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Summer Job=Hell
I'm 17/f going into senior year, and really, really stressed, embarassed, sad, disappointed, intimidated, and scared to death. This summer I took on this job that is only 3 days a week but enough to make me go crazy. So, my boss is this crazy, compulsive foreign woman (not that that matters, just giving you a picture). I am absolutely scared to death of her. The jobis at an office and it involves a lot of paperwork. If you make one minor mistake, she'll scream at you, and I mean really scream. Sometimes, I tend to be a very nervous person. I get really jumpy and I'm not very good at working when I'm nervous or under pressure. Things also get to me really easily and I get upset. Lately, I've been very, VERY careful at work to not make even the most minute mistake. The past few times at work, though, she's screamed at me. She's done it in front of my other co-workers who are also around my age. They don't get yelled at because they've been working for a while and are used to the job. And I've really, really been trying. Omg it's soooo soooo embarassing. When I can sense she's about to erupt, I get this terrified hot feeling inside my gut. When she's done yelling at me, I wanna crawl into a ball and die. I always feel like the stupidest person in the world when I'm there and I know the co-workers think I am too. I feel like I'm "that person" who always gets yelled at and I don't want to be. It lowers my self-esteem tenfold. And then afterwards, when I'm sitting at home trying to enjoy my summer, I start thinking about it and it depresses me. Thinking about the place and that woman just scares me to death sometimes. Imagine having extreme embrassment, disappointment, low-self esteem, and fear all rolled into one. I cannot quit because my parents are making me work this summer. I'm trying to find another job but I've been applying to a lot of places and jobs are really hard to get now, i don't think I'll find anything. And plus, I don't wanna just give up. And if you're thinking I should talk to the woman about how I feel, it's out of the question. I'd get fired, she has no sensitivity whatsoever and I would be too scared anyway. Should I be so upset by this? Do you think I'm just overreacting? This is another story but lately, things I would normally just be nervous or anxious about are almost terrifying me. This job is making it worse. I used to be really excited about growing up and going into the real world but now I'm getting pretty scared. I was watching my baby videos the other day and just burst into tears at the fact that I had such a loving, carefree life back then and now it's just the opposite and I can never go back to that again. But, anyway sorry to go kind of off topic. Just please tell me something, anything to make me cheer up. I need it. Thank you
-Jess
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Well ... I don't think you won't find a better job, just keep looking eventually you'll find a better job, or another job.
I think you should confront your boss because she seems like a bitch and obviously giving you some hard time... And i don't think that's right or healthy because how are you going to get any work done if she's going to yell not teach you.
This kind of women don't need some sensitive weak girl to tell her about her feelings, No, she needs a girl to tell her she's wrong and if you get fired don't worry you'll get another job. And if you get a job like an adult, you have to act like an adult and that involves, your parents can't tell you what to do.
I mean the world isn't out of jobs and yes you should be upset but also yes you are overreacting. This shouldn't get to you that much, like you said she doesn't yell at other co-workers because they got used to the work, maybe if you worked harder you'll get used to it and stop stressing yourself.
If you can't do it then quit and find another job.
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I would continue the job search. Find a job to replace the one you have. I too have had a boss that yells a lot over everything. sometimes it made me explode right in front of her face. Bosses don't really have a right to scream at you continuously. If your boss has a boss, try talking to him/her about the situation or talk to your parents and they could tell her off. Or, ask your co-workers what they did when they first got the job. they could help you get through the summer. Good luck.
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Even though your boss would fire you if you spoke to her on how you feel, you have a right to your opinion and have a right to tell her how you feel. If you tell her how you feel and you get fired, you can go online to unemployement and file a claim for wrongful termination of job.
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I don't think you are overreacting. If this was me I would give two weeks notice and quit. You don't need to be this stressed out when you are still in high school. Don't panic about being a senior and going out into the real world, everyone feels like this during their senior year. I know I felt the same way when I was a senior.
In fact if you were older she probably would not treat you this way.Are all the empolyees high school kids or are some adults? If there are adults does she treat them like that too? Out in the "real world" as you put it bosses treat you with the respect you deserve so don't panic about getting a job in the future, just because you had a bad experience.
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You should stand up for yourself in any situation where someone else makes you this uncomfortable. It would be best for you to talk to her. I know you said that talking to her is not an option because she would fire you, but she cannot legally do that. If she does, you can tell your parents and the three of you can talk to her boss.
When you talk to her, let her know first and foremost that you are uncomfortable in your work environment. Let her know that you are trying very hard, and that you do not take well to hateful critisism. Kindly suggest that maybe when she gets the chance, the two of you could review everything the job entails so she can help you with what you have been doing wrong. Try to understand that she is the manager, and if you mess up, then she messes up. If you are working in a stressful work place, just remember that what she is experiencing is probably worse.
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