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im worried about her
ok so my one friend is the kind of person who is always happy,totally random, is ALWAYS smiling, can make ANYONE laugh...just happy in general. well one day someone told me that they saw her walking down the hall ccrying. i was shocked cause i didnt think that i would ever see her cry. so when i saw her 2 periods later i asked if she was ok. she said she was and not to worry.well i couldnt help but worry cause she is the happiest person i know. so after that class was over...i went to wildcat.i was sitting therre trying to convince myself that everything was ok. i couldnt. i just got htis feeling that something was seriously wrong. then one of my other friends walked in and said that she was in the bathroom crying. im worried that first of all something is horribly wrong. and second of all that our friendship isnt as good as i thought it was. i am really worried about her. i dont want to ask her about it cause she obviously doesnt want me to know.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR HER/OUR FRIENDSHIP?
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Well i dont think your friendship is in danger as you seem like a really caring person and people dont drop friends like you just for being concerned. I dont think she is not telling you because she doesnt want you to know, she might just be going through something and trying to handle it on her own, i am like that i find it hard to open up to even my closest friends, just tell her you are really concerned and that you are there when she needs you to give her support. I am sure she will let you be there for her in her own time. Hope i helped Love Nikki-Marie xxx
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I don't think that this is case of that she doesn't want you to know, it could be that she doesn't want you to worry.
Don't be afraid to ask her because you're concerned for her and you want to know if everything isk ok. You've got the right.
Just say that you care for her and you don't want anything to happen. Real friends help each other out, but only if the other will allow them to and you're making the right moves to strengthening your friendship.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I had a friend in the same exact situation. What you can do is tell her that you are there for her every step of the way and saying it is ok if you don't tell me but I hope that you trust me enough to tell me. She will say ok and you leave her alone for awile. She will have time to think about it and come to you with the problem. If you constantly ask her she will never tell you. This is a technique that lets a person know you are there but you also give them space to sort things out. If they can't fix the problem themselves then they will come to you. Its not about not trusting you but it is something she feels she can face by herself. Knowing you are there for her will make it easier to figuare out. She will come to you just give it time and patience.
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You're really sweet for being concerned about your friend. But try not to let it bother you so much. Just because she hasn't told you what was wrong, doesn't mean she doesn't feel close to you or doesn't trust you. Some people just don't like to talk about their problems.
And honestly, it's not always necessary to talk about our problems. It might sound strange to say that, because we're always told, "Don't keep things inside; talk about it!" That can be true sometimes, but not every time. Sometimes making a big deal about something can actually make it worse. Sometimes you can just have a good cry, work things over in your mind, and move on, without worrying your friends or blowing things out of proportion.
Sure, your friend could have a serious, ongoing problem; and if she does, I'm sure she'll let you know if she feels the need to talk about it. But it could've been something minor that she's already handled and forgotten about. Which reminds me of something that happened to me, which I'll tell you about because it's so silly!
I NEVER cried at school, except this once. At lunch one day, my friend Katie told me she was sorry that she couldn't invite me to her birthday party, 'cause she could only invite 5 people. She and I weren't really close, so it didn't hurt my feelings.. I actually thought how sweet it was for her to explain that. Well, then I overheard someone at another table say something mean about my boyfriend... and for some reason it really got to me and I kinda teared up. And then I noticed that Katie was looking at me, and I thought "Oh no! She thinks I'm crying because of her b-day party! And she probably feels really bad 'cause she thinks she hurt my feelings!" And THAT made me REALLY sad, that I was making her feel bad, so I started bawling like an idiot! And everyone was like "Omg what's wrong?" but I felt so stupid I couldn't tell anyone! And I never did. Pshh... it was so silly!
But anyway... you just never know why someome might be crying. But if it's really important, I'm sure your friend will let you know.
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