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What I got for my boyfriend's birthday--Is it good enough?
He's 27/m
We've been together for only 6 months.
A couple of months ago, we went to the bookstore and he told me that he has always wanted to read The Enders Game, since he has heard good things about the series. So, I bought him that book--he read it, and liked it. He then said that he wanted to read the second book afterward.
I went to the bookstore yesterday, and decided to buy him the rest of the series for his birthday. I also got him another book (as a joke) and then I also got him a sweater. My sister thinks it's enough but I wasn't sure if my gift would be good enough. She thought two books and the sweater is enough and that four was a bit excessive. I wanted to get him something else, but since I've only been with him for six months, I decided to wait until later to get him something nicer.
Is my birthday gift enough? Should I get him something else?
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Hi, I'm MadameFrappe and i am going to try to help you best i can.
Okay, i agree with your sister. I think your boyfriend will be perfectly happy with whatever you get him. He probably knows you care so even if you gave him just a card with glitter and happy faces he'd probably still love it! :)
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It would seem that your love language is 'giving of gifts'. Any gift you give is going to be an expression of your feelings for him. But there are 5 love languages in total and what one likes to give, the other may not have as the one they like to give. Just saying that ahead in case he doesnt give you gifts in return for special occasions. You can do a web search for "the 5 love languages and read up on that because I know gift givers are the most easily hurt or to believe their partner doesnt return their lover when they are showing it all the time in one of the other 4 ways.
As to how much you got for him, since its a book series, the remainder of the series isn't bad getting for someone even if its more than one book. Adding a sweater was nice. No more gifts are needed. Too many and you might overwhelm him and scare him especially if giving gifts is not his love language. Keep the gifts simple and thoughtful, something you know he likes but not go beyond what you gave or he may not feel he can keep up with you on giving the same in return.
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Buying gifts for someone you care about can be a bit of a challenge at times. In some instances it is about what to get that person and in others, like yours, it's about how much.
My personal thought on this is that we need to put aside all the other factors and focus on one thing - does the gift seem to be something that will bring that person joy or be useful for them?
As corny and overused as the phrase has become over the years, it's still quite true that it is the thought that counts. The quantity of the items doesn't matter and nor should there be any specific amount you feel like you have to spend. If people truly care about one another, none of that will matter.
So, in conclusion to your question, I would certainly say what you have done is more than adequate.
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Sounds enough to me. The 'secret' of gift giving is getting something you know the other person will like, and especially if they haven't actually asked, but you've listened and noted it, thinking that it will be an ideal present. Or something you know they will find genuinely useful. This shows LOTS of thought. The quantity of gifts and/or their financial value are secondary compared to this thought and attention. And whatever you get it will be special, because it has come from YOU. Lots of presents can actually take the edge OFF too. Looks a bit like a scatter-gun (or shotgun) approach...firing a broad spread and hoping ONE hits the target! I do think think that this is TRULY the spirit of exchanging gifts with people we love. It makes us feel valued, listened to and considered. That we go into the stores thinking about the person and what you think will make them happy. Not the number of parcels you come home with and how much you've spent. I'm NOT the sentimental type on the whole really, but Christmas and birthday gifts stand or fall entirely on the spirit I think. X
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