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secrets to a great relationship...?
ive heard that trust, communication, and love are 3 things you need in order to have a healthy relationship. we trust eachother, we communicate(most of the time, its mostly me communicating. but he does, sometimes, when somethings really bugging him), and we're totally head over heals for eachother, as far as i know. and yet, we're still having problems! we get in fights every other day and end up not talking for a few days, and im so sick of being stressed out by all this,
how can i fix this? any advice?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Love is something you have to work at. You will have fights. Fighting is just another thing that comes in a relationship. If you truly love each other, you guys will still love each other after the fight. Don't let fighting ruin a good relationship.
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Try to focus more on being best friends than being boyfriend and girlfriend for a bit. I could go into details (please message me if you would like me to). I'll keep it short here.
While you were right that trust, communication, and love are three essentials for a healthy relationship, you must realize that they are not the only things. Relying on just these three entities will not guarantee you a stress-free relationship. Far from it, and as it seems it is now, you will end up struggling trying to balance and make up for other aspects of your relationship and friendship that are not in harmony.
Try to relax a bit with each other. Learn to give and learn to take. If you guys hit bumps, then that is totally natural. Don't get too upset about it, but make sure you at least make an effort to go back and talk about or fix them every once in a while, because it doesn't have to be right there at that moment.
So you guys argue over something? You didn't like his tone? How upset his choice of words made you? Well those are things that you can approach him about, but let him know that it is a two way street and there may be things he did not like about it either. It isn't a time for either of you to be defensive about it at all, so try hard to let him know that and keep yourself away from being defensive, or offensive for that matter.
Learn to listen to each other without the fear that it will cause damage. As long as you make that effort to just get along as friends and best friends, the rest will fall into place. Hope that helped and good luck.
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you should try to look at things in each others shoes & definately make some changes in the structure of your relationshipp
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