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im thirteen and had sex
Im a female and only thirteen but has had sex for the first time with someone i thought i really liked and i thought he really liked me back. But like after we did he told everybody lies and stuff like saying I was gonna cry and stuff. I will admit it hurt really really badly but i wasn't gonna cry. Also he broke up with me and now it feels like i have the weight of the world on my shoulders because i know he is gonna tell everybody but i feel really guilty because of my mom and i wanna tell her but shes all i have and I dont wanna hurt her. So should I tell her? and if i do how can I?
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You should tell her. She's your mother and she loves you unconditionally. Yeah, she may be disappointed at first, but she'll learn to cope and she'll be able to take care of you. She will be able to help you get over this pain and cope with what happened. You should tell her.
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I don't think you should tell her yeahh she might be all you have but She's your mom and for now She's gonna look at you as her little baby because you're so young take it from experience don't tell her...
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Yes, do tell your mom. She's been there, done that and has experience in the world that you don't have. She probably wants nothing more than to help you.
Try telling her by letting her know first that you're really hurting and you need her. Then let her know what happened.
She may or may not react poorly, but try and keep things on topic by telling her you need her advice and comfort and help.
I'm sorry this happened. Not all boys are like this, but a lot of very young boys are. Next time try to wait till you feel like you're both in love, not like, and you truly trust him. Don't beat yourself up for having sex. Just try in the future to be more selective about who you share yourself with. Loving relationships tend to give you better results.
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yes you should tell her, but start off slow and tell her what happened at first make it sound like its his fault and in the end if its your fault at all let her know. but don't blame yourself because things happen like that alot and from the story i'm hearing that guys a jerk. i hope that you used a condom because that kind of guy sounds like he does that alot. i really want to help you more and your welcome to email me at lisejose_advicenators@yahoo.com
don't be afraid to ask me anything and i hope everything goes great with your mom. i know your afraid of telling her but she will be happy that you told her. just be careful of the next time because you'll never know. please email me.
-lisejose
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You can't trust young guys, especially in that aspect. You should tell your mom. Just tell her what happend, and tell her you THOUGHT you could trust him..but obviously that was a mistake. Your mom may be mad..but as the other person said, she'll be happy you can talk to her about these things. It's very important to talk to somebody. Just take this as a lesson. Don't trust young guys, he's obviously a jerk who has low self-esteem and has to tell everyone lies about you to make himself feel better. Many guys who are young tend to tell girls lies just to get in to their pants. I've seen it happen soo many times. Next time when you're in a relationship, get to know the person for a little while to make sure he's the right one, and when YOUR ready you can do whatever you want. Don't settle for less! Just make sure you choose the right type of guys and you'll be okay :)
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I'm not going to scold you for having sex mainly because what's done is done, but next time you should try not to be so trusting. People will tell you what you wanna hear to get what they want, and it's easy to fall for it when all you want is to be liked.
I would tell your mother. While it probably will hurt her to find out her daughter has lost her virginity to someone who doesn't care much for her, she'll be happy you trusted her enough to speak with her. Tell her. She's your mother and deserves to know. She loves you.
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You should speak to your mother and explain to her the situation. If she is all you have (and you are all she has) then I'm sure that above all that open line of communication and trust will be appreciated. I'm sure she will always listen to what you have to say. It's easier said than done, but make sure that when you bring it up you have her attention and let her know that it is important. Hope that helped and good luck.
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well first of all, use this as a lesson to not trust everyone that comes around. boys arent gonna stay there forever. & you should write everything in a notebook & give it to your mom for her to read
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