I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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ok so my one friend is the kind of person who is always happy,totally random, is ALWAYS smiling, can make ANYONE laugh...just happy in general. well one day someone told me that they saw her walking down the hall ccrying. i was shocked cause i didnt think that i would ever see her cry. so when i saw her 2 periods later i asked if she was ok. she said she was and not to worry.well i couldnt help but worry cause she is the happiest person i know. so after that class was over...i went to wildcat.i was sitting therre trying to convince myself that everything was ok. i couldnt. i just got htis feeling that something was seriously wrong. then one of my other friends walked in and said that she was in the bathroom crying. im worried that first of all something is horribly wrong. and second of all that our friendship isnt as good as i thought it was. i am really worried about her. i dont want to ask her about it cause she obviously doesnt want me to know.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR HER/OUR FRIENDSHIP? (link)
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I don't think that this is case of that she doesn't want you to know, it could be that she doesn't want you to worry.
Don't be afraid to ask her because you're concerned for her and you want to know if everything isk ok. You've got the right.
Just say that you care for her and you don't want anything to happen. Real friends help each other out, but only if the other will allow them to and you're making the right moves to strengthening your friendship.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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how do i make a good first impression on my boyfriends family. hes met my parents. and my parents like him. so i want to make a good first impression on his. ideas? (link)
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Wear something nice because presentation of yourself can go a long way. Wear something like a dress.
Then be social with them, learn as much as you can about them whilst at the same time, have fun. Tell them about intresting aspects about your life and engaging.
One more, thing: relax. There is nothing worse than being nervous about what they think at first and saying something silly.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My mom really does seem to yell at me alot. Today, we had grocerys in the car, and they feel to the foot of the backseat, like they do, and she got out of the car, and started yelling at me for it, and she almost hit me with some plastic wrap box!!! She was like " GROW THE FUCK UP SHELBY!!!!!" " ITS NOT FUCKIN FUNNY!!!!!!" And then she started yelling at me so loud that when she got done, she couldnt even talk barley cause her voice was so cracked.I am seriously done with all of her shit. She thinks she's the greatest mom ever, but she needs to stop treating her kids like shit if she wants that title. One time she hit me, because I asked her to help me find a pair of my shoes, but that was kinda along time ago, so that doesent really matter anymore. I'm really loosing all my respect for her. I really dont know what to do about it. She is always getting mad at me for no reason what so ever. And when she dosent get mad at me, she takes it out on me. Once, when I was younger, she called me a dyke just because I didnt clean my room.And usually when she get's mad, she yells at me, and is mad at me for 10 minutes, and then just completly ignores me for the rest of the night, or sometimes even longer. Her and my dad are divorced, and she always got mad at me when it came close to me seeing my dad, just because I was seeing him. She would ignore me, and barley talk to me, and she kept saying that I was choosing my dad's " whore " over her, and that I wanted to live with the both of them. She got all of that, just because I liked to see my dad.I had to choose to stop seeing him and have my mom like me, or see him, and have my mom hate me. I havent seen my dad in weeks.... I really dont want to talk to her about it. So, what do youi think I should do about this problem? Thanks for all the help you can give me. (link)
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You could ask your dad if you can live with him, because then you won't need to face up to your mum and go through what you've been living with.
Your mum isn't the best mum, nor the worst. She is just having trouble dealing with her anger.
I know that this may sound weird but you can decide on this: could it be because she's angry and breaking up with your dad? I don't know how long they've been divorced but it could be that the thought of the two of them breaking up after they were in love is creating so much anger that seeing you reminds her of the love that she once had with your father and this may or may not be making her upset because you're a result of their love. This is NOT your fault.
After you've broken up with somebody, you've got two choices, either to move on with their life (like your father has done), or to continually be upset with themselves and find escape goats for their pain and sorrow (which in this case would be your mum).
Talk to her about this and get help from a school counselor because she needs to control her pain or get over it or not to take it out on you. You cannot live under this treatment anymore and you must help her get through this.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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i asked you about how to get popular, why can't i try to make friends it's worked so far. (link)
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I didn't mean that you shoudn't try to make friends, then by all means, if it's working then carry on doing it. I was just saying not to try too hard. Sorry about the confusion.
triquetra
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i have always been the person that all the people thinl is wierd and i've been trying really hard to get people to like me. i want all the guys to be swarmig around me just in case i drop a piece of paper in between classes. how do i get to be that girl. (link)
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Becoming that girl isn't as simple as dressing up nice etc. You've got to go out and hang out with friends whom you fit in with and who've got nice enough guy friends.
But guys won't swarm around you if you've dropped a peice of paper because it is such a trivial thing to fuss over. Plus, you've got to become popular and 'delicate' for that to happen and being popular sometimes isn't as good as many people think. You've got keep up the apperances constantly and you loose your own personal identity which you were born and forge one which doesn't fit you.
Don't try so hard to make friends because if you try hard, they will think that you're desperate and won't like you.
Remember that this won't happen quickly, it will take time and effort.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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16/f..i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago..and i got over him, he's a jerk and all he wanted was sex..
now he's trying to make me jealous by listing all the possible girls and "omg so many girls asked me out/hooked up with me" (link)
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If he just wanted you for sex, broke up with you and then begins to list all the girls asking him out just to get your attention, then that is really desperate!!!
Just ignore him, you hate his guts and really you have got every reason to ignore him.
triquetra
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My friend has times when he can be rather depressed. He won't want to do anything, but I'll try to get him to go do things with me to get his mind off of things. Sometimes it will help. Btw I'm 15/f and my friend is 17/m. We're good friends and I hate to see him hurting. He has a girlfriend who he doesn't see very much and she is kind of a b***h, and his father abusive. I thought my friend was getting better. He had seemed happy, but then he stopped telling me about things and started keeping in his emotions, but it didn't seem that bad. He had talked about suicide before and I talked to him about it and he said he wouldn't actually do it. I know he has a big fear of death. He hates seeing people in pain. So, what got we worrying was his sister. She said that he has been talking about killing himself a lot, and she tries to comfort him. He always asks her what she would do if he died. His home has been getting kinda bad. I told him he can always stay with me and get away and I try to help him, but he needs more. What can I do for him? Also, he knows he's depressed, and once told me, he would do anything to stop it; medication, or even suicide. I'm very worried about him. I love him very much and don't want to see him hurt. Please tell me what I should do, how I should talk to him. What are some things I can do for him myself right not without getting outside sources involved? Thanks in advance. (link)
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He needs to talk to a professional doctor about this if it gets beyond control. Usually, i wouldn't be saying this but since he's taking about taking his life more often, it's beyond his friends and family.
You're doing the right things though, keep on talking to him and getting him out of the rut of suicide because you know and he knows that he won't do it, but some people who are depressed sink even further and actually commit suicide.
You can help him out of this, but he needs the support of his family and friends, not just you and his sister. His father needs to realise what is happening and help because this is his sone which we're talking about and a son who wants to take his own life.
Good luck with the future all of you and feel free to e-mail me (triquetra_advice@hotmail.com) or drop another question into my inbox,
triquetra
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ok see around sept i tried datin my best friend who happened to be a guy. well we dated and like we were in love with each other so much. but i moved and we both broke up and moved on. but the whole time i was gone we both had feelings for each other still. well i move back and everytime i see him he always touches me and all that. but he got out of a bad relationship and i feel im just a rebound to him. i don't know but i took his virginity... and i don't know he says he wants to date me again but i don't think i could...what do you think i should do...i really dont think he likes me cause he likes to many people..hes always over everyone.. (link)
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Well, it's best to see how this plays out. Like you said, he's on the rebound and he is getting over the last realtionship.
Wait for a while (two weeks, give or take a week) and then ask him what his feelings are for you because you like him, but you need to see whether he likes you and then you can see whether to take this relationship further.
Remember, he needs to have his space for a while so give it to him.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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well, im going out with this girl. The thing is, we've never met. I got her number from Aol, and we used to go out on and off. Recently, we started again, and for the first time, since we've ever gone out, we talk everyday on the phone, and when not that, we text each other. So when we got bed i say "good-night, bye" but im wondering, when, should i say "love you?" because it seems like a wierd thing to say. we really like each other, but should i say "love you" aswell? if it helps, im 16/m (link)
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I'm a little confused about what you've said in your letter. You've gone out with her, even though you haven't met? Or is it just like internet dating? Help me out here.
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im 15 my brother i 13 and my sister is 12 and we fight constantly over really stupid stuff. on weekends we drive 2 1/2 hours to watch my cousin play hockey. my uncle sometimes comes down to watch his son play and when my uncle is here, he drives "the kids" me my bro and sis, to the game. when he drived, its very rare that we fight and argue, we just sit back and chill, my brother up front talking to my uncle and my sis and i talking. but now my uncle hasnt been out here and my mom and grandma have been takking us; omg we fight like crazy " turn your music down" "shut up your so annoying" "your fat" "your flat" "your short" the entire weekend. i honestly act way older than 15 and obviously because my brother is a boy, he acts younger than 13 more like 9 and aacts so dumb and it pisses me off and thats why i get mad and freak out in the ccar. then most times, my sister will join him, now shes 12 and can act 12 most of the time but other times she will be just as bad as my brother, ive learned to not flip out so much when its just my brother but when my sister joins in, i csnt take it and i flip out. we all have attitudes and my brother has a really bad temper. now my mom is fed up with the constant fighting and says we cant go to any more games because shes embarassed, which i totally understand. but i still wanna go. i try to explain why i flip out to her but she just gets mad saying i start it. the other day i tried to talk to my brother and sister and told them to not fight in the car and stuff but they were in their "little kid mood" and just made really stupid jokes. what can i do to get this to stop because i hate it (my sister and i can get along really well at times but my brother and i dont get along at all, normally i dont talk to him unless we ar fighting,) i know fighting is normal, ive gotten the speeches on this but i need this to stop so we can go to the next game but i just want it to stop at home too. im so sick of it (link)
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In every family which has got more than one child, there will always be an element of sibling rivalry. Some families have bad cases of sibling rivarly, some don't. Considering that you're only figthing over small things, then it isn't that bad.
There is a cause for these outbursts happening and (don't take it personnally) it is usually because the younger siblings copy the older one, so if the older one has outbursts, they will follow because they clasify them as a role model to follow. So your brother follows your example and your sister follows him. You see where I'm coming from. Now i know that you've stopped but in the next paragraph, there is something else which i'd like you to consider.
Now, there are two sisters and one brother. You've got your sister to talk to and play with her whilst your brother doesn't. He doesn't have any brothers to play and to see the two of you having fun together could be making him angry and resentful of this fact.
Now i'm not saying that it's anyone's fault here (because it's not), but if you went out to a nearby park and had fun with each other (you, your sister and your brother), i'm sure that you'll get a positive response from him. Send out positive signal, you tend to get a positive response. If you're playing a game of...I don't know...hide and seek or 'It' for example, include your brother as well because you begin to bond as a family and your fighting should reduce.
BUT, remember that it will only work if you put effort into it.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok so i need some advice. im 16 and a junior, and a straight A student. two weeks ago i did very bad on my test and my grade dropped to an 82%. now, i would be happy with that grade because honestly i dont think you should be measured by the grades you get and i know im a good student and all. my dad however is sort of insane when it comes to grades. if he sees any grade lower than an A, he goes crazy and basically grounds me. no car, no friends, no life. seriously im getting really sick of it!!!! i have an 82, which is a B and a B is actually above average, but NO, its not good enough for him. idk what to do? seriously if i get a B on my report card for him its the end of the word. so what should i do? how shud i talk to him? (trust me ive tried everything). Should i talk to my teacher to see if i can raise my grade!??? What if i cant? i need some serious help!!!! (link)
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It seems that he wants to have the best for you. What he's doing isn't to annoy you, it's because he wants the very best for you, but he just takes a little too seriously.
Now, bear in mind that i'm now shooting in the dark but could it be that he didn't do so well in school when he was your age? And seeing you getting 'low' grades is upsetting him because he may think that you're becoming him? Ask him why he reactes like this and see what he says.
Parents naturally want their child to do well in school, some even more because they didn't do well themselves. This is what could be happening here.
You should also tell him that you're still doing well in your studies, it isn't as if you're getting D's (God forbid!) and so he should still be happy for you even if you do drop a few points in your tests. You're still working as hard but sometimes you need to have a break once in a while because it isn't possible to continue on working endlessly because you'll just crack (trust me, that is what happened to me a while back).
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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There's this guy who I really like, and we've been flirting a lot over the last month or so, and everyone thinks that he's really into me.
Last night I had a dream that we were together (as in dating) and we were both really happy. Like we'd spend the whole day together and we were always happy. (and the dream was like in our school, so it wasn't a random place and there were my friends in the dream too)
So yeah, I'm wondering whether that could possibly mean something?
Also today, when we were hanging out between a double maths lesson (5 min break, he's in a different class) we were messing around and I was kinda pissed off cause I thought I failed my test and he was like hugging me and trying to make me laugh. Also when we said bye to each other he hugged me really tight, and we don't hug much :\
So yeah, any suggestions of what my dream could've meant?
THankooo! (link)
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Here is an extract from a site which interprets dreams. This is what is said about 'dates':
'Date
To dream that you are on a date, suggests that you are getting to know some hidden aspects of yourself. You are acknowledging your hidden talents. Alternatively, it may reflect your anxieties about dating or finding acceptance.
Date
To dream that you are on a date, represents you need for self-discovery and self-awareness. The dream may also be a "rehearsal" for an actual date you have. It serves to overcome anxieties you may have.'
I think that it is quite obvious to both you and I that this guy likes you and you like him so ask him out already and see what happens then!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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does anyone have quotes of like broken girls? Like broken hearts, lost love...and it has to be from music. Thank you sooo much! (link)
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Someday - Mariah Carey ("...the one you gave away will be the only one you're thinking of...").
One Sweet Day - Mariah Carey ("...and I know you're shining down on me from heaven. Like so many friends we lost along the way...").
Love Takes Time - Mariah Carey ("...Love takes time, to heal when you hurt so much. Couldn't see that I, I was so blind, to let you go. I can't escape the pain, inside because love takes time...")
Without You - Mariah Carey ("...Can't live, if living is without you. I can't give, can't give anymore...")
I Will Always Love You - Whiteny Houston ("...And I, will always love you...")
I hope these helped,
triquetra
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Me and this guy Tim have been hooking up basically every weekend for about a month. I was really starting to fall for him when I made a huge mistake - I hooked up with another guy while I was drunk. Me and Tim were hookup buddies and contrary to what I thought, he wasn't getting with anyone else. My friend told Tim and now he won't talk to me and he wants nothing to do with me. I wasn't sure or not if he liked me before this happened, but now I'm sure. I feel so bad about it. I was going to tell him too but my friend didn't give me the chance. I really liked this guy and what I did was completly stupid. I had sex with Tim about 3 days before this happened and I was his first (he wasn't mine though) and that makes me feel that much worse. I know he feels really played right now and wants nothing to do with me. I told him I was sorry many times and that hanging out with him is the most amazing thing ever. I told his friend I would even stop drinking if he just forgave me. I know he needs space and everything but I'm just not sure what I should do. I really want to wait and see if he will accept my apology but I don't know when that will be. He could never forgive me. So do I a) wait for him, dont hookup with anyone or b)give up because I screwed up too bad? I'm 16/f and so is he btw. (link)
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Considering the fact that you were his first girlfriend and he finds out that you accidentally hooked up with somebody else is likely to hurt him A LOT. I wouldn't go any further because you already feel bad about it.
So, I would talk to him. Go and see him personally and tell him what you need to tell him, not to pass it down through somebody else. Remind him of what the two of you were and how you feel towards him. The thing which happened with that guy was an accident and it will never will happen again. He will not want to listen at first, but if he really cares about this realtionship, then he will.
It is a good move that you'll stop drinking because it shows that you're putting him before you and that tells me that you're very serious about this relationship and he needs to know that.
Give him his space and wait until you feel ready to talk to him face - face.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I have this friend A and we have been friends for 2 years and it was her birthday and i asked her if she was having a birthday party and she said no soi said ok. Then the next day i see her handing out invatations to all my friends except for me. Then when I asked ehr about it she said she was handing them out for her friend. Everyday in science she was talking about her "friends" party party and how it was a mall party. And before her birthday she was talking about having a mall party. I never bought it. Turns out she did have a birthday party at the malland didn't invitebut invited our other friend who was only friends with us for 1 month. SHe knows that I know about her party and is treating me different tring to get me to forgive her. What should I do? Is she still my friend? Why didn't she invit me to her party? I'm really lost. (link)
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If she lied to you about her birthday party and knew that you knew about it but still didn't invite you, then that is not a friend. Not by miles.
Friends should do the same things together, but to exclude somebody from their party and they know about it is not only rude, but hurtful to the excluded one. And then she tries to get you to forgive her??? That is not friendship honey, it's bullying.
If I had a friend like that, i wouldn't hang around them any longer and find some new friends.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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There is nothing stopping you from still being friends with J. It was A who closed the door on you, not J.
True, A will have some speculations about this, and will probably tell her cousin not to see you. But you did nothing wrong, A was the one who shut you out of her life. Remeber that. A shouldn't stop you and J from being friends, she was the one who ignored you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i lost my mom a few years ago. & my dad isnt goin to last long. i have a 6 year old sister & im 16 years old. what will happen to me & my sister if my dad dies? where will we go? will we go into foster home? will we ge split up?
please only answer if you know. (link)
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I'm so sorry.
I would have to agree. It is up to your dad as to where you're going.
I don't think that you'll split you up at all. And i certatinly don't think that you'll go to a foster home because it is likely that you might go to a close family member.
The very best of luck to you, your sister and your father for the future,
triquetra
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alright theres this girl who ive been friends with since last year. she was new last yr and i felt bad for her so i talked to her. and now she has new friends & she's fit in i guess.
well the problem is..SHES ANNOYING! (duh haha)
~you can skip this part if you want~
+ she can be kind of obnoxious, & sometimes i feel like she tries too hard to be confident, but idk if she's trying or if thats just the way she is. either way its irritating.
+ also if you get into a convo with her she ONLY TALKS ABOUT HERSELF like omg. i try to hint to her that i want to talk about other things but whenever i do she just stops the conversation. also she isnt a very good listener.
+ also shes kinda childish, like sometimes she just squeals "yay~!" when something good has happened in this annoying high pitched voice and i just feel embarassed for her. its like she tries too hard to be cute and seem like "innocent ol' me" when really she's kind of a mean person inside. she talks behind people's backs all the time.
+ also, she whines a lot. and shes so paranoid that everything someone does was somehow meant to be a PERSONAL ATTACK on her and she overthinks like everything and she takes more than she gives.
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and sometimes when i confront her about all the things she does, she just kinda like laughs it off like '^_^ me?' and then - and this is the MOST annoying part - starts accusing ME of things that i do. for example, she calls me a liar ALL THE TIME! wtf? i want to be like, ok JUST BECAUSE YOU DIDNT HEAR ME SAY SOMETHING OR YOU FORGOT ABOUT SOMETHING I SAID DOESNT MEAN I NEVER SAID IT AND I'M A LIAR FOR SAYING THAT I DID SAY IT. but i dont say that because when i get mad i raise my voice and cause a scene and i start saying things that i dont mean. (lol that rhymed)
now im not sure if i want to be her friend or not! the bad parts about deciding to not be her friend is shes the only person i talk to in my english class and i sit with her @ lunch and i dont have anyone else i ~want~ to sit with, but i will if i have to. i can handle a little annoying things from all of my friends, but this combination of ALL the annoying things she does just makes me not want to be her friend anymore and not even to bother trying.
its gotten so bad that every word out of her mouth makes her seem more annoying than before.
how can i fix this? :( what should i do?
(please dont tell me to tell her all of this, because im not good at that kind of thing. in my family we arent really encouraged to "speak how we really feel then have a mushy-gushy make up")
thanks for reading. (link)
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If you tell somebody else who's annoying you what you feel, you don't tend to have a 'mushy-gushy make up'. You tend to talk about it and see how you can work around the issues you've got.
Telling somebody that they're annoying is tough, especially if they don't take it seriously. I'm not saying to talk to her, but for you to leave this as an option.
If you don't feel up to it, then you have to find another group of friends whom you like because otherwise (as you know), you'll have nobody else to talk to.
I find it surprising that you noticed a rhyme in your question, right after you say that you're angry at her. That tells me that you don't really know how you feel about the situation but i could be wrong (please tell me if that is the case).
As for the annoyance, imagine living with somebody who is immature in mind, mad as anything and creates imaginary cities and is 15 years old. Plus, who says random words and never takes any insults thrown at him seriously (or anything for that matter). Trust me, i've had to live with this person in a dorm for two terms at school.
Very annoying yes but some people are just like that and i've had to accept that fact. This is the same with your friend, she may be proud and sweet on the outside, but inside, there is a mature girl waiting to come out.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ok So... I have this friend. Her and I have been friends for like 5-6 years. The thing is...We were like a group of 6, then we narrowed down to a group of 3 for various reasons. I always knew I wasn't her best friend... but I thought that I was at least her next best friend. You know it was always her me and the other girl hanging and talking and helping each other etc. I mean we have been through thick and thin you know what I mean. So her friendship with her best friend...we'll call her L, started getting rough...it was getting rough for like, well since we all started being friends that shit has been rough. Anyway, it went up and down and the progressively got worse. So her and L got into it, and then she stoped talking to me. Slowly at first and then for good for like 2 months. Then she called me out of the blue one day and was acting like nothing happened and she had been calling me the whole time. So I was like what happened? SO I told her how I felt and we decided that some bogus shit like that wasn't going to happen again. So i thought. Now Her and L get into it like a year later, and she stops talking to me AGAIN. I hadn't heard from her since Christmas until about 3 days ago. Now let me not forget to mention. Between Christmas and 3 days ago she did send me 3 text messages. She sent me a happy new year, a happy birthday and one other message...I think merry christmas. That was it. Nothing extra. Even when I tried to get more out of her. So she hit's me up on myspace Like 2 days ago after she called me and says, "WTF, (what the fu**) You deleted me from your top friends and you aren't answering my calls."
Now mind you... she hasn't been blowing up my phone. She called me ONE DAY like 5 times in a row...When she left a message she didn't say oh I'm sorry I havent called you...she just said "call me back, bye." Since Christmas I had been trying to call her and get in contact with her for like 2-4 weeks before I gave up (via: Mysapce,Phone Calls, Text Messages). I even contacted her MOM dude!...So my thing is like...In my heart, the friendship is really important to me and I really want to work it out. She and that group were the best friends that I ever had. We had so many experiences together and I really love them. At the same time though, I deserve better treatment. I am a good friend, I am always there when I can be and I am loyal and do good by people, feel me? So, if she is willing to work stuff out, do you all think I should give it a 3rd try? and let this be the last? or do you think I should just be like fuck it and know that she is a fair weather friend and just leave it at that and don't even try to work it out.
Thank you for your patience but I really had to give the background for it to make sense.
Peace (link)
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It is good to see that you want to give her another chance. So give it to her and i would agree that this should be the last chance you give her.
But try and find out why she doesn't call you for a long period of time. You know that something is going on, and you want to know. So ask her directly and ensure you get the answer because you really want this friendship to keep on going and it can't when the other person isn't in contact with you.
You're doing the right thing, but she needs to respond otherwise go and find some other people who'll respect you as the person you are.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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20f
ok so i am not sure how to break this to my parents that i am moving out into my boyfriends families house. I am moving anyway in june into my own apartment while i go to cosmetology school. Yet to live with my parents is like to not go to the psych ward its crazy. I Just know that in my heart that this is the right thing to do i have been thinking about it for a couple of months now and i believe this is my time. The problem is what is great for me isnt for my parents they are all about waiting to get married. my older sister moved in with her boyfriend and they got a divorce two years later because of his gambling problem and they see the same happening to me yet i am not planning on living at his parents house for five years like her. I am only going to be there for a couple of months. I have already told my mom this its my dad who i am scared to tell. My boyfriend gets along with my dad but he thinks that if this is whats going to make me happy then he supports me. I guess my question is how to sit both my parents down and what i should say and what i shouldnt say when i move. Sorry that this is so long (link)
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Just tell them something like "I need to talk to you both about something which you may r may not like". Something along those lines. Naturally, they would listern at that point because hey would know that there is something troubiling you.
Then once they've sat down, tell them what you want to tell them.
They need to know that it is now time for you to spread your wings and find out what's in the world and the only way to do that would be to move out of the house. Everybody needs to move out of their homes sooner or later. Remember, your parents went through the same thing when they were younger (moving out and all).
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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13/f
My friend who I was extremely close, we are/were best friends. She says she is my best friend. She doesn't show it. I see her about twice a week at church. Except I went over to her house every weekend. She has gotten bossy and just hits me sometimes when she gets mad. I have talked to her about it and she said she was sorry and she didn't realize what she was doing. She is an only child and spoiled too. She is acting like that again and I have stopped hanging around with her now. We haven't hung out in awhile and I am just confused. So any help would be appreciated thanks! (link)
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You have to remember that she's an only child and she's growing up. As she develops into an adult, she will become more and more demanding and will become more and more selfish and in doing so, will expect everybody to what she wants.
I know somebody who is an only child and she is a spoiled brat who wants everybody to do what she wants. I'm not saying that this is what will happen to your friend, but what could happen.
Talk to her about this because you don't this to spoil the friendship. She needs to understand that her selfishness is ruing a very good friendship which could continue on.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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