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i'm ready whats holding me back?
ok here's the thing im a 20 y.o female, ive been in some relationships but never had sex, that was basically my rule like anything but sex.. not because of religion issues, but more like as in i have the biggest fear of getting pregnant, im still a university student , couldn't deal with a baby right now ... im in a relationship right now with someone i care and love very very much, and i know i want to have sex with him, and i know id have birth control and condoms, but still i have this huge fear , but i really really want to do never been more sure about this. like is it really probably to get pregnant that way? or what is ur recomendation for this ?
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don't worry about it if you have condoms and birth control... don' be too worried.. just don't forget that you always need to wear protection, anyways just make sure u know ur ready
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You have control issues you need to deal with.
It's a truism of sex that the least responsible simultaneously get the most fun and the worst consequences.
No one can make you a promise. That's the nature of the issues you're dealing with. That said, using birth control and condoms in conjunction (and correctly) will reduce your chances to something like one in fifty thousand. Small enough that you could, like the majority of other couples, have sex constantly for years and never wind up pregnant without planning it.
I think, that to some degree you have to let go. I don't want to advise you to go out and have sex when you don't want to, but obviously you have the desire and fear is holding you back.
Sexuality is an adult need. Plenty of people have sex every day who do not want a child, and the adult world does not call it irresponsible. There is an acknowledged need for sex and intimacy among human beings, and so the risks must be weighed and approached in an adult manner.
In most cases, that means taking what precautions you can while not cutting yourself and your partner from the emotional connections you both need to share.
A big part of growing up is managing adult risks. The world isn't entirely safe, but part of being an adult is stepping up to those risks, enjoying the benefits when they pay off, and accepting the consequences when they don't.
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I think it was very smart of you to wait until you were ready, Not many people really do these days. However about the pregnancy birth control and a condom is about as safe as you are going to get. Yes, Anything is possible but if you use a condom properly and take your birth control like you are supposed too then you should be fine. Remember, Only go through with it if you are truly ready.
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If you still have reservations, wait. This is something you want to do when you are 100% ready, and not a moment before. It sounds like you have an amazing relationship, so wait until you are ready.
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