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I have dated the same guy for over a year on and off. The last time we broke up was mainly because he came home from his brothers around 7 am completely drunk. Not only was he drunk around my kids he drove drunk to get home. Other problems was his only video games how often he was playing them as well as never doing family like things I'd go to the park alone with to the store alone with the kids. We don't have kids together he doesn't have any. We've been broke up going on 4 months we've both been on dates. He been begging for me to take him back that he's empty with out me and he loves me I give him a certain spark to me if he was sorry and has been empty with out me he would of stopped the drinking for one. He says he doesn't want to go to bars anymore or really drink anymore but he drank Saturday while at his moms says he only had like 6 beers. Well I considered seeing were it'd go not dating but talking again the night we start talking he messages me to tell me I don't want to lie to you so my friend Shannon is in trouble and needs a ride that was like 130 in the morning I message back that's nice but remember how you'd feel if I was picked up a guy at 130 in the morning he didn't message back when he did I had fallen asleep maybe 30 minutes so he started calling like 5 times when I didn't answer he came to my house knocked on my bedroom window. I told him to go home he said he's sorry he didn't think it threw etc I wasn't even mad until blowing up my phone and knocking on my window at 2 am. He just sits there and says he's changed he's sorry I just dint know what to do
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Let me clarify. When you say, 'don't know what to do' is it about 1. seeing him and dating him again and giving him more chances or 2. about how to get him to stop bugging you?
For #1 I must say, after all you've said and tried staying away, you can't possibly want to consider taking him back. He is looking for someone who will take care of him. He knows he isn't a good enough adult to take care of himself. If he wanted to stop drinking and was ready to admit he is an alcoholic, then he'd admit himself to a treatment center. You are probably his last chance, cus no one else will take him on, he has already used up all chances with other. So do you want to add one more child to take care of? An adult child
#2. If you've decided you're done with him, I'd talk to your local people and ask them what you can do. Not sure if a restraining order can be put on him, if he hasn't threatened you in any way. If the police can't do a restraining order change your phone number and each time he comes by, yell out that he better leave or you'll call the police. The police can come if a person calls in a disturbance of peace...like a neighbor playing their music too loud late at night. What this guy is doing qualifies. They will haul him off to jail each time he does this. When he's repeated this too often and there's a record of how often you've called the police, there may be other steps available to you to be rid of his peskyness.
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