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losing our love?
so my boyfriend and i are (or were?) pretty much perfect for each other. we got in little fights here and there but they never lasted more than a day, i think it was healthy fighting, every relationship has them. over february break, he went on a cruise and i was stuck home missing him like crazy. now that he's home i've been getting really irratated by him, i mean really really irritated. and our phone conversations went from us talking for 6 or 7 hours to us hardly being able to hold a coversation for an hour. idk if it's just me or if our relationship is starting to lose the sparkle it had only 2 weeks ago. please someone tell me something i could do to better our relationship. i know i'm sounding a tad bit melodramatic but, i don't want to lose him :(
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Let me start off by saying, this happens in most relationships, it's quite normal... About the irritation, you need to analyze why you're getting irritated. Is it because you don't have control over him, because he does things you tell him not to like touch the chair(lol sorry for the crappy example)? Ehh sometimes we get bored with our boyfriends and/or girlfriends, it's up to both partners to spice up the relationship though, so you're right... About the phone convos, I can't help you there lol some days my bf and I talk for hours.. others just for a couple minutes.. Maybe it has to do with the amount of time you spend talking to each other or being with each other (?) ... I guess you can talk about way back when ya'll met eachother.. the cute little things ya'll would do.. and so on.. and maybe that will give you and him ideas on what to do now.. Maybe you miss a certain nickname he used to call you, or a certain way he would look at you... Just think back on the good times, I'm pretty sure you guys love eachother. Good luck!
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You need to identify as to what is causing your irritation because then you won't be able to deal with it and then keep your relationship going.
You said that you missed him whilst he was away? Could the cause of this irritation be the fact that he didn't miss you as much as you thought he would (I know you didn't say anything like that in your question but it's a possibility) and you want him to feel what you're feeling and when he isn't, you feel irritated and frustrated.
What you need to realize is that he loves you just as much as you love him and you need to have faith in that love if this relationship is to survive. When he went away, you felt more love for him.
So, what to do? Don't let this irritation get in the way of what you feel for him. I know it will be frustrating, but the one thing which you shouldn't do is to force the relationship on and try and make it something which it once wasn't. Just be calm around him and when you talk to him, just talk to him and see how that goes.
I hope this helped,
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