If you truly like him it doesn't matter what your friends say, if there truly your friends they'll understand, but because your young and i guess your friends are too they might not understand. hopefully they do. when i was in school i had friends like that, but i didn't care, i would listen but i didn't respond because i knew what i wanted and i knew that if they cared for me they'd care for my feelings as well. I know you love your friends and you don't want to lose them but do what you want to, but don't push your friends away. i did that to my friends, sad to say but some deserved it and some didn't. remember who your friends are and remember who you are, and do what you feel is right, consider your friends thoughts but follow yours. he sounds sweet and maybe your friends will think so too one day.

Try to understand him more, study him, see what ticks him off, and do the opposite. this worked for me when i was in your situation. relationships can change for the better, as you learn more about him, you'll slowly learn how to gain his trust. show him your all his make sure he knows you love him and only him. i honestly think he's over protective, but it could be an emotional problem maybe he's insecure and has had previous relationship problems, and now with you maybe he doesn't want things from his past to repeat itself because he cares for you. Greatest thing for you to do is to show him he can trust you, this will be hard. for me this was the hardest times of my life i cried so many times because i would try so hard to get him to trust me but, it didn't seem to work everytime.
sometimes seperation helps, not like taking a break or anything but like a school trip or a vacation. this helped me although during my trip i had never cried so much in my life, because his trust sunk so low he almost dumped me, but the thought of not seeing me so long and then finally seeing me again changed his trust for me a little.

honestly find ways and try, don't give up. its gonna be hard but if you truly love him you gotta keep going. what i did to finally gain his trust was understanding what he liked to hear and what he didn't, then i told myself what would he say. because most of the time a human will interpret something the way they would say it. so after that i would decide to say it or not. i really changed the way i spoke and said things only if they needed to be said.

but understand that all relationships are different and the ways to fix it are as well. you'll find a way. not to scare you or anything but it took me 4 years to get him to trust me enough for us to be in a normal loving relationship. but you only lied to him, i was talking to another guy, but i never met him. if what you lied to him about isn't that bad then maybe you'll be able to gain his trust must faster than i did.

good luck

If you are at least 18 and have a medical problem from things as minor as a back ache to as major as cancer or worse you can get medical marijuana which is the same thing its just its not illegal, but there are restrictions like: you only can have 7 plants at most growing, you can only smoke on your property and cannot bring the marijuana anywhere else, and of course you cannot sell it. most people don't follow these rules. now after inhaling give at least 5 seconds before exhaling at the least try to hold it as long as you can, for first time only take about 3 hits and wait for it to kick in. i don't reccomend it unless of course your allowed to.

Yes, not me but i have a friend. she's 18 years old as well and she's just like you she wants to give it to someone who she really loves and cares about and someone she knows won't take advantage of her. i'm going to be 17 i'm not a virgin but i only had sex with one person and still am, since i was 15 years and 3 days old... LOL. but you know you're above everyone who has gave it up when they weren't ready and you know maybe one day i will regret it but i made the decision that i was ready that was with my current boyfriend and i hope i will never regret i hope he will be my first and my last but only time will tell, we waited a year before we actually did it and the time that i did it was the time that i was ready and trust me when your time comes you will know, just promise me that you will fall in love before you do it and i mean IN LOVE!!! like head over heals, give my all, unconditional Love.
Good Luck
- LiseJose

I think that you can't trust him, but you know a month is not that long and its perfectly fine that you're still finding things out about him i mean he has years of life before you that you don't know you can't expect him to tell you everything so soon and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and still finding things out slowly and even couples together for 20 years are still finding things out about each other, honestly this situation is very confusing because i would say that if you trust him that much then let it go, but you know you can't really trust someone so easily in just a month and just because you feel he won't hurt doesn't mean he won't, its a lot easier to leave someone after they hurt you when you're with him for a short period of time, but when you guys are together for long it gets hard, so i would make your decision or fix things up soon or your gonna be hurt more than you hoped. good luck

Well Marissa i want to tell you how i feel about it honest and i don't want you to feel as i am talking in a bad way because i'm not. I feel that you ruined you're chances but don't give up because you know you're only 16 and i'm guessing that he and you're friend are around that age, so maybe they might not last as long as they feel they are. but sorry to say but don't hold on too strong either because they could last, you never know. All you can do now is wait and hope for the better or the worse depending on what is what to you. i hope everything works out and i'm sorry if or that i couldn't answer you're question as well as you wanted. i hope that i didn't make it harder but instead gave you less confusion. now with that guy, let me ask you this: do you feel what you felt with Ian when your with Connor or Do you think you could anytime in the future? Think about it and maybe your answer could help you.

that is so sweet, your a great boyfriend. honestly i dont think anyone should decide something like that besides you. if it were you getting something from her what would you want, im sorry i know you wouldnt want anything as long shes happy. but maybe you do somethiing that can help you too, do something you know will make her smile, and honestly she is very special because she has a caring boyfriend that not everyone can get. good luck

yea, dont worry about it its okay. it could be that your sick but it could also be that your pregnant take a test thats all i can say.

well zalalia, maybe your scared because you read the things i say to people, but listen just because i say them it doesnt mean it could be directed to you, yes you could get pregnant but your using protection so its okay dont worry too much, if it didn't hurt before then it sshouldnt hurt again, so stop being scared, just dont have sex again unless you know your ready okay.

thank you for asking me personally by the way.

-LiseJose

first of all, what really pisses me off is that you have horible friends... why should they decide your love life and why do you let them, its not up to anyone but you, so if you want to go back out with your old boyfriend then go for it, once again: why do you let your friends decide just because hes your friends cousin doesnt mean you cant go out with him, if she was your friend she wouldnt care infact she would be happy. naturally distance shouldnt be a problem its up to you, if you can handle driving for hours every once in awhile. if you cant do it and your afraid of you guys drifting then dont be with him, but whats a few hours compared to a life time right? not to be mean but alot of these things you shouldnt be asking, i've noticed your the type to rely on people, and its okay but sometimes you let people make your decisions, dont let it happen again, might not seem like it but if you make your own decisions the answers are always there. i hope everything goes good and you make the right decision and i hope i helped a little, im not the person that gives you the answer but i give you easier options so i hope i helped. and i hope you make the right decision by yourself, by the way every decision you make will always be the right one for you, atleats at the time. please remember to think it through so you are positive its what you want. have a nice day.

- lisejose

don't worry about it if you have condoms and birth control... don' be too worried.. just don't forget that you always need to wear protection, anyways just make sure u know ur ready

there is nothing wrong with that. even love can inspire you, and if he inspires you to do better in life then maybe he's good to have around.

there is nothing wrong with that that happens to alt of people, i have a cousin that has alot of sex but she still hurts when puting on tampons. for me i love tampons they don't hurt me but before i did and when i lost my virginity, they slipped right in. some people are able to get it in but then it hurts when taking it out. everyone's different. don't worry hopefully one day it won't hurt.


if you have anymore questions email me.

-LiseJose

you can trust me i promise email me at either chanae_123@yahoo.com or my advicenator email please email me.

that kind of guy will just break your heart. he's a christian you said, yea right you should be careful, he doesn't really like you just watch what you do.

if you knew you weren't wet them you probably weren't. pre- cum can happen as soon as a guy gets hard. even though its pre-cum it still has millions of sperm. not as much as actual cum but you still have a risk at getting pregnant. if your really worried get checked if not than just be carful before it happens

if you any other questions email me at lisejose_advicenators@yahoo.com

-lisejose

yes you should tell her, but start off slow and tell her what happened at first make it sound like its his fault and in the end if its your fault at all let her know. but don't blame yourself because things happen like that alot and from the story i'm hearing that guys a jerk. i hope that you used a condom because that kind of guy sounds like he does that alot. i really want to help you more and your welcome to email me at lisejose_advicenators@yahoo.com

don't be afraid to ask me anything and i hope everything goes great with your mom. i know your afraid of telling her but she will be happy that you told her. just be careful of the next time because you'll never know. please email me.

-lisejose

sometimes yes and sometimes no.. innexperienced means tighter. experienced means well that there experienced

me and my boyfriend are going through the same thing and i know it hurts. let him have his time but dont give up on him. 3 years and im sure he still loves you he just needs to be redirected. find a way to show him that he does love you to where he can say it and mean it. at the same time make sure he knows you love him. see me and my boyfriend have trust issues and he had a really hard life and hes really insecure and sometimes he thinks i dont love him so just make sure you let him know you do. dont be too much in his face but dont go too far away. if its just the fighting that made him feel this way maybe he just is afraid of being hurt. you guys have been together for a while and you should be able to sit him down and talk it may hurt but if theres tears then its real. just show him hes special and make sure he knows everything.

try a tight bun tat sticks to your scalp so that dents arent necessary. its stylish and when your done work it still looks beautiful, but try not to move your headset that much that might loosen the bun.

I am 18. I like giving advice about love, I feel as though i have a clear idea of love in some ways, at the same time as i feel love is not explainable i can explain it, but in weird ways. I also like to give advice about sex questions, although i'm a big hypocrite when it comes to this topic, I always say the right things although i do the wrong ones. there are a few topics that i answer that aren't in my favorite categories but if the question interests me then i answer it. I hope you can trust me and i hope you can appreciate what i can try to do to help you.
- LiseJose

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