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3 years- wasted?
ive been with the same guy for 3 years. im 16, almost 17. weve been incepreibal for years and nothing could keep us away from eachother. weve broken up a few times, and evertime we always come crawling back to eachother. but last week, he told me he doesnt feel the same anymore and wants to be friends until he finds out what he wants. this is becasue weve been fighting like crazy, and things arent the same anymore. i love him so much its unreal, and i told him today im ready to be with him, and he said he doesnt want a girlfriend right now and wants to be single. i dont know what to do like i just feel like dying. ive always been a true believer of love, but this is killing me inside. we have the type of relationship where if i go somewhere he gets jealous and vice versa. i guess it came to the point that he cant take it anymore. i really cany stop crying. can anyone relate? i just need advice on anything. i would give the world for him. he said he loves me more than anything in the world. i know he does but hes i guess "doing this for himself" i need comfort, advice, anything. ive been through this so many times but i feel like this is the last draw. ive been thinking about the quote "follow love and it will flee, flee love and it will follow". im a strong believeer in that, but i just dont know if i should move on or not. im sorry if this is long by the way. he said hed let me know if he wants to be with me again. but i dont want to sit here and wait for him. idk. please help me like any advice is fine..
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WOW. This EXACT scenario happened to me. That's crazy! It happened towards the beginning of may. I was just like you- crying hysterically, wondering "what if", and trying to change. The truth is, there isn't an answer to whether or not he's coming back. In my case, he did ask me back out. However, in the month that it took him to "have time to himself" I realized a lot. I realized that I too did not like the relationship that we had anymore, and that it was pointless constantly getting jealous. (Although I did have reason to be..not getting into that though) I told him to wait a few weeks, that I'd think more about it. At this point, right now, I'm really not even sure if i want to be with him anymore.
If he really does love you, he'll find his way back. My boyfriend was exactly like that ... he said he still loved and cared for me, he just needed time because he was sick of what was going on. If you two want to be together, try changing some things that go on in your relationship. He and I have been working on it, and it seems like things will be ok. If you have any questions about how I got through, or anything at all... feel free to ask.
Oh, and For me, it did feel like it was the last straw too.. It was the first time he'd ever broken up with me, which is why i felt that way.. but it wasn't. So hopefully it isn't for you either.
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First of all i dont think you should move on just yet...not while you still love him atleast. I think he just needs some time for himself..some time to clear his mind. If he says he loves you, he probably most likey isnt lying to you.so dont lose hope on the relationship..just be his friend until he figurs out what he wants..atleast this way he knows you truly do love him and your willing to wait for him. I hope i helped..and i hope things work out for you two.
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me and my boyfriend are going through the same thing and i know it hurts. let him have his time but dont give up on him. 3 years and im sure he still loves you he just needs to be redirected. find a way to show him that he does love you to where he can say it and mean it. at the same time make sure he knows you love him. see me and my boyfriend have trust issues and he had a really hard life and hes really insecure and sometimes he thinks i dont love him so just make sure you let him know you do. dont be too much in his face but dont go too far away. if its just the fighting that made him feel this way maybe he just is afraid of being hurt. you guys have been together for a while and you should be able to sit him down and talk it may hurt but if theres tears then its real. just show him hes special and make sure he knows everything.
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