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i really screwed up.
Me and this guy Tim have been hooking up basically every weekend for about a month. I was really starting to fall for him when I made a huge mistake - I hooked up with another guy while I was drunk. Me and Tim were hookup buddies and contrary to what I thought, he wasn't getting with anyone else. My friend told Tim and now he won't talk to me and he wants nothing to do with me. I wasn't sure or not if he liked me before this happened, but now I'm sure. I feel so bad about it. I was going to tell him too but my friend didn't give me the chance. I really liked this guy and what I did was completly stupid. I had sex with Tim about 3 days before this happened and I was his first (he wasn't mine though) and that makes me feel that much worse. I know he feels really played right now and wants nothing to do with me. I told him I was sorry many times and that hanging out with him is the most amazing thing ever. I told his friend I would even stop drinking if he just forgave me. I know he needs space and everything but I'm just not sure what I should do. I really want to wait and see if he will accept my apology but I don't know when that will be. He could never forgive me. So do I a) wait for him, dont hookup with anyone or b)give up because I screwed up too bad? I'm 16/f and so is he btw.
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Considering the fact that you were his first girlfriend and he finds out that you accidentally hooked up with somebody else is likely to hurt him A LOT. I wouldn't go any further because you already feel bad about it.
So, I would talk to him. Go and see him personally and tell him what you need to tell him, not to pass it down through somebody else. Remind him of what the two of you were and how you feel towards him. The thing which happened with that guy was an accident and it will never will happen again. He will not want to listen at first, but if he really cares about this realtionship, then he will.
It is a good move that you'll stop drinking because it shows that you're putting him before you and that tells me that you're very serious about this relationship and he needs to know that.
Give him his space and wait until you feel ready to talk to him face - face.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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you two did not have a relationship. You didn't cheat on him but I understand why he would be upset. He does need to realize that you two did not have a title and that you weren't thinking. you didn't think he cared that much because it felt like just a hook up thing. tell him if you like him and say if he forgives you maybe you two can have a relationship and you will never do it again. you can't just give up who you are for someone who might like you. that is usually why friends with benefits does not work because one usually falls for the other.
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OK here is what you should do both a and b
WAIT before you go some advice listen to me:
don't hook up with anyone else because that will definetly make things worse. but if he doesn't forgive you that just means he doesn't care that much about you as you do and can't trust you even though you were drunk.
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