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Friend actin' bogous...but i still love her
Ok So... I have this friend. Her and I have been friends for like 5-6 years. The thing is...We were like a group of 6, then we narrowed down to a group of 3 for various reasons. I always knew I wasn't her best friend... but I thought that I was at least her next best friend. You know it was always her me and the other girl hanging and talking and helping each other etc. I mean we have been through thick and thin you know what I mean. So her friendship with her best friend...we'll call her L, started getting rough...it was getting rough for like, well since we all started being friends that shit has been rough. Anyway, it went up and down and the progressively got worse. So her and L got into it, and then she stoped talking to me. Slowly at first and then for good for like 2 months. Then she called me out of the blue one day and was acting like nothing happened and she had been calling me the whole time. So I was like what happened? SO I told her how I felt and we decided that some bogus shit like that wasn't going to happen again. So i thought. Now Her and L get into it like a year later, and she stops talking to me AGAIN. I hadn't heard from her since Christmas until about 3 days ago. Now let me not forget to mention. Between Christmas and 3 days ago she did send me 3 text messages. She sent me a happy new year, a happy birthday and one other message...I think merry christmas. That was it. Nothing extra. Even when I tried to get more out of her. So she hit's me up on myspace Like 2 days ago after she called me and says, "WTF, (what the fu**) You deleted me from your top friends and you aren't answering my calls."
Now mind you... she hasn't been blowing up my phone. She called me ONE DAY like 5 times in a row...When she left a message she didn't say oh I'm sorry I havent called you...she just said "call me back, bye." Since Christmas I had been trying to call her and get in contact with her for like 2-4 weeks before I gave up (via: Mysapce,Phone Calls, Text Messages). I even contacted her MOM dude!...So my thing is like...In my heart, the friendship is really important to me and I really want to work it out. She and that group were the best friends that I ever had. We had so many experiences together and I really love them. At the same time though, I deserve better treatment. I am a good friend, I am always there when I can be and I am loyal and do good by people, feel me? So, if she is willing to work stuff out, do you all think I should give it a 3rd try? and let this be the last? or do you think I should just be like fuck it and know that she is a fair weather friend and just leave it at that and don't even try to work it out.
Thank you for your patience but I really had to give the background for it to make sense.
Peace
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It is good to see that you want to give her another chance. So give it to her and i would agree that this should be the last chance you give her.
But try and find out why she doesn't call you for a long period of time. You know that something is going on, and you want to know. So ask her directly and ensure you get the answer because you really want this friendship to keep on going and it can't when the other person isn't in contact with you.
You're doing the right thing, but she needs to respond otherwise go and find some other people who'll respect you as the person you are.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Honestly, I think you should move on and find a new group to hang out with. This girl seems to be trying to make it look like it's your fault that she's not talking to you. That's not cool. People who do that are insecure about themselves, so they take it out on their friends for some reason.
From what I understand, she claims that she tried to call you and you never called back, even though you know for a fact that you tried to call her but she wouldn't pick up. This girl is taking advantage of you. She seems to have it in her head that you are going to crawl back to her no matter what she puts you through. Friends are supposed to be there for each other no matter what, but that's a little ridiculous.
You've clearly been a good friend to her, but this doesn't seem worth it. You do deserve better treatment. You need friends who will care for you the same way you care for them. I would carefully separate yourself from this girl and make some new friends.
Best of luck!
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