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I don't go out, but I am lonely. How can I meet a nice woman?
Hi,
My name is Jacob. I recently ran into some difficult times. I left my wife (who was unfaithful) and we are now divorced. I lost a lot of my stuff, but I am now getting back on my feet. I am 30 yr old and live with my parents. But I have a great job! Just bought a 2012 hybrid. But I do not have a girlfriend. I really would like one, but I do not go out. I don't have time. I don't do the online dating thing either. How can I meet a girl. There are a few ladies I wouldn't mind asking out for coffee or dinner, but they work at the gas station or the barber shop. Would that be weird?
Help.
Thanks
Jacob
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I am one more female who says it would not be weird to ask someone out that you see often, who is in a service trade and see's you often as a customer. My current husband just months before meeting me asked the lady at the drivers licensing place because his daughter picked up on the signals that the woman was interested in her dad. He asked her out and she accepted and then due to conflicts in schedules, each took turns having to cancel and reschedule and before he could meet her, he met me on a dating site.
My husband truly didn't have time to do the usual dating thing, meet in the evenings for a singles social event to get to know other singles, he worked 10-12 hour days, so thats why he resorted to the internet. I don't know how much time you really have to invest but if you found someone tomorrow, how much time would you actually have to spend together with her? Is it only the hours of 8pm and later, just Saturday and Sunday only?
A new relationship needs time spent together, volumes of it for trust to build in the relationship which from your situation, you are going to need. So you are going to have to be realistic here. If the little time you have available to spend together with a female is time you are not willing to invest in getting yourself out there to meet one, then it will never happen for you. So ask the girls you've mentioned, and if it doesn't work out, My advise is to go to meet ups.com on line and look for your city and then what meetups are available on a weekly basis in your area. Some groups meet at coffee shops, or a library room, and range in interests widely. Pick something you have an interest in and attend a group where everyone attending has the same interest. But hoping to run into the right person that way by bumping into them in public was too tedious and with no results at all, like hunting for a needle in a haystick. So i cut that down by using a dating site. If you ever decide you are gonna break down and try that, let me know as I have lots of helpful hints for you, how to go about it from the years I was on there myself.
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It is not weird to ask out someone who works at someplace you shop or at a business you frequent. My son and I were having lunch together one afternoon. Our server was cute and we could tell she was interested in him so he asked her out. She told him to call her and put her phone number on the back of our check. He put his on the back of the receipt.
Online dating sites are also a good way to meet women. There are many that are free. What is nice about these sites is you are matched with someone who is compatible and in the narrative section of your posting you can say why your recently divorced. Why you might be looking for friendship and not a relationship. There are others out there who are not looking for relationships which takes a lot of strain off the first meeting.
I don't know if you are religious and if you are looking for a woman of your religion or not but some religions run a free online match site. Both the Catholics and the Jewish religions have online sites that I know of. Any of these dating sites are a good non threatening way to get back in the game as you get to meet the person over the Internet first through an exchange of emails then by phone.
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