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a little scared..but why do i still want to see him
he is a freshman, im a sophomore. ever since the last time we saw eachother at our friends' house he has slowly been asking for sexual things from me. [these questions came gradually.] NOW he thinks were having sex. [i never said no, but i refuse to.] in the begining i said, i dont know about that i dont think thats gonna happen sorry [i would never want to have sex now anyways] and he would just say ugh grr fine. but now, he is completely convinced that we are going to do it. its starting to scare me. alright, you may think im crazy, and maybe i am. but the only reason i have been putting up with his shit is because i want to see him. i dont know why, but i just really want to see him. although, he treats me like a hoe and only talks to me when he feels like it. but im hoping he'll be himself when i see him. anyways, friday night i was over my friends house on her laptop in her kitchen while she was somehwere else. he IMed me and asked me to send a naked pic and i said im at my friends sorry [i wouldnt do it anyway] and then he said, wow. oh my god were havin sex just send it. [by the way we arent. he just thinks we are. im just too afraid to tell him no] and then he was just being really cruel to me and demanding. he said, ugh you wouldnt send it even if you werent at your friends house, your just like that. i want it damnit.
and then i started shaking and getting scared because i didnt know what to say and i didnt want him to get angry. then he said, ugh do you want my dick or not, hoe. and i said, yo dont call me a hoe.. and he said, then send a pic later. so then i just said i dont know..and he said, fine im fucking your vag then. and i said, do i have to..? and he said, im gonna fuck your vag now. i dont care ill bring a condom.
..thats so scary. he sounds like he wants to rape me. even at one point in our conversation a few days ago he said something like, "im gonna pin you against the wall and fuck you so hard your gonna cry" i told him that sounds like rape. because it does. i am kind of scared of him in a way..look at this conversation..[i changed the names]
matt: your my sex slave
me: whatt.
matt:
you mess up in sex ill slap you in the face wit my cock\
me:
what the fuck
are you being serious
matt:
only if you get naughty (:
me:
...
matt:
suck it till i jizz down your throat
me:
you dont really think of me as your sex slave do you
matt:
no
but im gonna slap you wit my cock
me:
why..?
matt:
cuz then youll suck it
me:
ill do whatever i want
matt:
youll do what i tell you to do
me:
someones being demanding
matt:
i dont care
i cant believe he thinks im his "sex slave" that hurts. and makes me feel like im a nobody and he is using me and getting everything out of it and probobly telling all of his friends and then what am i left with? nothing. whenever i think about the things he says to me, i get this weird stomache feeling, not a good one. and im really scared because yesterday he said to me, im going to their housr tonight. i want your ass, go tonight. and i said, should i ask if i can go..and he said, nah its ok. just go march 28. and i said okay, do you not want me to go tonight or something? and he said, i dont care, but im fucking your vag without a condom so..
first of all when did i ever agree to that. but i dont wanna say no because then he wont go to their house on march 28. he even said, i wont be busy if i get to fuck you. I DONT WANT TO! I WONT LET HIM. all i want to do is hookup. i dont want to have sex with him, never. ever. but i cant tell him that..and then when were at their house, after they all go to sleep, he wants to go on the other side of their basement and do it. but i feel like..hes gonna be really mad if i tell him while hes about to do it to me..hes gonna be so pissed. and i dont want him to slap me. i want to see him though..i dont know why. what is wrong with me. im starting to scare myself
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I have a few questions...
1) He's a freshman...He thinks he's big....but still, he's a freshman. The way he expresses himself sucks. "I wanna fu*k your vag." What the hell is that? He sounds like a loser.
2) He only wants you for sex...and you said so, basically. So, if you're not planning on doing this with him, why does he think you're his "sex slave"? If he assumed this, something's wrong with him. Is he delusional or something? Does he really think you want him?
3) I bet that he'll be one of those men who abuses his wife/girlfriend. I'd suggest you get away from him. I'm assuming he's not hot & he knows it because, otherwise, he shouldn't feel the need to say he'll slap you with his cock. If he was real hot, (hot enough for you to want to be his sex slave), then he really wouldn't have to make you.
4) This redefines the whole idea of guys being perverted & only wanting you for sex. If he says "Oh you wouldnt send me a pix because your just like that," then why does he think you'd have sex with him?
5) You really don't need to be afraid of making him mad...just don't do it if it's only you & him at someone's house. Again, he's a freshman...I don't see him harming you with punches. But if you're smaller or the same size as him, then he can pin you against the wall easily. Be careful, but by all means, do NOT submit to him. Do not appear to be threatened by his "rage."
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Are you kidding?
You are NOT crazy, he is the most diguisting creature ever.
Dude DO NOT let him talk to you like that, and why the hell are you talking to him right now?
DO NOT be scared, he can't do anything to you or let you do something you don't want to do.
You better stand up for youself, because he will think of you as a weak girl.
And the only reason why he thinks you want to have sex with him, it's because you don't stand up for youself.
You need to send him a message and tell him something like "I'm not going to ever get naked in front of you or give you my virginty, If you ever thread me again by slapping me or raping me, consider the cops already knew about it and you better stay away from me"
He doesn't ever deserve a minute of your time, don't be weak don't ever let a guy talk to you like that, and don't ever feel hurt for a guy like him.
If a guy ever talked to ME like that, he would consider himself dead.
You should forget about him. Get out there and find yourself a sweet, nice, caring, hot boyfriend.
Good Luck =]=]
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i know you want to see him probably because you just want to hook-up. honestly, this kid sounds like the biggest asshole i've ever heard of. if you don't stand up for yourself and flat out tell him NO IM NOT HAVING SEX WITH YOU, things will just get worse. don't care what he thinks and don't care if he gets angry, if he does then he's an even bigger asshole then i thought...and besides if you don't flat out tell him "NO" and you end up having sex, its not rape no matter what he does to you because you didn't say "no" or "stop".....there are sooo many nice guys out there to hook up with that won't treat you as a "sex slave" or a hoe or any of that crap. get rid of him and find someone that treats you right.
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its 100% okay for you to be scared, but listen to yourself. youre just talking to him cuz you wanna hookupp. you need to end this all. he can do serious damamge to you physicallly & emotionallly. block him. block his number. block his email...everything. you may think he's really cute, but is he cute enough to let yourself be all his? no. no one is that cute. you need to step away from this guy & focus on yorself
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EDIT: after reading your feedback comment, I have a little more advice. If you do meet up with him, I don't recommend you do anything sexual. I know you want to, but this will turn him on and it might lead up to something. Or he'll keep pushing you to do it with him. Either way, you probably won't be happy. It's your choice, but if you really want this guy to actually start respecting you, you should lay down the law early :)
Ok, it sounds to me like this guy is either jacking off when he texts you and uses your responses to incorporate into his weird horny fantasy world, or he is seriously dangerous. In either case, I'd suggest you start avoiding him. He thinks of you as weak right now, that's why he feels he has the right to talk to you like that. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him no. You're right, he probably would be pissed if you told him no right before you guys were about to have sex. In which case, I don't know the guy so I don't really know what he would do if he got angry, so I'd say you need to avoid that situation completly. Just stop messaging him. Better yet, the next time he says anything perverted, just tell him "You're creepy so leave me the fuck alone or I'm calling the police". You have the right to do that you know. This is sexual harassment and that's against the law. I know how you feel when you say you just want to see him. You're probably just attracted to the "bad boys" or something. But guess what? There are other fish in the sea. And as overused as that phrase is, it's true. There's a guy out there who's nice and sweet and will love you for you and will wait to have sex when you're ready. Just always remember, you don't need a guy to make you happy. This guy's obviously just a jerk looking for some ass and you're his target. I know it's tough, but you just have to let him go. If you can't stand up to him yourself, bring your friends into it. Tell them how freaked you are and they will probably stand up for you. If there's anything a guy will back down against, it's a group of pissed off girls haha. Trust me honey, you deserve a lot better, and if this jerk knows how to make you feel happy when you see him, you can bet your bottom dollar that another guy who's not a jerk can make you feel ten times that happiness. Just stop texting him, tell him to stop harassing you, and, if he gets sad and wants you back, demand an apology, at the least. Never allow a guy to treat you like this. Just tell him "i'm not going to have sex with you, and if you keep saying stuff that creeps me out, I'm going to call the police and report you for sexual harassment". I really hope you can find this strength to over come this fear you have of him and no let him control you, but the decision is yours. Goodluck!!!
Jessica 15/f
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