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i thought he liked me. Because we never talked at all
Okay wel sorry if this will be long but i have a lot to say and i need an ear to talk to...
I used to like this boy a long time ago (last year) and i told him how i felt and it pretty much just scared him off. But i got over that and now i like this one guy, cj, but he is different than drew (he was the guy i liked first) i dont know why but i just care more about him and i want him to want me like i want him. You know what im saying. But im not obsessed or anything like that. He had a girlfriend and i waited.
At one point i thought he liked me. Because we never talked at all, and he would look at me, until i caught him, then he would look away. And he threw a paper ball at me. Then like 5 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend and all, but it came up casually in a conversation. And about a week ago, he was seriously flirting with me, and this past tuesday i found out that him and his girlfriend broke up. Now we still talk and everything, but i am having self doubt.
I feel like i am getting my hopes up and i dont have a chance. He is a senior and i am a freshman but im 15 and hes 18...only three years, and we are a small community and the senior boys arent really like players, well most of them. But he is really nice and sweet. I dont want to ruin it by coming on too strong. But he was saying that he likes to talk about his feelings and he is sort of a romantic and likes a girl thats fun and has a sense of humor, (which is pretty much me in a nutshell) and he said i can be dumb funny and cute at the same time... he was teasing me and touching me with his arm constantly. I just mesh with him...
But:
1) Do you think i have a chance at all?
2) do you think he was just being nice while he was flirting or is there something there?
3) Do you think i am getting ahead of myself?
4) How should i handle this? Normally i would tell a guy i liked him as long as he dont have a girlfriend and he dont but he is the only one i have ever had trouble dealing with this. Like im not nervous or anything..you know what i mean?
Sorry its so long but i need guidance.. :)
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ask a friend to tell him you like him..
Because i do that all the time but just quit talking to him for a couple of days and maybe he will worry and start to ask you and worry and maybe he will talk to you more after your friend tells him..
And then after thats happens after a couple of days ask you friend to see if he likes you..
And then if he does just then youll see what happens next.
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I really think you're getting way ahead of yourself.
You clearly state that you two have never talked at all. This alone answers all of your questions.
The guy doesn't know you. You don't know the guy unless you're listening in on his conversations with other people. Maybe he thinks you're cute but that's it (which explains him looking in your direction). Can you build a strong relationship on the basis that your partner is cute?
If you're wanting this guy to be interested in you, then you need talk to him. I'm positive you'd like to know something more about the boy before jumping into a relationship with him, right? Just strike up conversation one day and go with it--don't think about him possibly, maybe, kind-of liking you.
Anyway, he may just have a flirty personality from what you say. Do you really want to date a guy that may be flirting with other girls behind your back? That is, if he was flirting with you.
However, throwing paper at you is not flirting--that's adolescence.
He knows absolutely nothing about you. You haven't had much conversation with him. He has no idea if he really likes you or not.
He says you can be "dumb, funny, and cute..." which tells me he thinks you're not all that intelligent, you make decent jokes or a fool of yourself often, and you're not ugly. However "cute" may have been him referring to you as innocent from your lack of common knowledge.
Again, if you don't have conversations with the guy, you don't really have any idea about what he's thinking.
Here is the wiki site on how to flirt successfully with a guy:
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I wish you luck on figuring your love-life out.
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1.) You absolutely have a chance with him. He seems to really like you or have an interest.
2.) It's always hard to tell with guys. Most guys can put on an act and sometimes we're not sure what they're really thinking. So I might be wrong on this but I think he's trying to start "casual" flirting. Maybe he's trying to see if you're "worth" starting something. Meaning that he's going to compliment and flirt with you and see how you react. If he likes you he'll probably ask you out on a date. I'm sure he just wants to get to know you and what your intentions are. I wouldn't make assumptions just yet. He just broke up with his girlfriend so he might still want a break from a relationship right now. So continue to talk and flirt and things should fall into place eventually.
3. Maybe. As I said he recently broke up with his girlfriend. He might need some time. But you have a fair chance at this. Just keep going with it and don't rush yourself to thinking anything serious.
4. Flirting is a good way to let him know you're interested without telling him. You should do to him what he's doing to you. Flirt with him and look at his reactions. If you TRULY think he like you then let him know. But as of now it seems like you're not completely sure. You don't want to come off too quickly like you said. Pay close attentions to his body language and his words because those are usually key for telling whether he likes you more than just a friend. You said that most seniors are players and it might be true that he is too. But get to know him first before you make that decision. Open up to him about yourself and invite him to get to know you. If you want to stand out say something shoking that most girls wouldn't. For instance if there is something about you that is different from everyone else let him know that. He'll probably be really intrigued and he'll keep you on his mind.
Okay, so ...over all... don't rush into things, continue to flirt and talk, pay attention to his reactions and body language, keep confident, and stand out. :) Good luck sweetie!
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1. I would say most deffinately. This has to be the cutest story. While I was reading I was all "aww this is too cute" lol. But anyway..
2. I don't think he was just being nice. Most people wouldn't go this far if they didn't care. I mean, its possible he would like to be friends but I doubt it. Plus he's a senior. Now I don't hardly any senior who would bother with a freshman unless they were really interested. And if he is ineterested I don't think its just a simple crush.
3. Its possible that you WILL be. But at this stage I would say that your confused and struck. Continue with your feelings but don't go too overboard and worked up to the point of obsession if that's what you're asking.
4. The big question. I say play it out. It all depends on how long the relationship (or friendship) is. If its gone on long enough (and only you can decide but don't just like give a week you know) go for it. Now when I say "go for it" I don't mean through yourself at him and tell him that your in love (or in like) with him. That could potentially phase him. Just invite him somewhere, and if you can't do that then try going somewhere special.private before, during, or after school. Tell him how you feel. The same story you told me (but not ALL of it obviously). Maybe even tell him about the past boys nonchalantely and what ended up happening and tell him how he's different. How you really feel but maybe you shouldn't get too serious. And don't send this in a note, text, or email. This needs to be in a situation where you can both talk.
I sincerely hope I helped.
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Honestly, I truly believe you have a chance. He's telling you about what he looks for in a girl, and he said that you are funny and cute. That's a very good sign.
I think it's a really really really really (you get my point) good sign that you are having trouble knowing what to do with him. That means that you feel differently about him than with other guys and you don't want to mess it up because you want to make this happen. =] That's a GREAT thing, embrace it. Love it. I totally understand where you are coming from.
My advice to you would be just continue flirting, and kick it up a notch to see if he can take a hint that you like him. Don't be too over-the-top; nobody likes a ditzy girl, trust me lol. Just keep the friendship you seem to have with him going and take things slow. You have time, so what's the point in rushing and messing up? I just wouldn't go right out and tell him just yet. Be totally sure of your feelings first, and you're right: you don't want to get TOO ahead of yourself.
Once again, I really do think that there is something there between you two. Just be yourself (I know, cliche right?) and go with the flow. The last thing you want is to beat yourself up over this.
Good luck sweetie =] You'll be great.
By the way:
You do have a good point with him going off to college soon and only having a few more weeks left in class. If you two are friends (which it seems like you are) then I believe it would be a very good idea to casually give him your phone number. I'd give him yours and say something like "Here, so you can text me sometime..." Be all flirty when you give it to him, you know? Then, don't ask for his. See if he offers it to you, and if he doesn't, he might text you later and then you'll have it. Don't be needy; let him come to you.
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