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she's my friend, but shes annoying as ****
15/sophomore
alright theres this girl who ive been friends with since last year. she was new last yr and i felt bad for her so i talked to her. and now she has new friends & she's fit in i guess.
well the problem is..SHES ANNOYING! (duh haha)
~you can skip this part if you want~
+ she can be kind of obnoxious, & sometimes i feel like she tries too hard to be confident, but idk if she's trying or if thats just the way she is. either way its irritating.
+ also if you get into a convo with her she ONLY TALKS ABOUT HERSELF like omg. i try to hint to her that i want to talk about other things but whenever i do she just stops the conversation. also she isnt a very good listener.
+ also shes kinda childish, like sometimes she just squeals "yay~!" when something good has happened in this annoying high pitched voice and i just feel embarassed for her. its like she tries too hard to be cute and seem like "innocent ol' me" when really she's kind of a mean person inside. she talks behind people's backs all the time.
+ also, she whines a lot. and shes so paranoid that everything someone does was somehow meant to be a PERSONAL ATTACK on her and she overthinks like everything and she takes more than she gives.
~end of you can skip this if you want~
and sometimes when i confront her about all the things she does, she just kinda like laughs it off like '^_^ me?' and then - and this is the MOST annoying part - starts accusing ME of things that i do. for example, she calls me a liar ALL THE TIME! wtf? i want to be like, ok JUST BECAUSE YOU DIDNT HEAR ME SAY SOMETHING OR YOU FORGOT ABOUT SOMETHING I SAID DOESNT MEAN I NEVER SAID IT AND I'M A LIAR FOR SAYING THAT I DID SAY IT. but i dont say that because when i get mad i raise my voice and cause a scene and i start saying things that i dont mean. (lol that rhymed)
now im not sure if i want to be her friend or not! the bad parts about deciding to not be her friend is shes the only person i talk to in my english class and i sit with her @ lunch and i dont have anyone else i ~want~ to sit with, but i will if i have to. i can handle a little annoying things from all of my friends, but this combination of ALL the annoying things she does just makes me not want to be her friend anymore and not even to bother trying.
its gotten so bad that every word out of her mouth makes her seem more annoying than before.
how can i fix this? :( what should i do?
(please dont tell me to tell her all of this, because im not good at that kind of thing. in my family we arent really encouraged to "speak how we really feel then have a mushy-gushy make up")
thanks for reading.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
If you tell somebody else who's annoying you what you feel, you don't tend to have a 'mushy-gushy make up'. You tend to talk about it and see how you can work around the issues you've got.
Telling somebody that they're annoying is tough, especially if they don't take it seriously. I'm not saying to talk to her, but for you to leave this as an option.
If you don't feel up to it, then you have to find another group of friends whom you like because otherwise (as you know), you'll have nobody else to talk to.
I find it surprising that you noticed a rhyme in your question, right after you say that you're angry at her. That tells me that you don't really know how you feel about the situation but i could be wrong (please tell me if that is the case).
As for the annoyance, imagine living with somebody who is immature in mind, mad as anything and creates imaginary cities and is 15 years old. Plus, who says random words and never takes any insults thrown at him seriously (or anything for that matter). Trust me, i've had to live with this person in a dorm for two terms at school.
Very annoying yes but some people are just like that and i've had to accept that fact. This is the same with your friend, she may be proud and sweet on the outside, but inside, there is a mature girl waiting to come out.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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