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should i bring a gift or not?
21 f
my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now. we are pretty serious and we care a lot about each other. anyway! well i met his family about 3 months ago and i have been over about twice ever since. i don't really talk to his parents because they are always at work. his sister invite me to her daughters confirmation party (she is 9 years old) i have seen her about 2 times and barely poke to her, even though she is a nice girl. my question is should i go? and most importantly should i bring a gift? is it bad if i go to the family/friends party without a gift? i mean i barely know her. my bf already said its okay i do not need to bring one but i feel weird going without anything...if yes what should i bring?
thankyou for your time in advance.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Gift Giving?
Being invited to a family event when you are not engaged to that family member says a lot about how the family thinks of you and accepts you possibly as a future member of the family. While you are not obligated to bring a gift for the celebrant it would be nice if you did so.
If you wish to bring a gift then you should purchase something age appropriate and purposeful for the event or. If you feel this relationship is headed for the alter and you wish to be the fun future Aunt then you may wish to purchase something the celebrant may crave but may not receive from other relatives.
Of course the key here is affordability. You should not go into debt for a gift no matter how much you may wish to be looked at as the future fun Aunt. I wish I could be more specific but to do so would require more knowledge of how this family celebrates these events and more about the celebrant.
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You're not obligated to go but you can go if you want. It would be nice and a nice way to show you care about his family.
It wouldn't be bad to go without a gift.
When I was younger, older brother brought his girlfriend that he was dating for awhile over on Easter. It was the first time she was meeting us. She brought me and my little brother a chocolate bunny.
So, obviously it's not expected for someone to bring a gift but it is really nice and a good way to show people you care, even when you hardly know them.
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If you and he were engaged and this was your future family, then you might want to try your best to attend family events and milestones like this that you are invited to. Other than that, there is no obligation to go.
If you and your boyfriend are serious enough that you both want to make each other your mate for life but the two of you don't like the legal marriage thing, then you would still be considered a couple who eventually with the passage of time become a common law marriage, then you are family and again it would be nice for you to attend.
Knowing someone on facebook does not constitute a real relationship. Don't worry about it, if your relationship continues to grow and you eventually do marry, there will still be plenty of events to attend and time to get to know each family member better. They will not hold anything against you. IN fact I guarantee it would not even occur to them odd that you are not there. If for some odd reason they are upset and offended that you are not there, that would be an indicator that you might want to think twice about getting married to him someday. Relatives like that can make your life miserable and affect your marriage.
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