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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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i am 9 years old. can some 9 year old boy have sex with me?
Short answer, No.
Long answer. You are to young to even be on this sight. You are way to young to even be thinking about sex let alone having sex. Even if the boy was capable of having sex with you. You are not yet fully developed as a women and sex would not only be very painful but could do physical harm to you as well.
Sex is an adult activity. Something that requires a great deal of maturity to enter into. Like it or not you are still a child with child like maturity. There are many stages of love that must be experienced before you go down the path to sex. Don't rush yourself for missing out on these stages is not only wrong you will be cheating yourself out of many wonderful experiences.
Im writing an essay about Uninformed America, basically on how much knowledge we lack, or how ignorant some people are regarding facts about the history of our country, the government, politics, etc. It goes on to explain how teens are too involved with social media to care about their education and so forth. Basically what I'm looking for is some help and or personal opinions on this subject. I've only gotten 2/8 pages done so I'd like all the help I can get.
Thank you for your time!
I'm not sure how much my views on the subject will be to you though I am happy to share them with you.
First a bit of demographics for you. I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I have lived my entire life either in the North East or mid Atlantic part of the country.
When I went to school, back in the dark ages of blackboards, pencils and paper and mimeograph machines. We started to learn about geography and history in Elementary school. I remember in 5th grade having to know all 48 state capitals and for history we learned when each state joined the Union. We also learned about World Geography while in Elementary School.
Today Geography is not taught with the depth that it was when I was in school. History was an on going subject which started in early elementary school and continued through High School Social Studies. In 7th grade we had a required Civics class where we learned about the different forms of government with emphasis on our government.
These teachings are not emphasized today in our schools. Our schools teach what is need to know to pass standardized test. We are test teaching so that we can move forward. This to me is the crux of the problem you are exploring.
If it does not directly effect me I do not need to worry or know about it. That is a bad attitude to take as it allows for you to walked over and snowed on issues that should be of great important to you. Politicians tell you the a certain percentage, a very large percentage of the people support an imitative. How do you know this if you know nothing about the imitative?
The Internet is a great resource to find information. To me it is the encyclopedia of my day on steroids. Today's teenagers do not realize the elephant they have at their finger tips because of the many other social things the Internet brings.
Instead of researching a question as we did with the help of reference material. Today's teenager goes on-line and asks someone for the answer. In somewhat of the manner you are. In your question though you are asking for what amounts to research information you can include in your essay. This type of information can only come from first hand information, not from reference sources.
In many of the questions we receive my answer is: Life is like an algebra problem. You need to follow the proper steps in order if you want to get the right answer. Today the uninformed among us want the answer but are not willing to follow the steps needed to get the answer preferring instead to take short cuts to get an answer. This usually leads to wrong and misinformed information.
Social media is only part of the problem. Adding to the problem is the need for instant gratification. To that end we have things such as the 24 hour news cycle, the need to be first without regard for being right. The need for self-promotion regardless of who or what may be hurt or endangered.
The lack of knowledge also breeds egotism, bullies, greed and the need to bluff our way though things we do not understand. One day this house of cards the young people of today are building will all come crashing down upon them. It started with a need for expedience in education.
I asked a question earlier about how I didn't know if I should get engaged before my sister got married. By the way, I should have made it clear that I don't want to get engaged for the attention. I was saying that I ideally would like to wait so that she can have her own attention and so can I, but I don't know if that can work out. I came up with an idea a short while ago that I hope will help the situation. My sister just got engaged and is getting married in June of 2014, so what if I waited until February or so until I got engaged. Actually I don't know when my boyfriend will propose to me, but I guess I could talk to him about this and see how he feels. If we did that, then my sister could be in the spotlight by herself for almost a year and we would only be engaged together for a very short time. I'd still like to wait so that we can each have our own spotlight spotlighting the time we got engaged until the time we got married, but I don't see how that can give me enough time to plan a wedding by the time we are needing to get married.
In both you questions you use the term; " needing to get married." You do not explain what you mean by "needing to get married." Without this information it would be hard for any of us to give you any better information then we may have already done or may be able to do without understanding what you mean by this.
Hi, so I have an Instagram. Recently, I was talking to this girl then a random girl just said I was bothering her.
We got into a conversation, then she said she'd hack me from her family. She also said they'd hurt me. When I ask her what she meant, she said they'd find me, get my number from the cops, etc.
I'm scared. What do I do?! She hacked my friend before. I'm so scared!
Call the police anyway you would be surprised what the Cyber unit can find if they can get into your Instagram account you don't have to put us with this
She is most likely a whack job that gets off doing these things though in this day and age you cannot take that chance. Call the police and report this, hopefully you still have the Instagram. If your local police do not have a cyber crimes unit your state police do.
The making of these types of threats, even in jest, are illegal. It does not matter if you know this girl or not. There is information in the header of the address that the Cyber unit can use to trace the message back to the computer and the user through the Internet host.
A threat has been made. You can not tell if the threat is real or not. In this instance one must assume the threat is real. That makes the threat an assault. Depending on exactly what is said and what the police find on investigation will depend on who whether this person is charged with a misdemeanor assault charge or a felony.
i am a virgin . i and my boy friend were fooling around . he was naked but i was having my panties . later i found that my panty was a little wet because of his pre ejaculation . but there was no direct contact . can i get pregnant ? usually my periods are always late by 3 or 4 days . this month i was supposed to get them on 8th may but i dint get them yet . plz help me . i am tensed
First: Stress, such as worrying if your are pregnant or not, has caused more girls periods to be late or missed all together than one might think. Your cycle is a very delicate thing and it does not take much to throw it off.
Next; it is possible to become pregnant if a boys semen lands on you but not inside you. It is rare and depends on many different things being in alignment.
1. How close was the semen to the opening of your vagina? The further away the less likely you are to be pregnant.
2. You have to ovulating at the time this happened. Meaning an egg has been ejected from your ovaries and is in the three day window of fertility to be fertilized. In 80% of women this occurs during the middle 14 days of their periods.
3. The fact that the semen had to swim through your panties did limit the amount that got through and may have weakened them a bit.
As I said it is rare but possible you could have gotten pregnant. Most likely though your stressed out about being pregnant. A home pregnancy test will either prove or disprove a pregnancy. Most likely it will disprove it and you will eliminate your stress. You may not get this months period but your next will come on schedule.
If you are over 14 years of age there is a law called HIPPA, which is a Federal Law. This law gives anyone 14 and older total medical confidentiality over their reproductive system.
Meaning you can make appoints, see doctors, ask questions and be treated for any condition related to your reproductive system without parental knowledge.
Congress passed this law not to promote sex in young people but to promote sexual health so that young people would seek medical treatment when needed. Information regarding these visits cannot be released and requires your expressed written permission to be released to anyone including your parents. Without it doctors can say nothing to anyone.
Under this law you can also request birth control pills. I suggest since you are experimenting with sex in this manner that you do so. Birth control pills will also regulate your period for you.
One last thing about HIPPA. Mom can still force you to see a doctor though if she requests any type of female exam all you need say is; "I invoke my rights under HIPPA." At this point mom, if she is in the exam room, will be asked to wait in the waiting room. You can at this point stop the exam or complete it confident that none of this will be available to mom with out your consent.
This law is not greatly known by the young people it affects. I tell you this for I would tell my own granddaughter; not to promote promiscuity but it is your right to know it. Also to hopefully reduce the stress you have placed on yourself.
I miss my family. I miss what it used to be. I miss the feeling when we were kids and everything seemed wonderful. I had my sister and my brother as my best friends. We got each other.
Now, I am in college. My sister has vanished for 3+ years. My brother gives me the cold shoulder every time I come home. My father is a block of human flesh that cannot understand what it means to care for another, to have sympathy. His head is in the past and does not realize it. He expects women to be servants and men to do the heavy work. When one thing is said to him, he acts like he listens, but responds with his own self centered opinion. He is impossible. My mother is a mad mess because this is not what she envisioned her life as. She feels hopeless.
That takes it back to me. I'm in the middle of trying to move on with my life but still desire the love of my family. One thing I did not mention is that I have an older brother, not my once best friend younger brother, but an older abusive brother. He would hit us, especially me, and manipulate my parents into thinking that we were all in the wrong and in the end no one gets punished. He lied, he bullied, he harassed. My parents? On the occasion my father, when we were kids would protect us. He saw what was going on. This was during the time that my sister and I were complaining a lot. My mother at the time favored my older brother like no other. She bought him the good glasses, bought my sister and I the ones that made our visions get progressively and significantly worse after a year. She would pick him up whenever he called. We would have to wait 1-3 hours in the front of school for her to get her ass to us.
One time, my older brother, forcefully dug his nails into my hands because I wouldn't let him take my CD out of the computer that I was using. He wanted me to get off so that he could use it.I refused. When my dad came home, we showed him the blood on the computer and the fingernail marks on my hand. My dad saw what was going on now, and he talked to my brother. I don't think he ever punished him, but he saw what was going on.
My parents never ever did anything about that. Their resolution? To keep him calm and happy. I won't forget the time he took a butcher knife and went to my sister's and I's bedroom saying that just a little bit, just a little bit it will be over. It will all be over. My parents were trying to calm him down. And once it was over, it was over. No punishment for him. No talking to my sister or me.
That was and still is how my parents deal with disruption in any calm in the family. They try to get it to go away, and once away, ignore the fact that it ever happened. It is no wonder that everyone suffers. They don't understand the fact that my older brother needs some fucking significant help. That heffer is messed up. Fucking messed up. And they put up with that?? What the fuck is wrong with them and what the fuck is wrong with him.
This is all insanity. Do you have any advice on how I should go about this insanity? Or other suggestions?
I don't think any of us have the expertise to offer the type of advice you need. Fortunately there is an organization that does have the expertise and can point you to people where you live that can help you. The name of the organization is RAINN.
RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network, They operate a 24/7 hotline you should call. That number is 1-800-656-HOPE. The call is free and totally confidential. The call is automatically routed to a crisis center near you where specially trained people can help you with your question.
What I see is a dysfunctional family. A big brother that is in need a psychiatric help who is a danger to himself and others. If you have siblings living at home under the age of 18 there may be need for intervention by child services to insure their safety.
As for you; I think you would do well to contact the health center at school for counseling with a psychologist. The people at RAINN will do a better job of explaining this with you than I can here.
From what you have written your home life was troubling. You need to in a sense get right with your childhood experiences so that you can go forward with your life. We can't correct the past; what we can do is learn to live with it in a healthy way so it does not ruin the future for us. So that we do not inflict this on our children. This is where the psychologist comes in. This is the person you can say anything and everything to. Get everything off your chest confident that whatever is said is totally confidential.
What RAINN and the psychologist can do for you is to help you get right with you. RAINN can help you get your brother the help he needs for as I said from what you have written he appears to be a danger to himself and others. Your younger siblings who may be under 18 can also be helped by contacting the proper agencies.
As for your parents that will depend on whether you have siblings under 18 at home. If you do then the same agencies that are there to protect you siblings will work with your parents to correct their parenting skills.
I hope my advice helps.
There's not much more to my question than what's in the title. My sister is getting married in June of 2014 and I'm thinking I might get married around that time as well. Like in August maybe. There's a reason why it may be important that I get married by that time, but I'm worried that people will think I just did it to steal my sister's thunder. Also, it's my dream to get married married in this church at the Grand Canyon, which I'm afraid people will think of as a real thunder stealing attempt. Also, I'd kind of like my own thunder. I don't get much at all. I got a tooth infection in February that was so bad I had to go to the emergency room and I liked it because it got me some attention. It's not a good enough reason to not get married when I plan to, but still. What do you think my sister and family will say?
Other than saying; "There's a reason why it may be important that I get married by that time," and "I'd kind of like my own thunder. I don't get much at all." You don't give any reason for your question that I can base an answer on.
If you have a valid reason why you need to marry before August of 2014 then I would say; no you are not stealing any thunder. Some valid reasons for needing to be married by that time that I can think of would be a scheduled deployment of your fiancé or graduation and moving for a job offering. Things of this nature.
It would not be stealing her thunder if you were to marry before her say in December of this year or before March of 2014. This would give everyone time to give her the and you both the attention your weddings deserve.
One other possibility. Have you thought about you and your sister having a double wedding. You want to talk about thunder for the brides, this one is it. Many couples have double wedding most if not all I have ever seen were between friends. I'm sure sisters and brothers have had double weddings but frankly I haven't heard of any so I believe them to be very rare.
Then their is the fact of the cost involved for the wedding. Two couple one venue is half the price if each couple is paying for their own wedding. I know you have your heart set on a specific Chapel. Maybe your sister will not have a specific church that she must be married in and not mind being married in the church you feel strongly about.
I will tell you this. If you and your sister do agree to a double wedding your friends and family will not soon forget the event for it is as I said rare when two siblings marry at the same time and place.
I've been having sex for a while now. I've slept with five guys and I've never been able to feel anything. My friends are always talking about how amazing it feels and I have no idea what that feeling is. I've tried masturbating and even then I still feel nothing. I do get wet while having sex but all I can feel is the penis going in and out but never a pleasure sensation or anything no matter what they do. The first time ever having sex it didn't hurt or anything i just felt nothing. What is wrong with me? I want to be able to enjoy sex. I also barley ever get horny the only time I do is if I'm watching porn not when someone is fingering me or eating me out. I have a bf now who I love and I really want to feel something with him but no matter what I just can't seem to?
I'm not a doctor, none of us are so we cannot make a diagnoses. What I can do is make a guess at what I think may be the problem. To do that is wrong without also suggesting that you need to see a doctor for while your problem could be very normal it could also be something that is not normal and seated in the physical or because of something that is troubling you.
The proper doctors to see would be your Gynecologist, without mom being in the exam room, I'll explain how in a bit, for you need to be able to speak freely with the doctor. If after examination nothing is found wrong then a psychologist for some counseling to find other causes.
The two major factors for not finding both relief and pleasure from sex are stress and fear. There is also a third which has to do more with very strict religious upbringing.
There is one thing that bothers me which is that you felt no pain the first time you had sex. Sex for the first time, if the Hymen is torn should cause some pain it may be little it may be a lot but you should feel something as a part of you is being torn.
Do you ever feel physical pain? Where you spanked as a young child? Did you feel the spanking? Did you cry? If you burn yourself do you feel pain? If someone were to hit you do you feel pain? These questions are important as there is a medical condition where people do not feel pain. If you were ever spanked and not felt pain or burnt yourself and not felt pain or have been hit or injured yourself and not felt pain. It is important to tell the doctor this.
As for fear and stress. These are two big factors as to how are body operates abnormally. Stress and fear interrupts are normal ebb and flow so to speak of the bodies natural cycle. This is where a psychologist can be of more help to you than your medical doctor. The psychologist can help you uncover what is causing the stress or fear and help you deal with it better.
Now when visiting any doctor for this problem; since you I believe are over 14 years of age and this problem relates to your reproductive health. By a federal law called HIPPA; Congress has given you total medical confidentiality as it relates to your reproductive health. This means you can make appointments, see doctors, discuss problems and be treated for any condition related to your reproductive health with or without parental permission. You can also ask for and be given prescriptions for birth control medication. All of this is your right under HIPPA and your parents have no right to know. They cannot access this portion of your medical records or be told anything by the doctors who are treating you without your expressed written permission.
This would include anything related to a pregnancy which is why you can ask for birth control. You parents cannot force you to have an abortion or stop you from getting one.
While mom can still force you to go to a doctor, at anytime till your 18. When it comes to your reproductive system all you have to say to the doctor is; "I invoke my rights under HIPPA" and mom cannot be in the exam room with while your examined or know anything about this portion of your medical exam.
Congress passed this law so that young people, guys and gals, will seek medical attention for there reproductive health when needed. So that they can speak openly and freely with their doctors so that they receive proper medical care.
Just so you know I am old enough to be your grandfather and I would tell my granddaughter this same information about HIPPA. It is not a license to go out and have sex, though for you that horse has already left the gate. It is a license for you to make sure that your reproductive system is properly cared for so that you may enjoy being a parent should you desire to be one when the time is right for you.
I went to visit a guy who was just a friend,in an attempt to rape me i told him am a virgin he did not believe me forcefully he fingered me and there was a pool of blood.i ask some of my friends who were disvirgined they told me is just a small quantity of blood that will come out i am afriad mine was a pool.i dnt know if any damage has been done to my virgina?
First: This guy did rape you when he forcefully fingered you. You need to file a police report charging him with rape. What happened to you is a form of date rape. The fact that he did not penetrate you with his penis is not the only definition of Rape. In your case by fingering you depending on the laws in your state he performed an abnormal sex act on you. This is generally considered to be sodomy. Rape under a sodomy statue, in general terms is considered to be a first degree rape in most states.
You in one sense were lucky he may have only torn your hymen. He did not harm you in any other way. You may just save the life of any other girl he may try to rape in the future by filing charges against him now.
Once a rapist always a rapist. They believe you think you did something to cause the rape and because of it they can get away with it. Not true, you are a victim and until you charge him with his crime you will never have closure.
Second: Once you file your police report allow the police to take you to the hospital for an examination. This will do two things. It will allow the police to gather the evidence they need while allowing the doctors to examine you and fix anything that may have harmed you.
I doubt anything more than the tearing of you hymen happened. Whether it has been completely dislodged or just partially torn is something that needs to be checked out. The amount of blood from loosing your hymen varies with each women and also depends on how gentle the man is in taking your virginity.
Third: Even if you have lost your hymen or the doctor has to complete the removal of your hymen for medical reasons you are still a virgin. By today's standards and definition a woman or man is a virgin until he or she has had sexual, vaginal intercourse, where there is a penetration off a penis into a vagina.
I would also like to talk with some people who can help you with any questions you may have and with filing a police report. The name of the group is RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The operate a 24/7 hotline that when dialed will connect you to a crisis center in your own town. The call is free and totally confidential. That number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
Please call them and remember you did nothing to cause this man to do this to you. You are a victim for which I am very sorry this has happened to you. Please put this guy where he belongs which is in jail before he hurts another women.
Му friend told ме she throws up to lose weight,she's 13,female. But now she told ме she threw up after eating lunch about twice then about a hour later she made herself throw up again,then a hour later again and after that again then she ate supper and then threw up again. Is this even possible? Му main question is,can чou throw up on a empty stomach? Like a few hours later after eating can чou make yourself throw up? Or can чou only make yourself throw up straight after eating? Thanks xx
So not do as your friend is doing. Your friend has an eating disorder known as BULIMIA. This is an illness not a weight loss program.
This illness is such that if left untreated can kill you. Let me repeat this: Bulimia kills, it is not a weight loss program. Vomiting can be life threatening whenever it occurs for it disrupts the electrolytes that your body needs to function properly. This is why when you vomit unintentionally such as when you're sick with the flu the doctors will give you medications to try and stop it.
I could go into a long list of things that happen when you vomit excessively> Suffice to say you become sick, really sick and if unchecked you die. Bulimia and anorexia are the two worst types of eating disorders.
If your friend is doing this you need to tell your parents so they can tell her parent. Yes she may get mad at you for telling. Is it not better to have a friend who may be mad at you for a time then attend her funeral.
As for dieting: You are 13 years old at the beginning of puberty. Your body is changing an all that "baby fat you gained as a child is needed to feed the changes your body is under going. Unless your doctor is suggesting or telling you that you need to lose weight DO NOT DIET.
If YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT CHECK EITH YOUR DOCTOR FIRST. if THE DOCTOR AGREES THE DOCTOR WILL GIVE YOU A DIET TO FOLLOW AND FOLLOW YOU MEDICALLY AS YOU DIET.
This is the best way for someone your age to loose weight; which is under a doctors care while doing so.
i was taking medication because i had a yeast infection. it was one pill at night and one in the morning. i took my night one but an hour later i drank hard liquer, not that much maybe the most 3 shots cause i forgot. then later i had the worst lower abdominal cramps ever and i never get cramps there only in my legs when i am about to get my period but later in the night i ended up getting my period. now i dont know if the drinkning on the meds caused the pains or the pms. i dont want to tell my mom. could this have damaged my reproductive system? it said do not drink alchohol on this medication. thanks
I'm not a doctor either and cannot say for sure if drinking while on the medication did any harm. My best guess is it did not for in most instances mixing alcohol and medication caused you to not become impaired in some manner, generally sleepy or lethargic. Unable to be able to properly operate heavy machinery or drive. It may be possible that the mixing of alcohol and the meds caused the cramping you felt. I have my doubts this caused your period to come on though you would know if your period came about very early.
Best advice I can give you is if your period was more than a day or so earlier than normal you may want to visit your GYN. If your over 14 you can do so without telling mom as a law known as HIPPA, a Federal Law, applies to your situation.
HIPPA allows fro anyone over the age of 14 to make, see and be treated by a doctor for any problems related to their reproductive systems without parental knowledge or consent. All doctors visits for concerning these type of problems are completely confidential and the doctors cannot inform your parents without your written consent. If mom was to be with you she cannot be in the exam room with you. All you need to say to the doctor or the nurse is "I wish to invoke my rights under HIPPA" and mom will be asked to wait in the waiting room.
This would apply even if for some reason mom were to force you to see a doctor for any type of female exam. Once you say those words the doctor cannot examine you with anyone in the room but a member of the practice.
Congress passed this law so that young people such as yourself could see a doctor and speak openly with the doctor concerning any problem with their reproductive system. This includes asking for birth control medication.
18/f
I asked about the Staples job interview and I loved your answer.
I do have one more though. I know most interviewers open up with "Tell me about yourself." and I really don't know how I should answer that.
I haven't had much job experience except when I went to college for a semester and worked in a bakery. I don't know if I'm supposed to list my strengths but I was thinking that would be if they asked "What are your strengths?"
So what exactly am I supposed to say for that question? I've tried googling but nothing really related to my inexperience.
The tell me about yourself question is usually one that is asked to help put you at ease. You can talk about working in the bakery what you like about it most people like working with other people meeting and greeting customers maybe the hectic pace of the bakery making the day go by fast things of that nature. Whatever comes to mind don't give a lot of thought just whatever comes to mind.
When asked about your strengths this is probably the hardest question to answer for two reasons One reason is that most people have a tendency to be too hard on themselves or underestimate themselves. Another reason is having a hard time figuring out just what the proper thing to say is your case being young and talk about your school experience maybe a good Mascouten English maybe not so good in the sciences talk about the bakery maybe you could cash register it with dealing with people but you couldn't tell) from a white bread something of that nature. This is just another way for the interviewer to gain some insight into you don't put a lot of thought and it just give them what comes to mind when you're sitting there thinking about it now and just let it come out when you're there
18/f
I have an interview tomorrow at Staples. I have never done an interview before though. Google has really helped on looking at some of the questions they ask.
I'm unsure of what to wear. My dad goes to interviews quite a bit and he said just dress nice. He said I didn't have to go all professional with like white shirt, black skirt type of thing since I'm being interviewed for a retail job. Is this true?
Dressing nice is vague for me. He said I always dress nice so it shouldn't be a problem.
So I'm not sure what to wear and what not to wear. I don't wear t-shirts or anything really casual besides jeans so I'm clueless.
I've seen girls get jobs in jeans and a really cute shirt.
Anyways, what about what nail polish, shoes, or how your hair should be? I really want to put some effort in this.
Besides the how you look part, what else should I know about the interview. Some questions that are hard to answer? Things not to say?
Anything would be helpful. Thank you.
This is a tough question to answer as each interviewer looks at different things. If you have been to this store then you should know how the people wear their hair, makeup and do their nails. I would suggest that you go with minimal makeup, a nice subdued nail polish, nothing flashy and your hair fixed in a nice manner. If you have long hair a pony tail is always acceptable.
As a one time interviewer myself someone coming into my office in blue jeans, even though they may be acceptable dress once employed was a strike against the person.
What I looked for was someone who took the time to dress the best they could, which meant clean and neat, if blue jeans were all they had an they said so then they were acceptable. I would look for either slacks and a nice blouse. A skirt with a nice blouse or a dress for women. Nothing to tight or too short. If you wear a dress or skirt you should be able to sit down without having to pull at the hem of your dress to keep from exposing yourself to the interviewer. In short show the interviewer the respect they are do by inviting you in for and interview.
During the interview look the interviewer in the eyes when responding to questions, this is very important. Also do not wear a watch as we all have a tendency to check the time if we have one on. This is a big no - no. When asked a question if you need a moment or two to formulate your answer then take that moment. You do not need to start talking as soon as the interviewer stops talking.
To most questions there are not many right or wrong answers. In one interview I had, for which I was given the job. The owner did not ask me one question pertinent to the job I was applying for. He asked me questions about what I did in the military. When I was hired I asked him why? He responded that if I could make him understand how to repair an airplane then once he trained me on his product I could make his customers understand his products.
So as you dad said; dress nice which means neat and clean with respect for the person interviewing you. Look directly at the interviewer when answering a question. Don't be afraid to say you don't have an answer for a question as some interviewers will throw a question at you that you could not possibly know the answer to just to see if you will try to bluff your way through it.
I hope I have helped.
What are the best positions for your first time? What is the best way to do it and is your first time awkward?
I think we know what your asking though like santos I'm going to ask you to be more specific. I'm going to add to this request that you add in your age and please be truthful. You will get an answer but knowing your actual age helps us in giving a proper answer.
F/15
my labia is irregularly large... akward... soo i wanna get the plastic surgery to shorten them, so my question is would the HIPPA Law apply to this? if not how do i confront my mother about this? we are very open about relationships, sex and just everything in general,btw.
below i have a little more detail on the HIPPA Law:
By a Federal Law known as HIPPA anyone over the age of 14 may seek medical treatment without parental consent or knowledge for any problem related to their reproductive system.
The short answer to your question is yes the HIPPA Law would apply to the point that you could make an appointment to see a GYN to be examined and discuss your complaint. As for any type of surgery HIPPA may or may not apply depending on just what your complaint is and how the doctor evaluates your complaint.
If the doctor say finds that your labia is causing you a medical problem then it might be possible for some type of surgery to done to correct this problem. Would you need parental permission to have this surgery? That is where HIPPA becomes a little vague. If the surgery is deemed purely cosmetic then HIPPA will not apply and parental permission will be required.
I believe it was last year the discovery health channel did a multiple part story on British women who sought Labia surgery for a variety of reasons. For one thing it was found to be very a painful surgery. It was in most cases done outpatient in the doctors office. Most of the women who had it done felt if they had to do it all over again they would never have had it done in the first place as the results even when successful were not pleasing in looks or sensation.
If your wondering what a guy will think about how your vagina looks? As a guy I can tell you looks of a vagina are the last thing guys even think about. As someone married to a women with a large labia I can tell you it is a plus factor for me when we have sex both oral and intercourse.
From my perspective I would never ask my wife or would I want her to consider having any type of labia surgery. As long as you are not being caused any type of discomfort I see no reason to consider cosmetic surgery on your labia and I believe you will have a hard time finding a doctor to perform this surgery at your present age or when your 18.
F/15
i have always had vivid dreams sense i can remember but this one was just straight up weird (to me anyways, because ive never had a sex dream before)in this dream my family was at church camp and my family had gone on the other side of the lake and i got naked and jumped in a bath with 2 guys and suddenly we started having sex (remember this was a dream ;P) then b4 i woke up i was freaking out because no one had a condom on and i thought i was gonna get prego!
does that dream mean anything? maybe maybe not, what do u guys think?
You're normal and this will most likely happen again. It is caused by the hormones of puberty. If you were male it would have probably been what's called a wet dream as a male would have probably had an emission of semen while sleeping. It is very possible you became wet in your vagina and just do not remember or there is no evidence in your panties that you did.
This is nothing more than sexual tension making its way out of you. If you were to masturbate these type of dreams may not happen or happen less often as you would be more sexually satisfied.
Do not read what I have just said wrong. I am not saying you need to go out and start having sexual relations. This is not what I said. Masturbation, which by a recent survey concluded over 80% of us do, is a safe and comfortable way to relieve sexual tension that anyone over the age of puberty is going to have.
If you have never masturbated or want to know more about it I suggest you enter the words, masturbate or masturbation into a search engine to learn more about it.
i know 4K doesnt sound like much but im a unemployed 15yr old girl. i want the money for 2 things to fix up my car and a trip im going on next year.
can you please list some supper fun jobs, or jobs online a teen can have? i dont want to babysit or mow lawns or anything like that.
thank you for any ideas :)
Unfortunately the federal child labor laws are working against you. Until you reach the age of 16 most employers will not hire you as the law forbids them from doing so. The only jobs this leaves open are the ones you named and a few others.
Once you turn 16 you can apply for jobs at fast food restaurants, certain other of types of restaurants, full station gas stations, if there are any left, dry cleaners and most retail stores. You will need working papers signed by your school, parents and employer which are then returned to your school. The working papers outline the hours you are allowed to work per week, per day and so forth.
In short to answer your question. While your state may allow you to drive; the federal government prohibits you from earning the type of money to purchase the gas, pay the insurance and up keep on the car you drive until you are 16. Once you reach age 16 your options are going to be severely limited while school is in session.
Long story short, I am friends with this guy at work, we are both 21, and we have always talked for like the past year. We joke around all the time with eachother. He used to always try to hang out with me but I had a boyfriend so I never did. We stopped working similar shifts so we ended up not talking much anymore. But then. My boyfriend and I broke up last month, so now I am single. Pretty much, me and this guy that I work with gradually started to talk more. One day after work, we hung out for like 3 hours and talked, and he ended up kissing me. The next day I asked for his number. We texted several times. Few days after that we hung out at his house, and, even though it was not planned, we ended up sleeping together. After that happened though, things have not been the same. At work, he doesn't talk to me too much anymore--we still joke around with eachother, but when I asked him if we were going to hang out again soon he joked around and said "how about february" (joking tone)..I told him I guess I kind of get the hint that he doesn't want to hang out, and he just laughed and ignored it. He hasn't texted or anything. I understand that its finals week at school (we both go to college), so Im not pushing it but I don't get why hes being all weird? He initiated the kiss and the sex...what should I do??
Not knowing either of you I can't say for sure though it sounds like he is a guy that once he gets what he is looking for it is time to move on. He is looking only for sex, once he gets what he wants if the women is looking for more from the relationship then that it is his cue to move on.
If you were to go up to him and say your not looking for any type of relationship other than a friend with benefits type. He would most likely be in your bed waiting for you before you got your blouse off.
To be blunt he very well could be a some what immature college guy, possibly a BMC, who feels he is a player when it comes to women. This is not the type of guy you are probably looking for so mark this guy up as a lesson learned and find a guy that will respect you for who you are and the women you are.
If i have unprotected sex with a man after five days of my period will i get pregenant
It is possible; it all depends when you ovulate. For almost 80% of women that time is a 3 day window during the middle 14 days of the menstrual cycle. For the remaining 20% that time could be any time during their cycle.
There are ovulation kits you can purchase at you local pharmacy that will help you pin point when you ovulate. From the nature of your question this may be a recommendation of something that is to late as the horse is already out of the barn. In which case a home pregnancy test may be in order.
First thank you so much for your help
I am 15 and he just turned 16.
I don't know how how we are going to be together but we have agreed to make it work.
I'm very sure he's as vomited to this relationship as I.
Let me start by saying I am old enough to be your grandfather. What I am about to write may or may not be to your liking but is said with the best intentions.
Christian lady or not your mother is right to remind you about the perils of meeting people on line, especially young women or women of any age. While I have no reason to disbelieve your friend is anything other than what he is telling you he is; you must always be on your guard when meeting people on-line.
You don't have to be a Christian lady just a parent to remind your children of these perils. I would tell my own daughter the same thing be she your age or 25 or even 35. There are way to many sickos in this world not to be on guard at all times.
That being said on to the more important item.
To try and have a committed relationship to someone nearly 4,500 miles away has a high failure rate. I'm not saying it can't be done. Before the age of the Internet people would meet as pen pals, usually GI's and girls back home. Some actually turned into romances and marriage.
To do this though you two eventually have to meet. Right now, it appears that neither of you have away of traveling to each other or to a mid point where you can meet. I would think that this would need to be worked out first before you start working on the problem of how to tell you mother. For if you cannot work out how to meet in person the need to tell your mom becomes mute.
Until that time comes I would suggest you just enjoy the time you spend with him on-line. Should he ever ask for pictures other than fully clothed ones of you;
First: do not ever send pictures of yourself you would not show your father.
Second: If ever he asks for that type of picture it is time to end your on-line romance as he is not what he is telling you he is. He may not actually be 4,500 miles away.
If you two keep your romance alive and find away to meet in person then this is what I would suggest be done to tell your mom. Ask him to call her and introduce himself to her. This should go along way in mom putting trust in him and the fact that you two met on-line. It is doubtful that the type of person she suspects you would meet on-line would bother with calling her to introduce himself and possibly invite her to meet him and his parents on-line. Hopefully with video chat.
Then at that time you both can explain to her how you met, how long you have known each other and that you have worked out away to meet in person. You also ask for her permission and blessing for this trip to meet each other at that time.
I'm not really asking you to hide something from mom at this time for you really do not have much to hide. In a sense you have the modern day equivalent of a pen pal for whom you have developed romantic feelings for. Not so strange an occurrence, it happened with pen pals no reason it should not happen with Internet pals either.
If mom finds out I would suggest you use the analogy I just used in explaining yourself to her. For at the moment this is what I see. As I said at the beginning you may not like what I've written but it is done with the best intentions in mind. Take a wait and see attitude for now. One or both of you are going to tire of sitting home while friends are out on dates. When this happens your on-line romance will or could fade.