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So there's a boy
Gender:f age:15
I really like this boy. We used to talk like ALOT. But he's made other girl friends and talks to me less. We have been friends for a year. I want to ask him out but I dont know how. He's asked for my number, and he likes to make dirty jokes with me too. But I'm the only one he makes dirty jokes. I really don't know what he wants either. Once my friend was like" aw you guys dating? . You cute" he got really red and it was awkward cause I really like him. He got jealous when I was talking to this boy (the boy was my cousin and he didn't know) I caught him staring at me he really red and had snapped a pencil. But why would he distance himself if he likes me you know? But anyways, I just want to know how to ask him out,if I should, and for. What reason would he distance himself? Tysm.
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Fun fact: you can ask him out too. He seems shy, so go for it. What's the worst that can happen? He says no? You're 15, the average lifespan of a female in the US is 82, you have a long time to find a boyfriend. Don't stress out over this. If he likes you, then you'll get together, if not, then you'll find someone else.
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Yeah it sounds like he likes you and is making sexual jokes with you because hes either very comfortable with you to the point where he feels like he can talk with you about anything, OR hes trying to get you to see HIM in a sexual or more than just a friend kind of way by indirectly making jokes about such things. hes trying to plant the idea in your head already from the looks of it.
I would try just getting close with him while your sitting next to each other and finding a convenient time to give him a peck on the cheek or something thats innocent enough to just barely cross the friend line and see how he reacts, play it totally cool, STAY CALM and if he acts like he doesnt like it then play it off and pretend like it was just apart of the joke you were currently making. Maybe link your arm in his when your walking somewhere and if someone says are you a couple then "jokingly" say yes and look at him and see what his reaction is, then turn to him while your still holding his arm and say "idk are we??" and smile and wink at him. you know.....something to put HIM on the spot and MAKE him answer the person. Then no matter what his answer is, stay calm and play it cool. if its "no we're not" then giggle and agree with him, if its "yes" and he seems all happy then keep playing along!
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good luck!
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Do you just happen to know each other as classmates or are you actually friends as you say for a year. After a year, if he had interest in you that went beyond friendship, you'd think he'd ask. You say he has made other girlfriends...again, I cant assume it's dating girlfriends, maybe you just mean female freinds. Cus if he's been able to ask other girls easily to date, either it means he doesnt see you as more than a friend or it's easy to ask others to date or hang out because he doesn't feel that draw or attraction to them as strongly as with you. With them, it doesnt matter if they say no, with you he may not ask, and keep silent and get jealous for no reason cus he wants to be your boyfriend but is turned into a pile of mush when near you and unable to say anything.
You can't know what his position is until you ask him. So you can simply take your next conversation and turn it to the subject of friendship using something he recently said. If he talks about a movie he watched, for example, "You know Doug, you are interested in similar movies to the ones i like, that's one of the things I like about you as a friend. or he tells you he hung out with his buddies playing basketball on the weekend. "It's good you find time to hang with your buds. You are a very friendly social sort of person I see that in you and thats one of the reason's I enjoy your friendship. Next you say, talking about friendship, I cant be sure, so I thought I'd ask. I thought I saw certain actions from you that gives me the idea you might like me as more than a friend, as a girlfriend instead. If that's true, I can't think of anyone better to have as a boyfriend than someone I'm already friends with. So, you are interested in me that way?
Good Luck!
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