|
MOVING
20f
ok so i am not sure how to break this to my parents that i am moving out into my boyfriends families house. I am moving anyway in june into my own apartment while i go to cosmetology school. Yet to live with my parents is like to not go to the psych ward its crazy. I Just know that in my heart that this is the right thing to do i have been thinking about it for a couple of months now and i believe this is my time. The problem is what is great for me isnt for my parents they are all about waiting to get married. my older sister moved in with her boyfriend and they got a divorce two years later because of his gambling problem and they see the same happening to me yet i am not planning on living at his parents house for five years like her. I am only going to be there for a couple of months. I have already told my mom this its my dad who i am scared to tell. My boyfriend gets along with my dad but he thinks that if this is whats going to make me happy then he supports me. I guess my question is how to sit both my parents down and what i should say and what i shouldnt say when i move. Sorry that this is so long
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
I was in a similar situation when I was 19. I moved into my boyfriends "saner" house. Well, it was saner in one sense but worse in others. I moved out and had to be on my own, I had many starving times. I too started cosmetology school and had to drop out. Funny thing, when you live in a bad situation, you will only meet people who will provide you with a bad situation. Try moving out on your own, try being an independent person first. You might be with this guy because he seems like the only raft in a storm. Then when you feel you have reached safer ground, you will see all his flaws, and trust me, you will see all his flaws. Please listen to the harder advice, at this moment in your life, you will make all the worst choices if you use your own judgement.
]
Offer to take the two of them out to dinner. It will be in a public place, so no huge fight breakouts will occur. And just calmly tell them what you're doing and why. If it would make you feel better, write down everything you want to say to your parents. Read it a few times before the dinner, and then give it to them straight.
Since you've already talked to your mom, maybe she can help the situation some.
Your dad may or may not be pissed, but assure him that you're not gone forever; you're just out of the house. Promise to visit and call. It will make them feel better.
Either way, you're an adult and this is your decision. Your parents will understand eventually.
]
Just tell them something like "I need to talk to you both about something which you may r may not like". Something along those lines. Naturally, they would listern at that point because hey would know that there is something troubiling you.
Then once they've sat down, tell them what you want to tell them.
They need to know that it is now time for you to spread your wings and find out what's in the world and the only way to do that would be to move out of the house. Everybody needs to move out of their homes sooner or later. Remember, your parents went through the same thing when they were younger (moving out and all).
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
]
More Questions: |