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This is a reply to your reply to my question
First thank you so much for your help
I am 15 and he just turned 16.
I don't know how how we are going to be together but we have agreed to make it work.
I'm very sure he's as vomited to this relationship as I.
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Let me start by saying I am old enough to be your grandfather. What I am about to write may or may not be to your liking but is said with the best intentions.
Christian lady or not your mother is right to remind you about the perils of meeting people on line, especially young women or women of any age. While I have no reason to disbelieve your friend is anything other than what he is telling you he is; you must always be on your guard when meeting people on-line.
You don't have to be a Christian lady just a parent to remind your children of these perils. I would tell my own daughter the same thing be she your age or 25 or even 35. There are way to many sickos in this world not to be on guard at all times.
That being said on to the more important item.
To try and have a committed relationship to someone nearly 4,500 miles away has a high failure rate. I'm not saying it can't be done. Before the age of the Internet people would meet as pen pals, usually GI's and girls back home. Some actually turned into romances and marriage.
To do this though you two eventually have to meet. Right now, it appears that neither of you have away of traveling to each other or to a mid point where you can meet. I would think that this would need to be worked out first before you start working on the problem of how to tell you mother. For if you cannot work out how to meet in person the need to tell your mom becomes mute.
Until that time comes I would suggest you just enjoy the time you spend with him on-line. Should he ever ask for pictures other than fully clothed ones of you;
First: do not ever send pictures of yourself you would not show your father.
Second: If ever he asks for that type of picture it is time to end your on-line romance as he is not what he is telling you he is. He may not actually be 4,500 miles away.
If you two keep your romance alive and find away to meet in person then this is what I would suggest be done to tell your mom. Ask him to call her and introduce himself to her. This should go along way in mom putting trust in him and the fact that you two met on-line. It is doubtful that the type of person she suspects you would meet on-line would bother with calling her to introduce himself and possibly invite her to meet him and his parents on-line. Hopefully with video chat.
Then at that time you both can explain to her how you met, how long you have known each other and that you have worked out away to meet in person. You also ask for her permission and blessing for this trip to meet each other at that time.
I'm not really asking you to hide something from mom at this time for you really do not have much to hide. In a sense you have the modern day equivalent of a pen pal for whom you have developed romantic feelings for. Not so strange an occurrence, it happened with pen pals no reason it should not happen with Internet pals either.
If mom finds out I would suggest you use the analogy I just used in explaining yourself to her. For at the moment this is what I see. As I said at the beginning you may not like what I've written but it is done with the best intentions in mind. Take a wait and see attitude for now. One or both of you are going to tire of sitting home while friends are out on dates. When this happens your on-line romance will or could fade.
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