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love you?
well, im going out with this girl. The thing is, we've never met. I got her number from Aol, and we used to go out on and off. Recently, we started again, and for the first time, since we've ever gone out, we talk everyday on the phone, and when not that, we text each other. So when we got bed i say "good-night, bye" but im wondering, when, should i say "love you?" because it seems like a wierd thing to say. we really like each other, but should i say "love you" aswell? if it helps, im 16/m
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only say you love herr if you are really sure that you do love herr. and maybe you should meet her in person first before you make your decision.
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There is no 'should' about love hun. There is no time in a relationship where love becomes something you are supposed to say.
If you feel it, say it. If you don't, don't. If it still seems 'wierd' to you, you probably aren't sure enough to say it yet. (Honestly, I'm not sure I could ever be sure enough about being in love with a person I hadn't even met yet.)
But if you do say it, at least say it on the phone the first time, not online ;) Go for as much personal contection as you can get.
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I'm a little confused about what you've said in your letter. You've gone out with her, even though you haven't met? Or is it just like internet dating? Help me out here.
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You should only say, "I love you," if you mean it. If you really feel as though you love her, you should tell her. But I'm getting a different vibe about how you feel, and forgive me if I'm wrong, but I think you may feel a little pressured now into this relationship to say, "I love you," even though you're not quite sure that you're in love with her, at the moment.
If I'm right, please take my advice and do not say those words. It will only lead her on, and make your relationship more complicated if you say it, without meaning it.
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I mean if you honestly feel like you love her, and I don't mean like her- I mean ABSOLUTELY love her- then you might say it- but I would say that if you haven't even seen each other in person or talked in person- you shouldn't really say you love her. It might freak her out? I'm not sure. This is a judgment call you'll have to make for yourself ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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