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Im a female and only thirteen but has had sex for the first time with someone i thought i really liked and i thought he really liked me back. But like after we did he told everybody lies and stuff like saying I was gonna cry and stuff. I will admit it hurt really really badly but i wasn't gonna cry. Also he broke up with me and now it feels like i have the weight of the world on my shoulders because i know he is gonna tell everybody but i feel really guilty because of my mom and i wanna tell her but shes all i have and I dont wanna hurt her. So should I tell her? and if i do how can I? (link)
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well first of all, use this as a lesson to not trust everyone that comes around. boys arent gonna stay there forever. & you should write everything in a notebook & give it to your mom for her to read
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ive heard that trust, communication, and love are 3 things you need in order to have a healthy relationship. we trust eachother, we communicate(most of the time, its mostly me communicating. but he does, sometimes, when somethings really bugging him), and we're totally head over heals for eachother, as far as i know. and yet, we're still having problems! we get in fights every other day and end up not talking for a few days, and im so sick of being stressed out by all this,
how can i fix this? any advice? (link)
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you should try to look at things in each others shoes & definately make some changes in the structure of your relationshipp
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so i have a boyfriend and he is 19, i am 16. however, i turn 17 in august and he turns 20 in october. we are really involved mentally and somewhat physically. i want to take it farther but he always asks me many times if its okay and i understand where he's coming from because it's technically illegal...But when i'm 17 do you think that he will change and alls he'll want is sex? he's pretty respectful right now but people change and things go wrong and everything so i dont really know what to expect...I guess i have to wait and see but does anyone know anyone else like this? & do you think he'll just want sex after i turn 17?
thanks in advance. (link)
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it all depends on how often he asks you. if you catch him asking you often, then he just wants your body. & remember, he cant force you into it. if he says you gotta have sex with him...dont be afraid to leave the guy cuz hes not worth it
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ok this girl is my friend, on of my good friends and we went out twice but each time we do she leaves me for her ex. But i don't know what to do. the first time we just went back to being friends and things even though it ended badly with all this complication and stuff but i forgave her and it wasnt her fault and whatever. but this time she promised me it wouldn happen etc. but it did. so i feel kind of like an idiot. so i dont know should i just forgive her agian because i want to, like shes my friend,or atleast supposed to be but a part of me thinks well why should i be there as a friend for her after all this.Kind of like well why should she get the benefit of my friendship kind of thing....if that makes any sense. what do you guys think?
thanks (link)
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i think you should stop going after her. shes just messing with you & playing you like a lost puppy. stay her friend, but nothing more
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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youre 15. youre still young. & hes a senior thats already graduated. im sorry, but you got to let go. hes moving upp to college or to a new path, do you really wanna tag along? he needs a new life away from high school. he needs to meet new people. you both do. youre 15; hes not the last guy you were going to be with. youre going to have plenty time to experience REAL love. & its not worth wanting to kill yourself over...no guy is.
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15/f
ok so my best guy friend and i have been really close since about 8th grade when we dated for like 7 months and we dated again freshman year for a while too. basically, and although i didnt know it at the time, he was the best thing to happen to me. ever. and both times i was the one that broke up with him. but hes pretty much been in love with me ever since 8th grade and ever since we've just been friends has not given up bugging me to go out with him again, and each time i say no because i just want to be friends, which i do. but the thing is, im in love with him too. i always have and always will be and ive told him before but i dont think he believes me.
anyways, ive had at least 3 boyfriends since the last time i dated him, and each time has killed him i can tell and it kills me because i care about him so much and yet he always sticks around. i have a boyfriend again now, but this time is different. before me and my boyfriend started dating, my friend was horrible to me and would give him death stares and all that stuff and bitch at me for talking to my soon to be boyfriend and w/e. so we started dating and then me and my friend just kinda grew apart it seemed, like he accepted that i had a boyfriend and just stopped talking to me basically and since i was extremely into my new relationship, i didnt really care. but now, im having doubts about my boyfriend (who is like head over heels in love with me and says he wants to marry me, which kinda bothers me because i dont really feel the same way) and ive started talking a lot with my best friend again and ive realized once again that i cant live without him and i never want to lose him, although im terrified that hes moved on and doesnt care for me like he used to. so my question is, what should i do? what should i do about my current boyfriend, and what should i do about my never ending feelings for my best friend, who i always want to be with?
thanks
and sorry if its confusing /: (link)
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i think you should end it with your current boyfriend because it sounds to me like youre not all that into himm. & i wouldnt go for your best friend aggain. youre 15...you still have barely reached high school. you need to realize that youre gonna have tons of other guys. & youve ended it with your best friend. dont you think it isnt fair that youre playing games with him like this? i think you should keep it as just best friends only & see where it leads..
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me and my ex are going to prom this friday. we broke up about 2 weeks ago but he says he still wants me in his life, but his feelings changed...he said that he was debating whether or not they actually did since the day right before we broke up we had this really romantic date that went so well, which he said was just "in denial" or "thinking the other way".. is there any chances we'll get back together after prom? is prom really magical? does anyone have any experiences where they fell back in love after prom? or just were friends before prom then went together and fell in love? thanks so much. (link)
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its extremely hard to have a relationship work after its ended. i think you should just accept the fact that you two are friends now...& count your blessings because not many old couples can still remain friends. & i doubt youd wanna wreck that with another love tryout.
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he is a freshman, im a sophomore. ever since the last time we saw eachother at our friends' house he has slowly been asking for sexual things from me. [these questions came gradually.] NOW he thinks were having sex. [i never said no, but i refuse to.] in the begining i said, i dont know about that i dont think thats gonna happen sorry [i would never want to have sex now anyways] and he would just say ugh grr fine. but now, he is completely convinced that we are going to do it. its starting to scare me. alright, you may think im crazy, and maybe i am. but the only reason i have been putting up with his shit is because i want to see him. i dont know why, but i just really want to see him. although, he treats me like a hoe and only talks to me when he feels like it. but im hoping he'll be himself when i see him. anyways, friday night i was over my friends house on her laptop in her kitchen while she was somehwere else. he IMed me and asked me to send a naked pic and i said im at my friends sorry [i wouldnt do it anyway] and then he said, wow. oh my god were havin sex just send it. [by the way we arent. he just thinks we are. im just too afraid to tell him no] and then he was just being really cruel to me and demanding. he said, ugh you wouldnt send it even if you werent at your friends house, your just like that. i want it damnit.
and then i started shaking and getting scared because i didnt know what to say and i didnt want him to get angry. then he said, ugh do you want my dick or not, hoe. and i said, yo dont call me a hoe.. and he said, then send a pic later. so then i just said i dont know..and he said, fine im fucking your vag then. and i said, do i have to..? and he said, im gonna fuck your vag now. i dont care ill bring a condom.
..thats so scary. he sounds like he wants to rape me. even at one point in our conversation a few days ago he said something like, "im gonna pin you against the wall and fuck you so hard your gonna cry" i told him that sounds like rape. because it does. i am kind of scared of him in a way..look at this conversation..[i changed the names]
matt: your my sex slave
me: whatt.
matt:
you mess up in sex ill slap you in the face wit my cock\
me:
what the fuck
are you being serious
matt:
only if you get naughty (:
me:
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matt:
suck it till i jizz down your throat
me:
you dont really think of me as your sex slave do you
matt:
no
but im gonna slap you wit my cock
me:
why..?
matt:
cuz then youll suck it
me:
ill do whatever i want
matt:
youll do what i tell you to do
me:
someones being demanding
matt:
i dont care
i cant believe he thinks im his "sex slave" that hurts. and makes me feel like im a nobody and he is using me and getting everything out of it and probobly telling all of his friends and then what am i left with? nothing. whenever i think about the things he says to me, i get this weird stomache feeling, not a good one. and im really scared because yesterday he said to me, im going to their housr tonight. i want your ass, go tonight. and i said, should i ask if i can go..and he said, nah its ok. just go march 28. and i said okay, do you not want me to go tonight or something? and he said, i dont care, but im fucking your vag without a condom so..
first of all when did i ever agree to that. but i dont wanna say no because then he wont go to their house on march 28. he even said, i wont be busy if i get to fuck you. I DONT WANT TO! I WONT LET HIM. all i want to do is hookup. i dont want to have sex with him, never. ever. but i cant tell him that..and then when were at their house, after they all go to sleep, he wants to go on the other side of their basement and do it. but i feel like..hes gonna be really mad if i tell him while hes about to do it to me..hes gonna be so pissed. and i dont want him to slap me. i want to see him though..i dont know why. what is wrong with me. im starting to scare myself
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its 100% okay for you to be scared, but listen to yourself. youre just talking to him cuz you wanna hookupp. you need to end this all. he can do serious damamge to you physicallly & emotionallly. block him. block his number. block his email...everything. you may think he's really cute, but is he cute enough to let yourself be all his? no. no one is that cute. you need to step away from this guy & focus on yorself
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Hi all, I want to first say thankyou so much for reading this, and I'd just like to hear your opinions, personal experiences, etc. I know this may be a little awkward, so sorry! I'm usually not this open about my personal life but I need advice and words of other people.
Okay, I'm 16/f and my boyfriend is 15/m. We are in the same grade and have been happily dating for 7 months.
Well, recently my boyfriend has been getting a little frisky when we're together. However, I have yet to expose myself to him because of some feeling I've been having:
A.) I feel like that when I do expose myself to him (removing my bra, etc..), I'll have lost a part of my innocence. I know that when he starts getting frisky, I tell him to wait, and he really respects that and says okay (we're both "goodie goodies", if you will lol) and I am so beyond thankful for that. But obviously I know that he won't wait forever, but I know that feeling of my losing innocence will still linger. I don't know why I feel this way, I mean, I care for him beyond belief, I'd risk my life to save his. I'm not ashamed of my body, I guess maybe it's because I'm afraid of what he'll think? I'm not sure, have any girls ever had this feeling before?
B.) I'm not IN love with him, or I don't believe I am, but I do love him as a person and a boyfriend and I know he likes me so much (I asked him how much he liked me and he responded "to the moon and back" so I took that as a very good sign), however, we still haven't told each other that we have love for one another. I really want him to say it, because I can't just fully unclothe myself to someone who doesn't feel the way I feel about them. I'm a pretty moral person, and that'd be 100% going againt what I believe. So what should I do to try and provoke him to say it? Should I ask him? I don't want him to say it if he doesn't mean it, but I just want to know before I do anything with him. He's a really really good kid, as am I, but this is our first real relationship and I just would like the aspects of other people.
Thank you soooo much in advance! This truly means a lot to me, so thank you for taking the time to read it :) (link)
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well first of all...you shouldnt feel awkward. this happens to most of us. but youre young. youre 16 & hes 15. & you two are in your 1st relationship. i dont think you should force him to say he loves you & i dont think he should get frisky either. makeout sessions are okay, but anything farther then that is going to follow you for the rest of your life. talk to your bf about it. tell him youre not comfortable. if he stops, perfect! if he doesnt, he isnt worth it. you want to do it when youre ready...not when hes ready. you two havent experienced love yet....dont you think itll be better when you wait for your love?
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I get really nervous when I have to do a presentation in the front of the class (like many other students). I'm in college now and my dread about oral presentations is still fullforce. I will practice forever, but when I get up there, I never say what I want to and end up looking stupid. I have a presentation coming up and we can have flashcards with us, but what can I do to keep myself calm? Sometimes I get so nervous I sweat and feel like I'm going to pass out. What are some tips people use? Any advice would be appreciated, especially if you have this problem too! (link)
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most of us freak out when standing in front of alotta people. you just need to remember, even if you look stupid...at least youll be getting a good grade. take a deep breath & stare at the back wall. half of the students are dozing off anyway
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15/f. i do volunteer work with friends on saturday. i met these 2 guys a few weeks ago(noah and matt-theyre good friends).they don't go to my school. when i first met them i was attracted to noah. we were flirting alot but he has a girlfriend. i saw them again this past saturday (3/14). matt & i were talking alot & flirting. he gave me his number and we were texting. long story short, i ended up telling him i was interested in him and noah. he asked me who i liked more and my friends convinced me to tell him i liked him more because noah has a gf. i completely regret telling him that now. we texted from about 9:30-1:30 that night. the conversation was kind of awkward and i can tell he doesnt trust me, i guess he has a reason not to though. meanwhile, noah and i started talking around 11:30. we stayed up until 3 IMing each other. he was dropping hints during the convo that would imply he's interested. he even told me he was confused with what he felt about me(because he has a gf). the convo flowed smoothly and wasnt awkward at all. i really like him but i feel bad now. matt is kind of clingy and he's always asking me questions about what i'm doing.i don't want to hurt him but its not fair to him if i tell him i like him when i like noah. what should i do? (link)
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i think you should come clean. tell matt that he's more of a friend & that youre doing this now before you really hurt him. he may be bummed, but try introducing him to one of your girl friends. a way to help losing a girl is to gain another one,
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hey im 15.f
i have 2 questions to ask in this.
so heres the story (and oh yea who ever answers ill rate high because i really need help)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about almost 2 weeks and those 2 weeks he fingered me. i gave me head and we had sex. alot of sex. my question is can i be any chance pragnet since we didnt use a condom the very first time and we were in he shower and he felt like he was gonna cum so he pulled out and waited a little and then we went agian. but he never came. that same day we used condoms but we had sex twice after the shower incident. then i came over agian yesterday and we had sex twice again but with a condom he came but we had a condom and everything was fine. but im just worried that what if i am pragnet and if there is a chance i can be.. because since the first time in the shower my mood changed and i got a small pain like all the way in mmy lower stomach by my vigina. im really scared and i dont know what to do im going to wait ffor my period to come but i dont know by then it might be to late.
another question is i regret having sex with him so much he says he likes me a lot but i feel like our relationship is moving wayyyyyyyy 2 fast and it old him that he said everything is fine and that he wont leave me because we had a thing in the past where i was dating my other boyfriend and he tried to convince me to break up with him so he must like me but idont what to do bout the sex ...and the moving fast
any help ill rate high thank u so much =] (link)
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yess you can get pregnant. you can also get a disease. this boy says he likes you, & he probably told you he's clean...but you should go to the doctor with him & make sure he is. guys lie to fulfill their desires sometimes.
on your second question, i think you should leave him. he isnt listening to you & hes not taking your needs seriously. hes putting himself before you. if you two really have sex this much, im sorry but he just wants your body. that sort of relationship usually isnt anything but physical. it may be hard, but know that youre doing the right thing.
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Do girls really play hard to get when they know that you are on to them or somewhat you like them?
I have this crush on a girl and we've been hanging out together. I haven't told her that I have feelings for her... but I think she already had a clue that I'm courting her or I'm in love with her or something. Do they get pissed off when you don't say that you're courting them or is she playing hard to get...thanks (link)
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every girl is different. maybe she feels like she wants to be the jeans in the relationship. whether or not she is playng hard to get, you should tell her how you feel & that you like her before she finds someone else
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