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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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I am actually homeschooling myself in Math. I am an adult. I would like to work my way into Physics. I am starting, roughly, at the beginning. I have been using "Math You See" (It's actually just spelled with the letter "U" but this stupid thing won't let me do that cause it thinks I'm chatting) but my issue with them is that you really only have two options:
1. The Parent book with the Lesson Plan and DVD (which pretty much repeats the lesson plan), and the answer key in the back.
2. The Student book with no answer key, no lesson plan, but it has equations.
I am looking for a homeschooling program that, like Math You See, will cover basic math all the way up through at Least High School math, (ie calculus and trig), BUT Unlike Math You See, will have within the book:
A Lesson Plan
Sample Equations
Actual Equations
An answer key in the back
Is there anything like this on the market for a reasonable price? Or are they all pretty much set up like Math You See?
Thank you.
You might try typing into a search engine "Home schooling math resources." I did a number of different option were returned. Many of them were for on-line courses you could choose from some of which offered free work sheets.
You could also type in "Home Schooling Math Programs." To see what this returns. keep rephrasing the question in the search engine until you find the material you are looking for.
Here you have all these clowns trying to save you from death but at the same time, how many of you agree with abortion? The child doesn't want to die but you kill the child anyway. The adult or child that is alive and aware want's to die and you try to stop them. What a bunch of hypocrites.
Regardless of whether a person is pro-choice or pro-life we need to also respect, in the instance of your question, what the law has to say on the subject.
BY law A fetus is not a person until it is capable of living on it's own outside the womb. This is generally considered to be after the 27th week of pregnancy. So by law aborting a fetus is not the taking of a life. Still depending on your views on abortion you are entitled to your feelings that a life has been taken.
Now when it comes to suicide there is no question that a life is being taken. In fact in New York state there is still a law on the books which states that the penalty for suicide is death. Somewhat ironic that the penalty for attempting suicide is exactly what the person was trying to do.
Suicide and abortion are two separate events. There is no question in anyone's mind when it comes to suicide that a sanctioned human being is going to die if successful. This is where the difference comes in.
Being pro-choice or pro-life does not make anyone a hypocrite in trying to prevent someone from killing themselves. No one has the choice of taking there own life. So being pro-choice is not a factor. Being pro-life and attempting to stop someone from killing themselves would to my mind be an extension of that choice.
It is confusing yes. Hypocritical not from my point of view. Then again we are all entitled to our own thoughts in this area; pro-choice point of view.
Hi I am 16 years old and i live in Florida. For the past to weeks I've been trying to find a job. Do any body have any jobs they can recommend that will hire me at my age. I am very outgoing and a hard worker.
Not being familiar with the child labor laws in Florida it is hard to be specific. Also the unemployment rate in certain areas of your state is still quite high which will work against you in finding part-time work.
The best places to look for work at your age would be in the service industry area. Fast food outlets are generally the best places to look. If you live in any of the tourist areas I would look to the hotels for work as a Bellman, waiter, pool boy and other such jobs.
Most importantly is to get up early, dress respectably in clean pressed clothes and go job hunting. In the fast food industry the breakfast rush is over by 9am. I would be at the first place that might be looking for help at 8:59 or earlier ready to interview.
Their is an art to interviewing for a job. Remember you are selling your self to the person interviewing. The interview is their opportunity to make a judgment call on whether you will make a good employee.
Make eye contact with the interviewers when talking to them. Do not fidget or slouch in your chair. Do not look at your watch, in fact put it in your pocket. Use formal English not street slang when speaking with the interviewer. Address them as mam or sir, Mr. or Ms. last name until they give you permission to address them by their first name. Also make sure to thank them at the end of the interview for taking the time to interview you.
While this may not seem important for a job flipping hamburgers or passing out towels it is very important to the interviewer. Showing up early for the interview, being clean and well dressed, not fidgeting and looking at them when speaking and not everywhere else tells them a lot about who you are.
It would be a good idea to have someone, it could be mom or dad, sit down with you and practice interviewing. Practice will go a long way as the more comfortable you are the better chance you have at getting the job.
There is one trick question every interviewer asks for which there is no correct answer. The question is; "Where do you believe you will be in five years." Most people feel they are being asked where they think they will be with this employer in five years. WRONG ANSWER FOR YOU. For you the right answer should be ,"Hopefully graduating college."
Good Luck and I hope I helped.
This is a question of what you think of my craziness. Everyone is insanne, because we all see different things from the same things. Our ears turn noise into something comprehensible. Maybe, what each of us hear from the same thing is different. Same for seeing. In turn, what I hear or see happening is based on what I think I said or did. So, in a way, we are all living in our own little fantasy. There's no way for me to even know your real opinion, because you could think I'm saying something totally different than I am. I just see the words, and, from what my brain says I typed, I interpret what anyone would say back. So in a way, we are all completely alone. By the way, I'm 13, so excuse my oddness for being a teenager, and hormones, or whatever people say. I don't see why knowing that I'm a girl would help you in telling you my thoughts, but who knows, right?
I believe what you are saying can be summed up in just one word; "perception." We all perceive things slightly differently then someone else. An oversimplification would be with colors. One person sees just the color blue. Another person with better color perception will see the same blue but in one of the hues of the blue family. Then their is the person who is color stupid, yes their is such a thing, who sees what they believe is green. Perception we see or hear what we think we heard or saw.
There is nothing wrong with you or your friends. Your all teenagers starting the next phase of life. Young adults who after learning about life as a child now have the ability to explore and question things. You now are even asked at time to question and come up with different views on subjects. This is life; embrace it, discuss it. Maybe your generation will find the cure for things my generation has not yet been able to.
It is our ability to question that leads to great discoveries. As a race we humans hate mysteries. We question and we look for answers until we are satisfied we have found the answer or exhausted all means available to us to find an answer. Who knows you could be the one to find the answer to the common cold?
Never stop questioning what you don't understand or feel is wrong. If you feel you can do better than someone else has than try. Never question you own abilities and never think you or anyone else is crazy just because you or they are in disagreement.
I'm 13, female. I feel nothing. For about a year, I haven't been happy, sad, embarrassed, or anything. I know why. Long story short, my dad sucks, and I hate him. Other than anger and frustration, I'm empty inside. Accordinng to my research online, it's probably some sort of defense mechanism. I don't take antidepressants anymore. No one believes me. I go to a therapist, and she thinks I'm ignoring it, supressing it. I'm not, I'm not. I don't even want to tell my parents. They'll say the same thing. Question is, what's wrong with me?
First I have a question. Is your father verbally or physically abusing you? If so you need to tell the police or your therapist about this. Abuse of a child is not only wrong it is also illegal.
Abuse comes in many forms. There is physical, verbal and sexual abuse. They increase in both pain and depth of as only one of these leaves marks that can be seen by anyone. The others take a trained doctor to see or figure out.
Generally teenage females write us about problems with their mothers more than with their fathers. Boys seem to have more problems with their dads.
One of your problems is you are what the doctors call non-compliant with your treatment and medications. Now it is very possible you are on the wrong medication. I'm not a doctor so I cannot begin to say what the right medication would be. For medication you should be seeing a Board Certified psychiatrist. No your not crazy, your most likely suffering teenage depression. A Board Certified psychiatrist is better qualified to prescribe medication then the family doctor as what is most likely the cause, besides stress, is two chemicals secreted in the brain are insufficient to help stabilize moods. A Board Certified psychiatrist is better trained to treat this illness than the family doctor.
Next is your therapist. Whatever you say to your therapist stays with your therapist. Nothing gets past back to your parents. When the therapist meets with your parent(s) they talk in general terms about what they can do to help you and what might be bothering you. They never repeat anything you say to them as anything you say to them is strictly confidential. So you should feel free to be open and honest with your therapist and speak about anything and everything that bothers you. Including if you feel you are being abused by anyone.
Now it is possible that you are not comfortable with this therapist. Not everyone clicks with the first therapist they meet. You may be seeing a male therapist and would be more comfortable with a female therapist. It is also possible you are seeing an older therapist someone who gives of an adult authority and vibe to you making it hard to speak openly. You might be more comfortable with a younger therapist probably a female in their twenties. If so say so.
You are seeing a therapist because your parents, yes plural, want to help you and get you to a more comfortable place in life. If the tools they have supplied, the doctors and therapists, are not helping you need to speak up and ask to see different doctors.
I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I have gone through a bout of depression though I was much older when it happened. So I know how you are feeling. You are in a position where only you can truly advocate for yourself as no one who has not been where you are with this illness cannot truly advocate for you.
Speak up, shout if you must but let mom, dad or your therapist know exactly how you feel and what you are feeling. Cry if you must I did, many times when I was with my therapist. By the way I went through two other therapist before I found one I was comfortable with.
In short I do not feel there is anything wrong with you other than you must learn to speak up for yourself. Open up to your therapist, if your not comfortable with this therapist say so. If the medication is doing nothing for you then you must tell the doctor and the doctor will try another medication. If you will do as I just wrote I promise you if nothing else, such as any type of abuse is going on in your lie, you will feel better about yourself and you will get better.
I'm unmarried 24 year old I'm getting breath problem like I'm not getting properly breath and sometime I'm bleeding if I run or if I lift heavy wait plz someone can me why all these happen
None of us are doctors and we cannot make any type of diagnoses.
If you have trouble breathing and are coughing up blood. In emergency medicine terms you have what is called a life and limb problem. Meaning whether or not you have health insurance you can go to any hospital emergency room and they must examine and treat you. For it is possible what is bothering you is life threatening.
They must treat you first to the proper standard of care then worry about getting paid. There are any number of social programs they can apply the bill to to get paid if that is what is keeping you from seeing a doctor.
As a fire department first responder; if called upon by you for help I would, as I am doing now, recommend transport to the local hospital ER.
In fact I am suggesting if you do not have a doctor you call 911 and ask for help.
Hello...i am 13 and i cut. well it stared over me being very stressed about my grades and thought i was going to fail 7th grade. i know i am smart and capable of being the best i can..i just let myself fall..i was in the shower one night and a broken razor used to shave your legs or whatever, was there. i herd people cut to relive pain...so me being a curious girl i did it..it felt good but than i started to freak out!! my wrists wouldnt stop bleeding...my mom and dad were out and my 17 year old brother (who i am very close with)was in his room and i had to tell someone. knowing he would understand i got out of the shower got dressed and ran into his room. i was crying and he asked me what was worng...i look at him with teary eyes and just flipped over my wrist. he started crying and pulled me into a tight hug. he said stuff like "you are so much better!" and "never feel like you have to hurt yourself!" and "your so beautiful and talented, why?" i didnt answer i just cried in his arms. soon when i felt better i tould him why i was depressed. and also my parents had been mad at me for my grades..so that too. also my grandmother who i was also very close too, had just passed away. my brother understood and was there to support. i asked him if he would promise to never tell my mom and dad and he promised. little did i know...he would break that promise. i went to bed because i just wanted to sleep from all the stress. later that night i guess my bro tould my parents when they got back. i was kind of half awake and half asleep when i heard my door open. my mom came and sat on my bed...took my hands from under my blanket and looked at my writst. she woke me up and started yelling and sceaming on how dumb i was to do that...my dad always agrees on everything my mom says so he just did the same thing...story short it caused a huuuuge shit storm between me and my mom...not so much my dad cause he was sort of calm. so i promised i would never do it again. now today at school i get called up to the office to see the couclier...i already knew what was coming. i was freaked out and crying the whole time. i stayed there for at least an hour or two, just venting. they said they would have to call my parents and let them know. i was sobbing begging them please not to tell...i tould them my mother would never look at me the same way again...i cut on my leg this second time btw. so they called in my bro. i tould him everything and we promised the school him and i would tell my parents tonight. it is 6:32 p.m. and i am scared to death..my mom thought i was crazy and mental the first time...and now the second...i am going to never be looked at the same by her...and that hurts...how should i approch them? please help....i am just a 13 year old girl who feels scared and alone...please....help. :(
I should not say what I am about to say. But it needs to be said so I will say it. First let me say I am old enough to be your grandfather and I would tell this to your mother if I had the ability to say so.
How your mother handled the news of your cutting yourself the first time was very wrong. You did not need to be yelled at. What you needed was and still is professional help. The type of help only a doctor can provide. Cutting is a cry for help. It says your in pain and your depressed.
Losing your grandmother and looking as if you would fail the 7th grade are two good reasons to bring on what doctors now call teenage depression. Yes it is an actual diagnoses for what your grandparents and great-grandparents once called a phase teenagers would sometimes go through.
Part of the problem is puberty and all the new hormones floating threw you. Then you have the stress of teenage life and all the new responsibilities expected of you as you are no longer looked at as a child; yet you are not an adult either. Then their are the social aspects of being a teenager along with fighting off boys.
Frankly without the added stress of loosing a grandmother or poor grades it is a wonder more teenagers are not depressed. There is help for this depression as it is a form of clinical depression. Meaning your not crazy just over stressed and the two chemicals that are secreted in your brain to manage stress are not sufficient at this time and you become depressed. The doctors can provide supplements to help and with talk therapy to identify the stressors and help you deal with them; the depression can be controlled and eventually disappear.
If you did tell mom last night as you promised to do and she started screaming again. Then she is again wrong and not helping you. She is just adding to your stress. What you need to do is either ask your brother to take you to the closest hospital Emergency room or you need to dial 911 and ask for help. Once you are with doctors mom will be informed just how sick you are after they examine you. Now I said sick not mental. Depression is an illness that is treated with medication first.
Neither mom or dad will be able to stop the people who 911 sends to you from examining you and taking you to the hospital if they feel the need is there. So be truthful with them.
There will be a police officer there for just this purpose to look out for your safety and well being plus fire fighter EMTS to take care of you.
Depression hurts but it doesn't have to. You need to get help and if your parents won;t get it for you then you need to get it for yourself. The quickest way to do that is to call 911.
I'll get straight to the point.
19/f
I am in a 2 year relationship and up until this point have never had a problem with my boyfriend or myself watching porn. I always thought it was a healthy form of sexual expression and completely normal. Were very open about these kinds of things.
But then the more I started thinking about it the worse I felt. He doesn't abuse it at ALL and when I watch it, its maybe once a month or less, so these feelings came out of nowhere. It doesn't interfere with our relationship whatsoever.
(Also i'm not religious)
So I just need opinions!
1) Is it healthy/normal for a relationship?
2) It's not considered cheating ... right?
3) How could I maybe cope with it better?
Or anything else you guys wanna say please do.
I'm a little confused about the whole thing and have been feeling pretty bad every time we talk about it.
Thanks!
Like everything else in any relationship the key is what is acceptable to the people in the relationship. This is very much an important part of any sexual relationship which porn of course would be a part of.
In the manner you speak of porn it is normal and can be made a part of any normal healthy sexual relationship. Sex like anything else is a learned concept. Yes copulation is inbred in all of us just as any animal knows how to copulate. Sex on the other to be fun and enjoyable is learned.
By learning I mean partners need to learn about each others likes and dislikes. They need to agree that no is no and stop is stop. Sometimes we hear about different things, positions, fetishes, or other things concerning sex that we frankly are not aware of or may not know how to work into. Porn in this manner plays a part as there is porn available for just about any subject you may wish to observe or try.
Also voyeurism is a great turn on for many people. Porn is a safe and legal way to explore and experience this area of sexuality. Porn is not cheating.
As for coping with porn that is an individual thing. You may have been raised to believe porn is dirty or worse; it is not either. It is healthy when used as you described. It can also be used as a learning tool as I described or to satisfy a sexual itch. It is also legal to view where shown or in the privacy of your own home.
When you find yourself able to accept what I have written here. Then I believe you will cope better with porn. Cheating is a one on one real situation. You cannot cheat with a piece of film or a magazine. You can lust for the persons image but lusting is not cheating.
21 f
my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now. we are pretty serious and we care a lot about each other. anyway! well i met his family about 3 months ago and i have been over about twice ever since. i don't really talk to his parents because they are always at work. his sister invite me to her daughters confirmation party (she is 9 years old) i have seen her about 2 times and barely poke to her, even though she is a nice girl. my question is should i go? and most importantly should i bring a gift? is it bad if i go to the family/friends party without a gift? i mean i barely know her. my bf already said its okay i do not need to bring one but i feel weird going without anything...if yes what should i bring?
thankyou for your time in advance.
Being invited to a family event when you are not engaged to that family member says a lot about how the family thinks of you and accepts you possibly as a future member of the family. While you are not obligated to bring a gift for the celebrant it would be nice if you did so.
If you wish to bring a gift then you should purchase something age appropriate and purposeful for the event or. If you feel this relationship is headed for the alter and you wish to be the fun future Aunt then you may wish to purchase something the celebrant may crave but may not receive from other relatives.
Of course the key here is affordability. You should not go into debt for a gift no matter how much you may wish to be looked at as the future fun Aunt. I wish I could be more specific but to do so would require more knowledge of how this family celebrates these events and more about the celebrant.
I wanna do sex with my bro
anongirl1 is right in what she wrote. I will add to that that incest is illegal in all 50 states and most of the developed countries of the world. With good reason I might add.
While it may make for tantalizing fiction that is where it should remain. If this desire of yours is so overwhelming that you cant keep you hands off your brother then you should seek the help of a qualified psychologist to deal with this before you are seriously hurt by this desire.
So I've been dating this guy for quite a while now, and I find myself often wondering if I'm wasting my time or not. A few things that might help: I cheated on my last boyfriend (who was my first that I got soon after I turned 18 & that lasted 3 months on & off) with the guy I'm with now. Everything went great once we started dating, even though he was maybe even more awkward than me. After about two weeks or so of dating he asked me out, and about 2-3 weeks in I took his virginity. He told me he loved me first, on our 2 month, and that freaked me out since I had never been in love. I eventually fell in love with him, but a dent was put in our relationship when he called me his close girl friends name(not during anything romantic/sexual, but still, and I found out he lied & said he went to coffee with his guy friend, but really went with him. I can be pretty jealous(as can he, but he isn't as jealous anymore-which I kinda miss), but I really wouldn't have minded them hanging out if he just told me, but since he lied about it made me wonder why. I've found kinda flirty texts/messages between them where they would talk about his & my relationship-really intimate details. If I ever bring her up he goes crazy though, & says he hasn't talked to her in so long, but I don't get why he's so angry that I could even suggest it. I've caught him lying quite a few times, and I don't think he'd tell me a hard truth unless I forced him to/found proof. My hands aren't exactly clean either, but he's so cold/emotionless about it, and unlike how I used to be; since I fell in love I've been extremely emotional, and he gets amused when I cry because I do for ridiculous reasons. We're so opposite, but we have so many good times & I love him & his family so much (mine is unstable) & he's my first love that I want to be my last, but I'm not sure what to do.
Help please?
This is one of those questions we see that is not easy to answer.
The first thing I see in what you have written is a relationship that does not have a good foundation. It is also a first type of love for both of you. For you as you say it is your first true love. For him it is his first love that has a full sexual relationship.
Both of these things can have different meanings for each of you. Now that he has experienced sex he may see that he has missed something that you and others have experienced. This is a guess on my part. Though given the fact that you have found him flirting with an ex I would think it a fairly good guess. You on the other hand think he is someone you can build a life with.
Right now your goals could very well be diametrically apposed. Not a good way to continue your present relationship or to look to build a life partnership on. As a former sale-manger of mine would say; you're trying to build a foundation on quicksand.
I can't and won't tell you to break it off with him as I do not know you or him well enough to make that recommendation. What I can and will tell you is this.
If you want to move forward you two need to sit down and talk to each other. A cards on the table type conversation. In any relationship communication is a must. If your looking to to build a life partnership with him then communication between you is a must. Sex will only get you so far. One morning you wake up and find you need to talk to each other and this is when you find you have nothing in common or that goals in life are different.
Right now you two are dating; you haven't said you are living together. Dating can mean an exclusive relationship or it doesn't have to be. So this is where you start.
Does he believe you are in an exclusive relationship? Does he want an exclusive relationship? Based on his answers you will know what to do. It is obvious you believe you two are exclusive so the answer to those two questions have to be answered first. Then you need to find out just how compatible you two are.
I bought a plane ticket a month ago and just realized that they never charged my credit card...
So when I go to the airport in three days will my ticket be valid?
I have the receipt they sent me with the amount they were supposed to charge.
And if it's not valid will they realize it was their fault and still let me fly?
At the moment I don't have enough money for the ticket though I did when I "bought" it.
Thank you!
I believe you are fine and will not have any trouble at the airport. When you purchased your ticket, be it on-line, through a travel agency or at a ticket counter they were given an authorization number to use when they process the charge.
This means that your credit card company has approved the purchase and is expecting the charge to come through. It may take several days or even a week or more before the Airline actually process the credit card purchase and asks the credit card company for their money.
During this time the billing cycle for your credit card may have come about for the month and your statement prepared and sent out. Pending charges, which this would be, are not shown on your statement only those charges that have been processed by the Bank after receipt of a charge by the company you charged something with.
The charge for these tickets will show on your next statement. If you do not have the money to pay in full you pay what you can with the balance the minimum amount requested or what amount over that you can afford. The remaining amount rolls over to the next statement, incurring an interest charge for the outstanding balance.
IF you still do not have the money to pay in full you must still pay the minimum charge payment shown on the statement or any amount in excess of that amount you can afford. The remaining amount is still subject to an interest charge.
Just be careful in paying minimum amounts as many credit cards carry a high interest charge. Make sure you understand how much you bank charges for interest on your credit cards. I know of some card companies who charge as much as 72% interest on outstanding balances. These cards are usually for those people who have poor credit . To get these types of cards you most likely had to pay an up front fee. Whatever that fee was that was you initial credit allowance.
If you do not know what your bank charges in interest call the customer service number on the back of the card.
done a half sex but yet my periods nt coming
I do not understand what "half sex" means or precisely what your questions is.
If you rewrite your question please be specific in what you asking. Use proper wording and do not use twitter style abbreviations. There is plenty of room for you to write exactly what information you are asking of us.
The more specific you are in your question the better we can be in answering you.
Okay, I'm 17 & the guy I've been seeing for almost 2 months is 18. We hang out for a little over the school week & then usually all day & night Friday and Saturday nights. Yesterday we hung out all day & then we went back to my house and we were laying in my bed & cuddling. We were spooning and I could tell he was already hard from that & we had talked about hooking up a few days before. We've obviously made out before but i haven't had the chance to really do anything to him because we're never in the right place for it. I decided to give him a blow job because I have my period and it's too early for sex.
He started kissing me and we were making out & it was getting pretty heated. He was really hard and at one point he was like ontop of me and humping me so I decided it was time to blow him.
Of course I've given head before, but I've never given him head and I was really nervous. My mom was downstairs and I was paranoid so I just went under the covers and blew him down there. It was really hot under there and it was hard to do a good job. I couldn't look up at him or see how he was reacting. He was breathing pretty heavily, but about halfway through started moving his hips around. Is that good or bad? I was feeling like I wasn't doing a good job after that. I had almost his whole penis in my mouth and I was also using my hand at the bottom and had pretty good rythm. He came and i swallowed all of it and when I came up, he was smiling and I was like sorry that sucked and he was like "no it was amazing" but didnt really convince me.
He kept smiling after and I was like why do you keep smiling and he said "nothing yu just make me so happy"
After that I was pretty confident that he liked it. He was snuggling me and tickling me. I jokingly asked him what his favorite part of the njght was. He said "to see your gorgeous smile" and then he was like "but you want me to say your blow job" and then said "it was good but you can do better" I was kind of offended. Was it good or not? Should I be embarassed if it sucked?
From what you write of how you went about it and how he reacted moving his hips and the fact they he climaxed. I would say you gave him a great blow job and have nothing to be embarrassed about.
Hopefully he will be half as good in giving you oral sex when you let him.
So me&my friend are both 15/f and my friend has depression. It's getting worse and worse and its been going on for months now and I have no idea what to do for her..she needs help. However, she does NOT want to go to the doctors, she cant tell my parents and I cant tell mine..its out of the question. Also my school is just so untrustworthy , we tried talking to them before and theyre just so stupid and unhelpful its ridiculous. Without all that is there a way to help her? I mean im assuming unhelpful answers here, but I need something thanks!
As they say in the TV commercials Depression Hurts. I know because I have suffered clinical depression. You cannot deal with this yourself for it requires professional help. Without it depression can spiral out of control at anytime and that is when things get real scary.
It is not unusual for a teenager to suffer from depression. In fact instead of calling it clinical depression they now call it teenage depression as while the symptoms may be the same the cause behind the symptoms are slightly different. Your grandparents use to call this a phase children went through. We know better now.
By keeping you friends secret you are not helping her; you are in fact hurting her. Would you rather have a live friend who may initially hate you for telling someone about her or attend her funeral because you kept her secret.
I'm not trying to scare you into doing what you need to do. She may be able to hide her depression from her parents or her parents may think this is just a normal teenage reaction to puberty. Maybe it is maybe it is not only a qualified doctor can say for sure. One thing else is for sure is that if she is suffering from depression she could be just one depressive episode away from doing something to hurt herself.
There is nothing wrong with you informing your parents of what you are observing in her or what she may be telling you. Your parents then can decide if her parents need to be told and they can inform her parents. In talking with your parents about your friend you may be saving her life. I urge you to talk to your parents about this or the school nurse if you have one.
So, I'm just one of those women that has completely lost my sex drive due to my pregnancy. I feel horrible about it because I love my husband and want to show my love, but the only way I feel like doing that is by affection like flirting, kissing, hugging, etc. Every once in awhile I'll force myself to have sex with him just to please him. Now I'm 38 weeks and all that pressure from the baby has made my vagina extra sore. And it's gotten tighter and more painful to have sex. My nausea has come back and I also have bad heartburn. So I don't feel like giving oral sex either, which I used to love doing. Does he care that it's painful for me? Or that my gag reflex is all of a sudden super active? No. He says he understands, but obviously not because he makes sure to make me feel like absolute s**t when I tell him I honestly don't feel like having sex. If I force myself to he'll keep going even if he sees that it hurts me or I'm not enjoying it and only stop when I'm on the verge of tears. I'm so incredibly uncomfortable, I'm literally about to pop any day now. He makes me cry sometimes because of how bad he makes me feel about it. He says he wishes I wasn't pregnant/regrets getting me pregnant because I'd still have my sex drive if I wasn't. Which made me feel even worse because I interpreted that as him caring more about sex than our child inside of me. I thought that was kind of immature and selfish. What do you guys think? Am I over-analyzing and a being a b**ch for not feeling like having sex, or is he being an a**hole for making me feel horrible about it? I feel like he should be more understanding and supportive..
Your husband is being very immature and thinking only of himself and his own needs. I'm surprised being 38 weeks pregnant your doctor has not told you sexual intercourse is off limits until after the baby is born and your vagina heals.
As for oral sex or even a hand-job the position for you to do either one has got to be uncomfortable for you. His failure to recognise this shows his immaturity as well as his lack of knowledge about what it is like for a women in the late term of pregnancy. He needs to grow up and man up.
In fact my advice would be to buy him some girly magazines and a bottle of lubricating lotion and tell him to go into the bathroom and take care of his needs himself until the doctor gives you the okay to have sex again. But if he continues to act as an immature child he may be waiting quite sometime before you allow him sexual privileges again.
This should be a wonderful time in your life, even with the discomforts of pregnancy. He is spoiling this time for both of you by being selfish and wanting only what he wants for himself. Really he needs to man-up. As the saying goes. He had the fun of making the baby now he has to start living up to the responsibilities of becoming a parent. Part of those responsibilities is being supportive of you during the pregnancy.
Im 13 years old and one of my friends has ben stuck in my head the past few weeks and i really want to finger her ive had sex dreams of us and one where shes fingering herself for me soo i really want to ive asked her once but she refused how can i get her to let me?
05natalie05 has told you like it is. Once anyone tells someone NO to anything sexual; to continue to push that person to do so is sexual harassment. Even as a teenager sexual harassment is illegal. You can be in real trouble with the law for doing so if you continue push this girl to do so or sexually harass anyone the police can be contacted and you can ended up in front of a Juvenile Court Judge.
I will assume that the girl in your question is your age or younger. If so she is, as are you, way to young to be engaging in this type of sex play. I am not surprised she has turned you down. You are rushing to do something you are was to young and not mature enough to be doing.
I realize that your body is sending you signals that are telling you to do so. This is caused by the new hormones floating through you from puberty. There are better ways to handle these impulses then to force or push a girl to do something she is not ready to do yet. I would suggest you take matters of your own needs in your own hands for now. IF you need further explanation to what I have just stated write back to me.
The doctors do not know if they can operate on her brain or not without causing more physical damage than there is already. she has spanked the kids but never hard enough to live marks or bruising just but she cussed the 11 and 12 year old out just as bad as she does me and i am 24. my moms threatened to send the 12 year old to a foster home because the 12 year old girl threatened to call welfare on her because of what's been going on. she has never done any of the before her brain injury.
I had a feeling this is what you would tell me if you wrote back to me. Brain tumors can cause a change in personality especially if they keep growing. You need to call her doctor(s) specifically her neurosurgeon and advise the doctor(s) of your mothers change in personality and behavior.
It is important for the doctors to know this for if they are going to operate they need to do so sooner rather than later. If they have been trying to shrink the tumor before operating then they need to know this for whatever they are doing is either not working or causing this change in her personality.
Since this problem has only come about since mom has had her brain injury a call to child welfare is in order for the grand children are in danger. If you are registered with welfare as a mentally retarded adult as mom is telling you. Then you too will be seen as in danger and welfare will assist you with new living arrangements as well as seeing to it that mom is looked after.
While I am not a doctor from what you have written it is not hard for me to make the assumption that moms brain injury has caused enough of a change in her, that she is now a danger to herself and others. If I am correct the doctors will know what to do and how to help her.
Call her doctors and tell them what is happening and what changes you are observing. Also call child welfare and advise them that the children may be in danger and they need to come out and visit the home.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and have a great relationship, however our sex life is lacking. We have been in a dry spell for a very long time and I think we both need to make more of an effort but it is difficult as we both still live with our mothers. Yesterday he gave me an ultimatum that he needs someone in his life that can perform oral sex or he wouldn't have a problem breaking up an 8 yr or 20 yr relationship. This hurt really had I would never imagine him saying this. I questioned his sincerity with our relationship and he said this is something he just can't live without. I think he feels if I gave him more oral that his sex drive would go up. My issue is that I feel objectified with his remark and I told him that! I feel like I almost have to counter with an ultimatum to show him how it feels. It's not the oral sex that bothers me it's performing the oral sex because of an ultimatum that bothers me. I don't want to leave him but I need to know that our relationship means something to him and that he isn't going to just walk out one day.
I have to be honest with you. You have been together 8 years and he is telling you he would throw that away because he is not getting enough oral sex??? What will it be next time Anal sex, BDSM or some other type of kinky sex you may not wish to perform or participate in?
This shows me an entire lack of love and respect for you on his part for. Sex has to be a mutually agreeable thing. Something that whatever you two do in bed is something you both agree to do. Not something one demands and the acquiesce to.
While you may love him; his making this type of demand upon you tells me he does not have the same type of love for you. He is being immature and totally lustful towards you. You can do better then him. He is not looking for a life partner; only someone to relive his sexual urges.
Tell him you do not accept sexual demands and if this is how he intends to act he can find someone else. Tell him he might prefer to find a call girl or prostitute for they will provide whatever he desires if he has the money.
Hi! I've seen a lot of questions regarding similar topics but none seem fitting to my situation.
I am currently 20 years old—old enough to recognize attraction or this type behavior in my opinion.
My parents have been married for about eighteen years now and my mom HAS cheated in the past. I think I was about 9 years old at the time, and its just a vague memory but I do know that no one has ever found out about it. I've never told anyone that except for my childhood best friend.
Anyways, a a few weeks back my mom mentioned this younger guy at work that she said 'had a crush' on her. We laughed it off for a while. But recently I see her texting all the time (this is weird because my mom doesn't text anyone, at all. She didn't even know how until I taught her)
I felt bad but the curiosity was killing me so in the middle of the night I checked her phone. She had text messages from a random number saying things like "I'm always going to be here for you. You have me blah blah." And her responses were something along the lines of "I really needed to hear that from you."
For the past weeks she keeps saying that she wants to go out, and that she wishes she could do this and that. And even that she wants to separate from my Dad? She even encouraged my Dad, my sister and myself to go away for the weekend without her because she had to work. Then, she told me to check a name of someone on facebook for her(as you can tell shes not very technology savvy) It was of course a younger guy, and she told me it was the same one that had a crush on her.
When I looked at her phone again, she had added this boy to her contacts but under a female name. And I know its the same number as before because I wrote it down.
I honestly don't know what to do. I don't even know what to think. At this point I don't think I'm jumping to conclusions or being paranoid, I know there is something there. I just don't know what kind of relationship she is having with this guy. And If maybe I should sit down with her and talk about it? Please give me some insight, I thought about talking about this with my friends but it's kind of embarrassing considering they come over my house all the time.
Thanks in advance!
No matter how much it hurts you. If you decide to talk to your mother about what you think you have found. You will end up on the wrong side of this issue.
Whatever mom may be doing or not doing the way you found out about this or think you found something; you did so by violating her privacy. You would be livid if mom did this to you I'm sure. This would cause a wide rift in the area of trust between you and your mom regardless of whether your suspicions are right or wrong.
Next is the problem of talking to mom about what you think you have found. Regardless of how delicately you try to approach her, mom will take this as you confronting her. Confrontations never end well. Someone or all involved in the confrontation are going to come away being hurt and resentful.
Lastly as much as you believe you have a vested interest in what you believe is happening; you do not. The only people who have any interest is your mom and your dad for it is their marriage. Yes you and your siblings are effect regardless. Though having a say at any point as whatever is happening unfolds can only cause you more harm. Once this comes to light if it comes to light then you can have your say and even pick a side if you choose to.
Until then the best thing fro you to do is to remain silent about what you believe you know. This is one of those unfortunate circumstances that come along at times where you are damned if you do and can be damned if you don't. Though you at this point are far safer if you don't.