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Should I ask what his problem is?
Long story short, I am friends with this guy at work, we are both 21, and we have always talked for like the past year. We joke around all the time with eachother. He used to always try to hang out with me but I had a boyfriend so I never did. We stopped working similar shifts so we ended up not talking much anymore. But then. My boyfriend and I broke up last month, so now I am single. Pretty much, me and this guy that I work with gradually started to talk more. One day after work, we hung out for like 3 hours and talked, and he ended up kissing me. The next day I asked for his number. We texted several times. Few days after that we hung out at his house, and, even though it was not planned, we ended up sleeping together. After that happened though, things have not been the same. At work, he doesn't talk to me too much anymore--we still joke around with eachother, but when I asked him if we were going to hang out again soon he joked around and said "how about february" (joking tone)..I told him I guess I kind of get the hint that he doesn't want to hang out, and he just laughed and ignored it. He hasn't texted or anything. I understand that its finals week at school (we both go to college), so Im not pushing it but I don't get why hes being all weird? He initiated the kiss and the sex...what should I do??
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His laughing is a way to cover up embarassment. He discovered that although he liked you as a friend, once he kissed and had sex, he did not find any sexual chemistry. He does not even know thats what its called, he has no way to explain it to you what he feels or rather...does not feel. So being at a loss of words to explain, he feels bad and jokes to cover up. If he'd had sex with you a couple more times and then dumped you, i'd say he was after you only to get the sex he wanted..like a player. But you say this re action was after the just one time together...is that right? Thats what I am basing my answer on.
When people are older, late 30's on, we've figured out when we are looking for a person to date, who to tell them if we don't feel any sexual chemistry. You might feel attracted to and love their personality...but when it comes to kissing, it could feel like kissing your brother...nothing...no spark. There needs to be sexual chemistry on both parts. Heres an article on the topic.
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Good luck!
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Not knowing either of you I can't say for sure though it sounds like he is a guy that once he gets what he is looking for it is time to move on. He is looking only for sex, once he gets what he wants if the women is looking for more from the relationship then that it is his cue to move on.
If you were to go up to him and say your not looking for any type of relationship other than a friend with benefits type. He would most likely be in your bed waiting for you before you got your blouse off.
To be blunt he very well could be a some what immature college guy, possibly a BMC, who feels he is a player when it comes to women. This is not the type of guy you are probably looking for so mark this guy up as a lesson learned and find a guy that will respect you for who you are and the women you are.
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Dear reason is clear he want sex with you only and finaly he got his task is complete so why he did talk you .but you are very fool you did not understand what he want with you .he do not love you but you love him or not i do not know because you not mention in her text .but both you and he purpose is do sex ,not love .so do not think about it ignore him and think about your cute and nice life partner who you will hope in future .you know in western culture sex is main every girl or boys fullfil their sexsual desire .ignore him and seek trusted guys so that you can make him life partner.best of luck for next
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