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What would you think if I got engaged before my sister got married?
There's not much more to my question than what's in the title. My sister is getting married in June of 2014 and I'm thinking I might get married around that time as well. Like in August maybe. There's a reason why it may be important that I get married by that time, but I'm worried that people will think I just did it to steal my sister's thunder. Also, it's my dream to get married married in this church at the Grand Canyon, which I'm afraid people will think of as a real thunder stealing attempt. Also, I'd kind of like my own thunder. I don't get much at all. I got a tooth infection in February that was so bad I had to go to the emergency room and I liked it because it got me some attention. It's not a good enough reason to not get married when I plan to, but still. What do you think my sister and family will say?
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I think it's ok to get engaged before you sister gets married. But to get married around the same time can be a little weird.
What's the reason that you think it's important to get married around the same time your sister does? I mean if it's a valid reason, then it's fine but if you don't have a good reason then waiting shouldn't be a problem.
My brothers wife, when they got engaged, her sister got engaged a little after but she didn't get married around the time her sister got married.
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You don't understand, Zane. I was saying that I'd like to get my own thunder by being going through an engagement without my sister. If we were engaged at the same time, we'd have to share the spotlight. If I was engaged after she'd already gotten married, I'd have my own spotlight. It was another reason I was thinking I should wait, not the reason I thought I should go ahead and get married. Sorry, I guess I should have made that clear.
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From an outsiders point of view, This is a bit shallow.
From what you have wrote about liking the attention from a tooth infection, You imply your seeking the same attention by planning a wedding. If your sister is getting married in June 2014 I would think it'd be right to at least wait a bit.
Why would you want to plan so close to her wedding? Why are you so eagar to seek yourself attention by planning two months apart?
Maybe you have a more valid reason, either way if it's for seeking attention then you have the wrong idea here. You're time will come but to seek it so desperately gives wrong vibes.
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Other than saying; "There's a reason why it may be important that I get married by that time," and "I'd kind of like my own thunder. I don't get much at all." You don't give any reason for your question that I can base an answer on.
If you have a valid reason why you need to marry before August of 2014 then I would say; no you are not stealing any thunder. Some valid reasons for needing to be married by that time that I can think of would be a scheduled deployment of your fiancé or graduation and moving for a job offering. Things of this nature.
It would not be stealing her thunder if you were to marry before her say in December of this year or before March of 2014. This would give everyone time to give her the and you both the attention your weddings deserve.
One other possibility. Have you thought about you and your sister having a double wedding. You want to talk about thunder for the brides, this one is it. Many couples have double wedding most if not all I have ever seen were between friends. I'm sure sisters and brothers have had double weddings but frankly I haven't heard of any so I believe them to be very rare.
Then their is the fact of the cost involved for the wedding. Two couple one venue is half the price if each couple is paying for their own wedding. I know you have your heart set on a specific Chapel. Maybe your sister will not have a specific church that she must be married in and not mind being married in the church you feel strongly about.
I will tell you this. If you and your sister do agree to a double wedding your friends and family will not soon forget the event for it is as I said rare when two siblings marry at the same time and place.
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