Member Since: October 25, 2014
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Last Update: October 25, 2014
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I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I've recently broken up with my boyfriend, Ryan, of 3 months. I broke up with him face to face because I didn't want to do it over text and have him hating me, then when he got home we messaged and he asked why I'd left him and I told him it was because neither of us were happy anymore and he was getting very controlling and it was making me miserable so I told him that it would be better for both of us to call it a day. He said we could be friends again one day but it would take him a while to get over it, which is understandable. As me and Ryan are in a band with our mutual friend Jake we agreed to carry on with band practice etc. as usual.
2 days later at school I was in the practice rooms with Jake and I told him that as it wasn't an official practice day, Ryan would want me to leave when he got there so I said I'd find a different room. Except when Ryan turned up he didn't even come in the room, instead he sent his cousin in to pass on the message that I should "Piss off into another room and find my own friends" which upset and angered me because was going to leave when he got there anyway so he had some space, I don't see why he had to be so horrible about it?
At the end of that same day, some of my friends came up to me to warn me that Ryan was going round getting people to call me scampi (it's a horrible nickname he gave me) so I asked them if they knew why he was calling me that and they said they were talking to him at lunchtime and he said "Once, she gave me some gone-off scampi and lemon crisps and they tasted like when I licked her out"... I feel mortified...
I've never been able to get physically close to anyone because of bad childhood experiences but he made me feel safe. I was uncomfortable doing anything with him in the first place but he convinced me that I could trust him and that he'd treat me well. He was so nice at first and now I feel like a fool...
People at school keep coming up to me and calling me scampi and when I confronted Ryan about it he just said "Well I was angry" but that's no excuse for making my school life miserable. I just want to run far away and have a fresh start. He's telling me that he still cares about me and when I didn't turn up to school the day after I confronted him, he texted my mum telling me he wished me the best but it's all bullshit.. Surely if you love someone you wouldn't be able to do something like this, right?
I've already got a bad reputation at school from people telling lies about me but he's made it 100 times worse... And even when I found out what he'd been telling people about me, I didn't set out for revenge because I still love him, despite everything, and I know it's the wrong thing to do. I feel so helpless and alone, I even made myself ill so I didn't have to see him at school. I'm ashamed and embarrassed and I don't know what to do... Can anyone help me??? (link)
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Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting, we are like magnets, like attract like. ignore what they say, don't let it be a part of your life. as soon as you let it get to you your letting them in to your life and your letting the negative into your life. ignore them and they will go away, they will eventually get bored and find something else to do and someone else to do it to.
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Hi, so I'm a freshman at a new school. Last week I caught a junior (who is very attractive) looking at me, like a lot. Wherever I'd go, his eyes would follow, for example, we have a class together and I went to get something and he was looking back at me and continued looking at me until I sat down. He would also do nice gestures such as let me go first such as in the lunch line, he was on the other side of the table thingy to get food so I just went on the side I was closer to, and I soon realized that he was waiting for me to pass. He also did that in drama, we were going down these stairs and he was in front of me and he let me pass. (That was last week and he actually did the exact same thing yesterday). The next day, we talked while getting food. This week, he'd look at me frequently again. I was in the line to get food and he was in the line to pay and he looked as if he was searching for someone and he was looking directly at me and I'm not sure if he was searching for someone else or if it was actually me (which I highly doubt). I high fived him later on in the day (such an accomplishment, I know). On Monday (I think) I was in the line to get food (not for lunch) and he was passing by and we made eye contact as he passed. More things happened but I'm not sure if I'll have enough space to write it all in. Yesterday, during the class we have together, I was sitting in the front and him in the back and I looked back to see who was talking and he was looking at me. Today (yes, everything happens in the lunch line. It's like my sacred place), I was in the line to pay and he was coming to get food and he looked directly at me. After leaving the line, I went back to get another plate and he was exactly where I was standing in the line and when he saw me coming he watched me get a plate and leave. Does he like me??!?! I am so confused!! I have this huge crush on him and I'm not sure if I'm just hallucinating or some shit or he looks at me because I'm always staring at him. Aghh somebody, please tell me! I usually can identify when an older guy does like me but of course I'm not always 100% sure. (link)
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he's a junior in High School, there is only one thing on his mind, and its not what your hoping for. I would wait until you find someone that is kind to you and has wonderful conversations with you. you don't want to get with someone who only likes you cause your pretty.... or you could forget guys all together and be that amazing liberated smart educated woman that every guy within 1000 miles wants and wait for Mr. right to come along. you have a long life ahead of you, what would your 30 year old self tell you?
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