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Falling in love
I met this man on a dating website and we had talked for several weeks before we decided to meet in person. He is twently seven and I (being female) am only 20. He told me age doesn't matter to him and that he really likes me for me. We hung out for a month or so and had a great time with each other.The problem was that I lived two hours away and he wanted something more tangible and closer to home.At this time I realized that I fell extremely hard for him. We had talked about it and he said the same thing that he fell hard for me but had to put it out of his mind since I would be long distance and he had a bad experience with that.
He bought be a 70 dollar birthday gift and said he only did it because he thought I would like it.It has been four months since we have seen each other and I think about him all the time. I have actually fallen in love with this man and I am unable to move on. I have gone out on other dates but nothing has happened because I know in my heart of hearts he is my soulmate but he just doesn't know it yet. I called him and told him that I was in love with him because that is what my best friend said I should do.
All I want to do is to show him that I really care about him and want him in my life and that long distance would work out between us, he just has to trust me in which he says he does.I know he has feelings for me - he said so but had to push them out of his mind because of the distance thing and now that he has a new girlfriend.
How do I get him back into my life and show him that we would be great together and that distance doesn't matter? I am going insane trying to figure this out, and I am going insane trying to move on with someone else when all I can think about is him. I lose sleep over him and I think about him twenty four seven and he is the last thing I think about when I go to bed and the first thing I think about when I wake up. That is how I know I am in love with him - I just need to know how I can show him what he means to me and how 'us' would work?
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First rule about love: it's hard to get over somebody who you've got strong feelings for. You can't simply, 'push them out of your mind' just like that without there being side effects to it. I think what he's saying is absolute rubbish, I was (and still) in love with a certain person and even though that person is with somebody else and isn't aware of what I feel, I can't get this person out of my mind and each day my feelings always surface and it hurts.
But the both of you know what each other feels for the other, so I think that the two of you should talk it over again and discuss your options again. And I think he should be brave enough to try the whole 'long distance relationship' again. Maybe the reason why the last relationship fell through was because maybe, he and his girlfriend weren't that committed. I don't know, it may be a reason.
Now, the two of you are deeply in love and I highly doubt that he's not going through the same thing which you are as well. I think that he should seriously give it a go and see what happens. If he knew that a long distance relationship may be a problem, then he wouldn't have come in contact in the first place. True, nobody wants to get hurt again, but I think he will try and make this work.
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That is a link to Skype. I don't know if you have it or not but it is a good way to stay in contact, and for free.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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if you really want to do something about it. have you thought about moving in with him. tell him you really love him and you cant stand being apart from him and that you'll do whatever it takes to get him back. ask about moving in, if not moving closer just for him after he breaks up with his girlfriend.
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