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junior attracted to me???
Hi, so I'm a freshman at a new school. Last week I caught a junior (who is very attractive) looking at me, like a lot. Wherever I'd go, his eyes would follow, for example, we have a class together and I went to get something and he was looking back at me and continued looking at me until I sat down. He would also do nice gestures such as let me go first such as in the lunch line, he was on the other side of the table thingy to get food so I just went on the side I was closer to, and I soon realized that he was waiting for me to pass. He also did that in drama, we were going down these stairs and he was in front of me and he let me pass. (That was last week and he actually did the exact same thing yesterday). The next day, we talked while getting food. This week, he'd look at me frequently again. I was in the line to get food and he was in the line to pay and he looked as if he was searching for someone and he was looking directly at me and I'm not sure if he was searching for someone else or if it was actually me (which I highly doubt). I high fived him later on in the day (such an accomplishment, I know). On Monday (I think) I was in the line to get food (not for lunch) and he was passing by and we made eye contact as he passed. More things happened but I'm not sure if I'll have enough space to write it all in. Yesterday, during the class we have together, I was sitting in the front and him in the back and I looked back to see who was talking and he was looking at me. Today (yes, everything happens in the lunch line. It's like my sacred place), I was in the line to pay and he was coming to get food and he looked directly at me. After leaving the line, I went back to get another plate and he was exactly where I was standing in the line and when he saw me coming he watched me get a plate and leave. Does he like me??!?! I am so confused!! I have this huge crush on him and I'm not sure if I'm just hallucinating or some shit or he looks at me because I'm always staring at him. Aghh somebody, please tell me! I usually can identify when an older guy does like me but of course I'm not always 100% sure.
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I'll have to admit that the first thought that crosses the minds of those long out of HS is the high sexual desires of young men, having that and wanting to take care of those desires by going after the females most likely to be inexperienced enough to be tricked into a position of letting him get what he wants. AT HS age, this is actually a very great possibility, true, but you can not live your life in fear that every guy is going to be a jerk. Better to learn to see and recognize the warning signs early in how a guy behaves, even before getting to the point of being asked out sometimes, and you can avoid the whole heartbreak and being used.
Now, on the other hand, there's always the exception to the rule. There's a big difference supposedly in maturity between freshman and junior /senior, so they say but I remember seeing the mature for the age and the immature in all grades through high school. You may be mature for you age in your behavior. He may have been brought up by the parents to act like a gentlemen. Not all guys would wait to let the female go first. Staring at someone lots does mean there is some interest. But remember, this is based much on looks and what surface level things you can pick up that you might be attracted to in a person, how they carry themselves, how outgoing they are, their laugh and their humor and smile, how they interact with other friends. That is not enough to know whether you will really like the person enough to want to date long term, long enough to discover if you like what you find and stick together or break things off. Right now he is only curious if there is any interest to know you for your personality not just because of a sexual draw or desire.
Girls want to be loved for who they are and sex isn't going to get them that cus guys are able to separate sex for love and sex just for sex sake. High school boys are known for the latter but I have heard from girls who have found a gem of a guy who even the parents approve of at all ages in high school 14-18.
Don't let the crush you have blind you to what any guys says or does. Words are cheap but his actions speak stronger. There is no reason why, since you see him often why you can't take the time to talk to him in school to get to know him better. You could then say, hey, it's fun talking with you, want to continue our conversation? Come sit with me for lunch. Don't get hooked on any flattery type things he says but take time to find out what his interests are. If he does say he likes you. You should be asking "So what exactly is it about me that you like?" If he can't honestly answer with some things about who you are as a person rather than the color of your hair or eyes or how cute you are, you don't want to waste time.
Guys take a long time to figure it out and sadly many never learn. I opened a dating profile and thats how I found my 2nd husband. But before meeting him, the majority of men writing to me had a first line that had something to do with my looks. Either, I think you are hot, or sexy, or want to go to bed with me? Its a given that if a guy approaches you...if he ever does(not shy) that he likes your looks. It also is a given that if his first comment is about how hot cute or sexy you look, that the only thing important to him is getting sex from you, not discovering more about your personality, hopes and dreams, etc.
Keep these things in mind and I'm sure you'll do fine. There's always going to be a few real honest to God good guys out there. They'll be thinking about sex too but have the personal strength to honor your wishes to not have sex, not pressure you or play mind games like if you love me you will let me...If he loves you, he will wait until you feel ready or if your desire is to remain virgin til marriage, he will honor that too if he really loves you. Never try to prove your love.
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he's a junior in High School, there is only one thing on his mind, and its not what your hoping for. I would wait until you find someone that is kind to you and has wonderful conversations with you. you don't want to get with someone who only likes you cause your pretty.... or you could forget guys all together and be that amazing liberated smart educated woman that every guy within 1000 miles wants and wait for Mr. right to come along. you have a long life ahead of you, what would your 30 year old self tell you?
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