I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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Hi guys ATTENTION!!!
FAKE SPAMS have been going around and trying to get ADVICENATORS.....dont be caught in penpal spam
Young women (pretending to be from west africa like senegal or dakar) will send you emails stating something along the lines of "my father was a millionaire, my mom died and i'm the only one that survived, and now i'm in a refugee camp"
DO NOT BELIEVE THIS.
her email is julietnkaje2007@yahoo.com
here's a website where other people have had similar situations if you wanna check it out, and here's the email i got and decided to check up on.
http://www.419scam.org/419-penpal.htm
this is what she sent me
""HI
My name is Juliet nkaje ,i saw your profile today in (www.advicenators.com) and became intrested in you,i will also like to know you more,and i want you to send an email to my email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom i am.
Here is my email address (julietnkaje2007@yahoo.com)
I believe we can move from here!
I am waiting for your mail to my email address above..
(Remeber the distance or colour does not matter but love matters alot in life) yours "
and again :
"My dear,
Am happy in your reply to my mail. How is your day over there in your country i hope you are fine? My name is Juliet nkaje ( 24 ) single and never married, i am 5.6 height 49 wight, fair in compilation nice looking understanding and sincere young girl.i am from Liberia in west Africa but presently i am residing in refugee camp here in Dakar Senegal,as a result of the civil war that was fought in my country then i found my self in UN refugee camp and i am writing you with the hope that you be a help hand to me over my situation.
My late father Mr Morgan nkaje was the one in charge of the diamond sales in Government in monrovia the capital of Liberia and he is also the personal advice to the former head of state before the rebels attacked our house one early morning and killing my mother and my father,
It was only me that is alive now and i managed to make my way to near by country Senegal where i am living now as a refugee under UN refugee camp in Senegal so .I will like to know more about you. Your likes and dislike,your hobbies and what you are doing presently you work all about you as. I will tell you more about myself in my next mail . Attached here is my picture and i will like to see your picture too, Hoping to hear from you
Yours Juliet"
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My god, I just saw this e-mail. Thank god I decided to type the address into Google!!! Thanks for this, I almost replied!!!
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Hello!!
(This might be long...sorry!)
Ok, I have this friend Matt. I use to like him SO MUCH, but he told me he only liked me as a friend and that's ALL! Well..I don't like him as much.. I use to I still catch my breath when I see him walk by me.Before I get to what I need to ask ... Matt had this evil girl friend..(lol not like evil like kills people...but...well you will see.) She cussed out my friend and told her to stay away from matt.( That was stupid because she doesn't like matt) Well, Matt still dated her...UNTIL she cheated on him, and he dumped her. Matt told my friend that he said he still loved her...well I don't think because just recently I started to like this kid named Joey and I thought he liked me. We were like going out...well I thought we were...but my friend asked him out for me he said yes..than after 6th period he said no. So I was in the hallway after lunch and my friend said "Yaaaaa !! Em's DATING JOEY!!!" Real loud...Matt heard and stared at me with a weird look on his face, he also has been staring at me A LOT!! He checked out my Vjj the other day( uhh vagina ) Than today he looked at ma boobes!!( I'M NOT LIEING EITHER MY FRIENDS SAW IT TO!!)
Ahh! I was flattered...but I also felt violatd!! When I was texting him the other day.. the day before we had a fight and he told me I didn't understand him. I absoultly do. So I said "Hey, u told me that I didn't understand you maybe we should get to know each other better...as friends though". Than he said "I like the way we are.. I like you only like a friend".I wasn't asking him out!! So I said "Yes, I know that. I don't like you that way! Didn't I already tell you that"? Well... I think that hurt his feelings because ever since that day he hasn't replied to my text messages at all, and he's been looking at me and sorta looking sad but could that be because I said I didn't like him and he's starting to like me or something?? Or, is it because of his ex?? I'm really confused!! My friend keeps telling me he likes me...could he??
Thanks for listening and I'll rate fairly!! =) (link)
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Sounds more like he's confused... confused about his feelings towards you and his girlfriend.
When somebody finds out that they've been cheated on, you kinda begin to doubt your feelings towards that person because how does somebody you love do that sort of thing to you? It wouldn't make any sense so he is trying sort them out so he can make a descision. He may've said that he still loved her, but I get the feeling that it was more like he was trying to convince himself that he still loves her.
I guess the way you replied to him saying that you liked him more than a friend has made him think more about how he feels about you. Wheen you find out that somebody has feelings for you, you've got 2 options:
1) Return what that person is feeling
2) Do nothing.
He recently broke up with a girl who cheated on him, so the last thing which he would want to know is that somebody else likes him.+
The best thing which you should do is to wait a few days and then talk to him about it and see what comes of that. Not a phone call, text, e-mail etc. Talk to him face to face about it.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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very often while opening an e-mail on hotmail I receive a pop up box stating there is some problem in MSN. It gives me three choices that is: Dbug, send a report and close. No matter which option I chose soon after it closes the site. If I drage the box to edge of screen I continue to work on e- mail and there is no problem. But i don't know why it happens and how to get out of this problem (link)
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Best thing to do is to tell hotmail that it is happening to you and see what their response is. Don't send a report, contact the 'team' through an e-mail and tell them exactly what is going on.
Also, you can try setting your browser to block pop-ups and see if that changes anything.
Hope this helped,
triquetra
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Ive been on the bc pills since april 9th
on aprill 11th i had sex..
can i still get pregnant?
I dont know if i am.. but what happens if you take bc pills while pregnant? (link)
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I would've thought that you wouldn't have become pregnant because if your on the pill, then the chances of you becoming preganant decreses.
But the best way to dfouble check is to do a test and see whether it is positive or not.... unless of course you were using protection.
Note: the pill isn't garanteed to stop pregnancy, if you come off, then the chances increase. Not saying that you didn't, but never the less, it is always better to use condoms.
Hope this helped,
triquetra
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I met this man on a dating website and we had talked for several weeks before we decided to meet in person. He is twently seven and I (being female) am only 20. He told me age doesn't matter to him and that he really likes me for me. We hung out for a month or so and had a great time with each other.The problem was that I lived two hours away and he wanted something more tangible and closer to home.At this time I realized that I fell extremely hard for him. We had talked about it and he said the same thing that he fell hard for me but had to put it out of his mind since I would be long distance and he had a bad experience with that.
He bought be a 70 dollar birthday gift and said he only did it because he thought I would like it.It has been four months since we have seen each other and I think about him all the time. I have actually fallen in love with this man and I am unable to move on. I have gone out on other dates but nothing has happened because I know in my heart of hearts he is my soulmate but he just doesn't know it yet. I called him and told him that I was in love with him because that is what my best friend said I should do.
All I want to do is to show him that I really care about him and want him in my life and that long distance would work out between us, he just has to trust me in which he says he does.I know he has feelings for me - he said so but had to push them out of his mind because of the distance thing and now that he has a new girlfriend.
How do I get him back into my life and show him that we would be great together and that distance doesn't matter? I am going insane trying to figure this out, and I am going insane trying to move on with someone else when all I can think about is him. I lose sleep over him and I think about him twenty four seven and he is the last thing I think about when I go to bed and the first thing I think about when I wake up. That is how I know I am in love with him - I just need to know how I can show him what he means to me and how 'us' would work? (link)
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First rule about love: it's hard to get over somebody who you've got strong feelings for. You can't simply, 'push them out of your mind' just like that without there being side effects to it. I think what he's saying is absolute rubbish, I was (and still) in love with a certain person and even though that person is with somebody else and isn't aware of what I feel, I can't get this person out of my mind and each day my feelings always surface and it hurts.
But the both of you know what each other feels for the other, so I think that the two of you should talk it over again and discuss your options again. And I think he should be brave enough to try the whole 'long distance relationship' again. Maybe the reason why the last relationship fell through was because maybe, he and his girlfriend weren't that committed. I don't know, it may be a reason.
Now, the two of you are deeply in love and I highly doubt that he's not going through the same thing which you are as well. I think that he should seriously give it a go and see what happens. If he knew that a long distance relationship may be a problem, then he wouldn't have come in contact in the first place. True, nobody wants to get hurt again, but I think he will try and make this work.
http://www.skype.com/intl/en-gb/
That is a link to Skype. I don't know if you have it or not but it is a good way to stay in contact, and for free.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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(16/f)I am going to try out for my high school talent show in a couple of weeks, singing a song and accompanying myself on the piano, and I'm not sure what song I am going to sing. I tend to lean towards singing songs that are a little more bluesy and soulful and I like a lot of older music, but I like literally every genre of music and am open to anything. here are some of the songs i am considering:
Lovin U- Alicia Keys
Hallelujah- Jeff Buckley
What goes around comes around- Justin Timberlake
Sorry seems to be the hardest word- Elton John
That'll be the day- Linda Rondstadt
Who's loving you- the Jackson 5
The Way you make me feel- Michael Jackson
I wanted to get people's opinions on what song they think would be best to sing, and I would also absolutely love any other song suggestions.
thanks so much! (link)
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Vanishing - Mariah Carey
Bye Bye - Mariah Carey
I'll Be There - Mariah version or Jackson 5 version
Endless Love - Mariah Carey (not the version with Luther Vandross)
I hope these helped,
triquetra
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Hello! So, in two weeks I am going to Universal Studios in Orlando with a group of students from my school. I really want to have a good time on the trip but I'm scared because I know everyone is going to want to ride rollercoasters and things but I might be too big to ride anything. I mean, 2/3 years ago at our county fair, the bars on rides fit me tightly and I've gained 100 + pounds since then so I can almost guarantee I won't be fitting on any rides. I don't know what to do!! If I try to get on a ride and am told to get off, I'll be humiliated. If I don't get on any rides with my friends I'll look like an idiot cause I'll be the only one that didn't get on anything and again, I'll be HUMILIATED. :'( What am I going to do???? (link)
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Talk to you teacher privately about it and see what he or she says because for the day to be good for everyone, then need to ensure that you will be happy as well. Don't forget, even though others say they want to go on the rollercoasters, others may not want to for other reasons, so you won't be alone in that respect.
I went to Orlando quite recently in fact and there is a huge variety of things which you can do there apart from the rollercoasters. If I remember correctly, there was only like one or two major rollercoasters to go on (Hulk and Dragon something). Plus, most the ride bars go over you and the seats are pretty deep so I don't think that it should be a problem. I don't know whether the rides in the county fair rides' bars come forward or not like they do over here but overall, it shouldn't be a problem. If in doubt, go and ask somebody.
Ask around and see how people feel about the rollercoasters and get a general view as to who wants or doesn't want to go on them. Even if there is only one person, that makes a huge difference. I understand that you want to go on them, but if you can't (God forbid!) then at least you can go with somebody else.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My girlfriend won't perform oral sex on me and I'm getting pretty angry about it.
I've talked to her about it and once I even tried to force her down but she just kept resisting. She says she thinks penis is disgusting. What do you think?
Do you think she's a lesbian maybe?
What can I do to get a blowjob from her?
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Okay, for starters: you cannot force somebody to do something they don't want to do.
Different people have different views about certain subjects and it's clear that your girlfriend doesn't want to have oral sex with you. To be honest, I'm surprised that she hasn't broken up with you, reading how you've treated her because if sounds as if you're treating her like some sex object whom you think will obey your every wish and command. Forcing her down??????????????? That has to be the lowest thing I can think of somebody doing.
News flash: she has a mind of her own and can decide for herself whether she wants to have oral sex with you or not and you have to respect her decision since she is your girlfriend. Respect her views on the subject and leave it at that.
Just because she doesn't want to give you a blowjob, doesn't mean she's a lesbian at all. And to be quite honest again, your mentality of the situation baffles me: so just because she doesn't want to give you a blowjob, you begin to think that she's a lesbian. Well if she was, then why is she going out with you?
Personally, I think you should reconsider having a girlfriend because evidently your priorities are skewed about what having a girlfriend is all about because it isn't just about sex you know. Having a girlfriend means that you're with somebody you care about and respecting them as a person. You clearly haven't reached that level of mentality.
If she wants to give you a blowjob, it has to be in her own time and space, IF she wants to give you one. If she doesn't, as I said, then leave it at that and don't talk about it.
Seriously, re-think about what having a girlfriend means.
triquetra
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Okay. This is extremely crazy && long.
but here it goes anyway...
I took a history class two years ago (my freshman year) and the teacher was always really cool with everyone. So, while i had the class i got a crush on the teacher. When the class was over at the end of the year, the crush was over too.
Well long story short, the crush is back as of three months. haha. (after two years) and I think im stalking him in a way....
Here are some things I have done:
1. I googled his phone number and address
2. I found his house. ((Its really close to the school. Me and bff drive over there every day at lunch, and i sometimes go in the mornings when i go to get coffee))
3. I called his home phone while he was at school on my friend's cell. AND because I knew he wasnt home, I knew it was going to go to voice mail, so I recorded his voice (message) onto my cell phone && its now saved on my phone.
4. I have a pic of his house on my phone
5 I know for a fact he's single and has never had kids.
6. He's 43. I'm 17.
7.I know the names of his brother, his bro's wife, his mother, his father and his sister.
8. I know that his mother lives with him and his father is dead.
9. I have pics that I found on the internet (facebook, websites, etc) of him saved on my computer.
10. He owns a small local business.... Sooo me and my friend went to a holiday inn and stole a "do not disturb" sign and wrote a sexual note to him (without signing it) and taped it to the front of the business door.
11. I've photoshopped a picture of me and him together (as a joke)
12. I walk by his classroom everyday, even though i havent taken his class in two years.
13. I love him.
14. JUST RECENTLY, and the thing that made me realize this is begining to be a problem............me and my friend were skipping class, and we drove over to his house and stole his junk mail. I still have the mail in my car. It was only two little credit card applications, but it has his name on the front, which i love.
^^ i know this all sounds crazy or like a joke, but i swear it's my life. I hate it but I love it at the same time. He's so amazing. I cant get over this. I dont want to get over this, but I KNOW i need to stop before something bad happens because of me.
Advice please????
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You're right, you do need to stop because that's just.... wow.
Um, the first thing to do is to get your friend to help you stop. You say that you drive by his house? Well, try and break that routine by doing something else with your friends. Should the subject rise, ask them to help you stop doing this because that's what friends are for: supporting and helping each other.
Delete/shred/burn EVERYTHING which you have on him.
You need to get it into your head that there will be nothing between the two of you and the sooner you can get that engraved in, the sooner this will stop. 'Cause I get the feeling that a girl who has a crush on somebody 26 years older won't go down so well.
There's one thing which I want to tell you know which you may not have realized: if anybody finds what you have, I can suspect serious consequences will emerge and people's view of you will change dramatically. A while ago, I was accused of stalking somebody but thankfully, that was all a misunderstanding and I managed to sort that situation out. But in this case, it's very real and things can change. The school may take action along with teacher and that is one thing I think we all don't want to happen.
I can't help you with the information which you already know about his life.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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15/f. a few years ago I got caught[by parents] with cutting & depression. Between then and now I've struggled with S.I & eating disorders..but Ive managed to have 99.999% of people convinced I'm COMPLETELY over everything and am totally healed. but I'm more depressed than ever..just got too good at hiding it. Everyone sees me as the Jesus Freak..and I was. until recently, idk I just started to fall away from religion =\ anyway.
theres a guy my dad works with that has a daughter my age thats been cutting a lot and everything like I was. I agreed to talk to her if she wants. my mom suggested that i introcude her to religion and tell her my 'success story'
but I dont know how to go about this since I'm not better and i confused about God right now.[obviously i cant tell my mom that.]
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What helped you get through what you went through? Religion or no religion.
There's no point telling/introducing her to something which didn't help you get through your ordeal and from past experience, most people are closed to religion or aren't that interested in it when they're depressed. Tell this girl exactly what helped you, don't gloss it over because that won't help anybody. And I think it's best to tell her that you're still dealing with the side effects of what you went through.
But why? Because you can relate to her situation and tell her what was going through your head and that it took whatever it took to get to where you are now.
You may still be depressed, but what I'm hoping is that the two of you will be able to support each other and you can make it through this period of you lives together.
Give your side of the story to her straight.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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ok so i like this guy. and he knows i like him. (long story) so the other day my friend was texting him and she said so do you like smileygirl513?(me) and then he said yea a little. the thing is like then another time my friend went up to him and asked him if he liked me and his face like lite up and said idk. then another time my friend was like soo who do like and he said me! so like it depends who he is talking to if he says he likes, doesnt know or only a little. so whats the deal? does he like me or not?
and oh yeah he always stares at and even my friends notice. and one time i was with my friend and him and sometimes it seemed like he was only talking to my friend and not me too. and wen i fisrt went up to him he looked stunned but idk if it was good or bad. so my question is DOES HE LIKE ME! i need advice BADDD! (link)
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When you like somebody, it's always hard to admit it at first because you don't know how the other person will react to when they learn about how you feel about them, even if you do know that they like you.
This is what this guy is going through right now and people asking him I think won't help the matter. Of course he will say I don't know because it's hard enough to validate your own feelings by yourself, let alone when somebody is asking you about them.
And the time as to when your friends asked him as well is also an important factor. If it went from 'don't know' - 'yes, I like her', then it shows that he's come to the conclusion that he likes you. But the other way round may tell you that he's doubting what he's feeling and your friends asking him those questions may not be helping him make that final decision.
When he makes his final decision about you, he'll tell/ask you when he's ready.
Another factor to this is how YOU feel about him: friend or more? Because it okay to know that you like him, but to what extent do you like him? Those are questions which you need to ask yourself. If you want to be in a relationship with him, you need to let him know so that he can come to a decision.
When you like somebody, the first thing which you do is to try and hide what you're feeling about that person, and one way in doing that is to try and blank that person because if you don't, then you risk letting that person know that you like them in some way. That could explain as to why you feel as if he's taking more to your friend than to you.
I can't really tell you as to whether he likes you or not, but from what i've read, there is a chance that he likes you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i made the biggest mistake ever. i was hanging out with one of my bestfriends and he was playing around and told another one of my friends that he was gona fight him for something. just playing. well i took my him over to the other guys house where him and some of his friends were. i told him that my friend wasnt gona fight him and so i thought it was a joke. we get there, and this guy is jumpin up in the window like "you wanna fight" etc. and punches my friend. and i started yelling at them sayin they needed to stop. the guy punched him again so i layed on the gas and left. the guy who punched my friend i dont even know and it wasnt his fight. but the guy whose fight it was called me sayin he didnt know it was a joke and everything and how he was really sry. but my friend is uber pissed at me, cause he kept telling me that they were gona do that. i thought they knew it was a joke, and nothing like that has ever happened to me before. i feel soo bad, i keep getting flash backs of the whole thing and it just makes me wanna cry. my friend wont even talk to me now. i dont know if he will ever. i've apologized a million times and i know it doesnt fix it. but i dont know what to do. i dont want to lose one of my bestfriends.. :(. advice please. (link)
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Your question was a little confusing but this is what I understand as to what happened (please clarify): you take your friend to the house where the guy whom your friend threatened lived who had other friends around at the time. Your still in the car with the window down when of the guy's friends' reaches through the window and punches your friend twice and you quickly leave.
We all make mistakes which we regret, but eventually, those mistakes become a thing of the past.
You didn't know that it was going to happen, and you did the right thing by acting on what you thought at the time and I think that to some level, both of you were shocked by what was going on.
In fact, the fault lies with the friend whom mistook what your friend said and assumed that he was going to fight him. As you said, the other guy realized that it had been a joke and was sorry about it. So it shouldn't be you who should be apologizing, it should be the other guy for assuming that there was going to be a fight and the other guy who punched your friend should also be the one apologizing because he acted out on something which wasn't meant to happen.
You need to talk to your friend and explain that you saw it as a joke before the guy began to punch your friend. You need to tell him that if you had known that it was going to happen, then you would've never taken him there in the first place now would you? He needs to understand that you thought that nothing was going to happen and how you feel about the situation. He needs to know that you don't want to loose your best friend over something like this and hope that the two of you can make up about it. Don't e-mail or text, walk up to him and tell him.
Somebody shouldn't loose their best friend just because of a stupid mistake, and I should know!!!
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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ok i listen to acoustic and alternative stuff
for example , all time low and augustana and dashboard confessional
can someone help me out and give me good songs with one of these topics:
someone telling you your beautiful
being under the stars ?!
liking someone who lets just say isnt your boyfriend
loving someone whose far away
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Underneath the Stars - Mariah Carey
My All - Mariah Carey
Without You - Mariah Carey
I Wish You Knew - Mariah Carey
I hope these help,
triquetra
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Hello, so i like to be goofy and serenade people, and i was wondering if anyone could add to list of fun sogns to sing to your boyfriend,
something like
here in your arms-hellogoodbye
call and return- hellogoodbye
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One song which comes to mind which can be both is 'Touch My Body' by Mariah Carey
I know that at first glance that the title can be far from what you're looking for, but the lyrics are fun and can be quite fun to sing along to.
Don't take it seriously, just have fun with the song.
triquetra
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so my boyfriend and i are (or were?) pretty much perfect for each other. we got in little fights here and there but they never lasted more than a day, i think it was healthy fighting, every relationship has them. over february break, he went on a cruise and i was stuck home missing him like crazy. now that he's home i've been getting really irratated by him, i mean really really irritated. and our phone conversations went from us talking for 6 or 7 hours to us hardly being able to hold a coversation for an hour. idk if it's just me or if our relationship is starting to lose the sparkle it had only 2 weeks ago. please someone tell me something i could do to better our relationship. i know i'm sounding a tad bit melodramatic but, i don't want to lose him :( (link)
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You need to identify as to what is causing your irritation because then you won't be able to deal with it and then keep your relationship going.
You said that you missed him whilst he was away? Could the cause of this irritation be the fact that he didn't miss you as much as you thought he would (I know you didn't say anything like that in your question but it's a possibility) and you want him to feel what you're feeling and when he isn't, you feel irritated and frustrated.
What you need to realize is that he loves you just as much as you love him and you need to have faith in that love if this relationship is to survive. When he went away, you felt more love for him.
So, what to do? Don't let this irritation get in the way of what you feel for him. I know it will be frustrating, but the one thing which you shouldn't do is to force the relationship on and try and make it something which it once wasn't. Just be calm around him and when you talk to him, just talk to him and see how that goes.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I went to send an email just then and an error message came up saying "This account is currently blocked from sending messages. If you don't think you've violated the Windows Live Terms of Use, please contact customer support."
I don't believe I have violated the terms of use. I am trying so send out resumes and it is really important that I can use this account because all my potential employers have this email address and I can't use it. How can I unblock this account?
Is it possible to delete my email account and then make a new one of the exact same name or doesn't that work? (link)
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The best thing to do is to contact Windows Live customer support and see what went wrong and tell them that you've not done anything and they should reverse the block unless they've got a good reason to.
Once a username is used, you can't create another under the same name otherwise that could cause confusion for the site.
Another option is to just create another account and give it to your employers so that they can contact you on that account whilst the other is being fixed.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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me and my bf have been togethr for almost 2 months. and i liked him so much like a month or two before we got together. well we both told eachother we fell for eachother. and were in love. and i feel like im hella sprung. every song on the radio reminds me of him. i cant go a second without thinking bout him. i get butterflies. i think im seriously sprung. but is that a bad thing? i just dont want to get hurt. cuz my friend is the same with her bf and she got hella hurt recently but there beter now. but my question is how can i not be so sprung? and not be so much in love. i dont want to put all of myself into a guy and something does happen (which i dont think will happen) but still. i dont want to get hurt. well thanks so much in advance! (link)
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It isn't a bad thing if you're sprung over him, just as long as you don't let your feelings for him get in the way of your judgement to handle to certain situation should it arise.
The best thing to do in those situations is to just think what's best for you and for him and work throuhg that situations. One way is to talk to each other and listen when one has got a problem and if something does arise, be sure to be honest with other and commited to the relationship (which I'm sure you are!). If you care about each other (and I now you do), then you there should be nothing to worry about.
However, the one thing which you shouldn't do is to act differently around him because sometimes, you can change just to keep your partner happy. So just be natural around him.
I'm slightly confused by this line though: "cuz my friend is the same with her bf and she got hella hurt recently but there beter now" so maybe you could clarify that for us.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i had unprotected sex monday morn around 5:30am. yesterday i felt the abdominal pains associated with ovulation. my sex drive is very high right now. last nite i had a creamy discharge, kinda thick, not real thick. today i am not cramping but a little pain every now and then. have i ovulated? what are the possibilities of me becoming pregnant? (link)
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Best thing for you to do is to go to the doctors and have a check up because that shouldn't really be happening.
If you have unprotected sex, then the chances become greater for you to become pregnant, regardless of time or day.
I think it is pretty much impossible for me to tell whether you've ovulated or not, which is why I emphasize the importance of going to the doctors to have a check up. It could be nothing but better safe than sorry.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Hey? mmmm it's my 1st time trying this out, well the thing is, I can't seem to find a sheet music (piano) for the song "long distance relationship"...
mmmm this maybe unreasonable as it seems but,(I live in the phil. and I like someone who likes me too, i'm in the 2nd year of highschool same as him) in a year or 2 I might transfer to canada and won't be able to see him anymore...
also I can't go back to the phil. then cause were living in canada for good, for citizenship which takes really long, even though he can visit me every vacation or so, I still want to know the sheet music so i can play it for him before i go... (link)
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I'm so sorry for not getting back to you sooner.
Now, I've taken a look round a there were a variety of artists which had a similar title to the one which you gave, but this one by Brandy seemed to fit what you were talking about.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCfouqWRLdY
That's a link to the song which I think that you're talking about, please let me know.
I've taken a good look around music sites and others, but I couldn't find anything which probably means that the artist hasn't released the piano music to her songs.
Sorry I couldn't be more help to you,
triquetra
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sometimes when we're together, he tries to hide it. but i can always see the hurt in his eyes. and today, he sort of vented to me about him having all the responsibility around his house, because his whole family has health issues.
but i think thats only half the problem. i cant figure out the other half, and he doesnt know either. his mom told me shes really worried about him, and just knowing that hes upset on the inside breaks my heart. i love him to pieces, and i hate seeing him like this.
and whenever i can tell hes depressed, i get depressed because i think i did something wrong. im not the easiest person to get along with, but we havent had that many fights. and when we have, they lasted a few hours, and then we work it out. before all this happened, i was always depressed, too. and this is just putting more stress on me and im very unhappy with the way things are going. for him, nothing is looking good: he cant sleep at night, hes always tired, he cant take any medication, and even today he wasnt eating!
what the hell can i do?? any help?
(we're both 16, but neither of us can drive) (link)
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The best thing to do is to help him whenever you can when he's at home because that puts less pressure on him and therefore, less depressed about the situation which in turn will help you to be less depressed. It's best to try and be a positive influence around him because that may help him to get his spirits up.
Doing little things like doing some of the shopping, helping around the house etc. can really help and can help strengthen the relationship that the two of you have.
I have a small feeling that he may be also depressed about the thought that he could end up with health issues like the rest of his family. Not a pleasant thought true, but it's a possibility.
But for you, the main thing is to remain strong for him. He needs to eat and sleep well at night because otherwise, his condition will not improve in the slightest, otherwise, his condition could get worse. Go out together and go somewhere to eat and if he doesn't eat, encourage him to. As for the sleep, personally, I would've thought a good shower and a early night would do him a lot of good.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
PS Any further help needed, don't hesitate to drop another question into my inbox.
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