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15/f. i do volunteer work with friends on saturday. i met these 2 guys a few weeks ago(noah and matt-theyre good friends).they don't go to my school. when i first met them i was attracted to noah. we were flirting alot but he has a girlfriend. i saw them again this past saturday (3/14). matt & i were talking alot & flirting. he gave me his number and we were texting. long story short, i ended up telling him i was interested in him and noah. he asked me who i liked more and my friends convinced me to tell him i liked him more because noah has a gf. i completely regret telling him that now. we texted from about 9:30-1:30 that night. the conversation was kind of awkward and i can tell he doesnt trust me, i guess he has a reason not to though. meanwhile, noah and i started talking around 11:30. we stayed up until 3 IMing each other. he was dropping hints during the convo that would imply he's interested. he even told me he was confused with what he felt about me(because he has a gf). the convo flowed smoothly and wasnt awkward at all. i really like him but i feel bad now. matt is kind of clingy and he's always asking me questions about what i'm doing.i don't want to hurt him but its not fair to him if i tell him i like him when i like noah. what should i do?
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first off, you should tell matt that you do like him but you don't know if you think you could imagine yourself in a realationship with him. avoid bringing up noah because that will hurt him. just make sure you don't go out with noah too soon. also you need to tell noah that you really like him but if he has no intentions and just wants to stay with his girlfriend then he should tell you now because you don't want to end up getting hurt.
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You don't want to keep leading him on, it'll hurt him even more.
Just tell him the truth as soon as you can and be careful on how you say it.
I'd get a bit upset if I told I was just picked because I was single and the other person wasn't.
It might be better to just say you feel bad but it turns out you have stronger feelings for the other guy.
Something of that sort.
And I also don't think you should keep talking with Noah. It just doesn't seem very fair to his girlfriend. Give him time and if it turns out he likes you, go for it.
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i think you should come clean. tell matt that he's more of a friend & that youre doing this now before you really hurt him. he may be bummed, but try introducing him to one of your girl friends. a way to help losing a girl is to gain another one,
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