few do, but the majority are going through the dating process of having one partner after another, learning along the way until they finally have figured out exactly the type of person they are looking for, this should resemble the kind of person you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. At 18 or there about, I am betting he isn't too sure yet of what he is looking for. Many men don't figure that out for sure until they hit 30 or 35. And they've either remained single until then or if married get divorced and remarried to the right person for them when they figure it out. Hope this gives you something that helps you understand the process better.
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