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I am very confused!
About a year ago, a guy and myself (a girl) were partners in a class for an entire year and we got along really well. He is a really good friend of one of my best friends and is genuinely a nice sweet guy. He is or was dating a girl who absolutely hates me. This hatred started last year and still lasts now. We are still partners in the same class and today when I walked over to the computer to help him, he blushed and was more awkward then usual and his friends started messing with him. I also make sure he does good in the class because I understand it well. In addition to this, two of my friends and one of his friends think that I like him and he feels the same. Today, he said that he does not have a girl friend and today the girl was really upset. Also, one of our mutual friends said that he liked me last year and I said that he didn't and she insisted he did, but then she started changing the subject. Any opinions on what I should do next? Does he like me or am I just overthinking?
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I do think he likes you and you aren't over thinking he wouldn't say he likes you for the sake of saying it or for nothing so it must be true plus your mutual friend insisted he did so it must be serious since you both like each other i would pursue it create conversation get to know him better then go from there i wouldn't pay attention to the girl who was really upset she doesn't matter she can't stop you from talking becoming close to him so pursue it go for it!
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First, do you have any feelings for him? This can go either way. As a girl myself, I get the "over thinking syndrome". The best way to find out if he likes you, is to just ask him. I know terrifying! But you have to ask yourself are willing to find out? Because once you ask him, things will change. He could say yes which puts you on the spot and than you have to give him an answer. Or he can say no, and then there's an awkward moment. So, I think you should figure out how you feel about him. If you want to know just for the sake of knowing, I think you should leave it in the dark, until he says something. But, if you want to know because you like him, than ask him. If you don't have guts for that, go to one of his close friends that you know and ask for some investigation. In the end, guys are pretty simple, if he likes or not, he will let you know clearly.
Good luck!
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First, does it really matter to you what his friends or your friends think. At some point in our lives, we all have to learn to live our lives for ourselves, not based on what the general populace says or believes we should be, who we should be, etc. Some learn it younger but most by age 29, 30 make their final decisions on defining who and what they are and make their life choices accordingly.
What you believe about him as just a friend or possibly more is your choice. But then it is also his. The two of you have to feel the same about staying friends or if there is curiosity on both your parts to explore if there might be more. So all the he said, she said aside, do you want to remain just friends, or do you feel attracted to him as a boyfriend and curious to find if he feels the same? If he's shy or fearing rejection, he may never ask and you'll never find out. Since you wrote me, I believe it's important enough to you to know. So ask him. Unless it's obvious he's dating someone, you'll never know unless you ask.
So try: Hey Jake, I've been enjoying your friendship and working as partners in class. Recently, I've been wondering if there could be something more, but I need to know if you are dating anyone. If he says no. Then 'How do you feel about dating each other. Do you feel any kind of attraction that way. If you don't that's okay, I just thought to ask.
Watch how you word it so you leave him an out if he isn't interested so he doesn't feel cornered, embarrassed or afraid of offending you. You want the truth, right? Even if its something you didn't want to hear. Good luck.
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